Moving on can be a distraction; don’t move.

Moving forward is always a great choice and great realization to life, it’s like we are living under the hurt chapter toward the ending of happily ever after. There some time the value of moving forward is somehow just, and for some, it’s precious as a gold bar.

I have been watching “Superman and Lois” not realizing I had to create my article too so at least my day becomes somehow productive with a cost. Then I was paused in the scene where Superman argued with his mother, it’s all about helping others with his powers. Then comes the story where his dad died, when young Superman with his father he doesn’t want that he uses his ability, he wanted to be a normal teenager. But the loss of his loved one he realized something that he has the reason why he was sent to earth.

Moving on can be just a distraction; sometimes to heal you must sit with the feeling. That was the line of his Mother when young superman argued that he must fulfil his father last line, and that is to help those in need. Then something pomp in my mind, that result in writing here.

Somehow we say that moving on is the healing, but are this real? Is really the moving up is the reason why we healed? Or there is something more? That’s come to my mind. Looking for an answer that at least justifies Superman Mother, not me, because I believed in moving on was healing-on.

MOVING ON CAN BE JUST A DISTRACTION,

Somehow it's real, some people are too much distracted with moving on that they wanted to just stay in their room for the entire day, some are forgotten that they had works to attends, kids to feed, activities, chores and life. They have been attached drowning from deep feelings.

•  Distraction To Work. You were heartbroken and becomes the reason for losing your jobs because somehow you think that you can’t manage. Imagine the opportunities that await you or the promotion of your work that was cancelled because you were unattained to do the task for the company, it becomes your distractions.

• Distraction To School. I was a student before so I know how people are intensely looking for the cancellation of their future because they were moving on from their relationship. Some student is really emotional that they can’t perform the reviewing nights for they think they were distracted, some say their boyfriend and girlfriends were their inspiration for school and now becomes their expiration when broke, it becomes a distraction and some ended up losing the diploma.

• Distraction To Family. Well in the reality, moving on from the hurtful break-up could break some hearts too, Imagine you were moving on and it becomes the reason to ignored your child if you were a parent because you think you were hurt you will stay in bed the whole day, not realizing some small child are waiting for their foods, laundry and more. You forget that you were healing yet some or two child is being punished with that. Some parent also abandoning their child because they say they really need to move on, it’s absurd.

• Distraction To Healthy Living. Some people forget to eat or stay with something in their stomach. Or just the alcohol and beer become the life support of men who were really broke, they forget to heal their body while thinking of healing their hearts. This is somehow funny to think or just imagination to some but it really happened in reality.

• Distraction To Life. This covers all the mentioned thing, people are forgettable that to heal their heart they must live happily, have some fresh air not blaming yourself in the four-sided room, travel if you can, met some friends and be with them not with alcohol but to reminisce the moment before, how happy life was.

SOMETIMES TO HEAL YOU MUST SIT WITH THE FEELING

This is what we forgot and for me the main source of healing with the cost. Imagine someone dumps you and you can’t focus on work ended up losing the job, or being fired instead of telling yourself to stays on the corner to just move-on why not use your time and attention to work so you will forget the hurtful sound. Then the healing and success come two in once, maybe that’s the point for superman mother when she says those things to him.

Instead of being down, why not just focused on the child and make him or her the reason for you to healing because, in the end, the child will love you eternal even your partner didn’t get the idea. Rather than losing your partner, ignoring your child might result in losing another one you loved then comes next to your own.

This is the main net, moving on is just a distraction, play with it, endure the pain but don’t let the pain just stays in you, be active in something worth than before, then we will find the real essence and the great idea of moving on, moving forward with no distracting things in our life.

NOTE: My article will only focus on my personal thought, I don’t say you will follow or believed the same thought I had, we are all rational and had own beliefs and thinking when it comes to moving on, thank you for reading.