10/02/21
There are some goals you can't just achieve, no matter how hard you tried. It makes you feel miserable. Then you even have the tendency to look at others; seeing them progress far better than you do even upsets you more. Why is it that we can't always get what we want?
Have you experienced setting some goals? And you are sure those are pretty realistic and possible, because you know that you'll work hard for it, anyway. You've also planned out the things you should do to achieve those goals as soon as possible. However, at the end of every deadlines, you can't see any goal materialized. You did not reach some or all of your goals. You then look back and squeeze your mind identifying where you did wrong, finding nothing.
The truth is, not all goals are meant to be achieved as you planned. It's life. It's like a blueprint of life to always create situations you could not predict—instances that would make odds not be in your favor. Even you have seen and analyzed possible problems, there are just hindrances that will come your way unexpectedly.
The first sentence in the paragraph above holds true, but it does not end there. It does not mean that you can never achieve the goal absolutely. Instead of dwelling on the frustrations of your failure, I suggest you to accept the temporary defeat, move forward, and learn from the experience. Keep moving towards the same goal, if the desire is still there. Now, the fire will be stronger if you think of these setbacks as opportunities to grow.
Personally, I set some goals in my blogging journey. They are not really specific though, nor clear, and I did not keep these goals into mind. The simple mind objectives to earn a set amount for a period for example, or the plans on contents to posts, strategies for efficient stay in the platforms. I had many ideas, but I did not even organize these properly. The month has ended, and I am not fully satisfied with the results of my progress. Looking back at those tentative numbers I set in my imagination, I concluded that most of these desired results did not happen. I did not do a bad job, but I can't also say I did an excellent job. I made sure to do my best in writing alone, but in other areas, I slacked off.
Speaking of these experiences, it made me realize two things:
(1) That I may have set goals, but I did not work hard enough to materialize those, or
(2) I may have not set proper objectives at all.
I also love the idea of "just working hard, and not set goals so as to not disappoint one's self when those are not met." I have used this strategy, actually. But I discovered this does work, but NOT on everyone. I know some of the people that have this pronciple, and that it's effective for them. Sadly, it's not for me. While they need no goals because they are already working hard, I was pretty much the opposite. I also worked hard and did my best, but I have nothing to compare my progress with, so I become someone "contented with what I got", even I know I could have done more.
What am I saying? Generally, it is important to set goals, but choose what's best for you, because we have different ways to be more efficient.
I am not writing this to share some proven tips to achieve your goals, because, again, it depends on the person. But I want to tell you, that not achieving a goal is not a reason to be disheartened, nor to give up. Let the failure motivate you to work harder than before, and let the results just prove your efforts. More often than not, there is next time to everything. We have our own timelines. Reminding you of that again, in case you forgot, or no one has told you yet.
Being a blogger here for almost six months, I have seen different types of progress. (1) I have witnessed those who even joined later than me, but had way better progress. (2) There are also those who have been here earlier but hs not achieved that much yet. (3) And we also have those who unexpectedly rises to the top because he/she finally gets the recognition he/she deserves, and (4) those who went down instantly because of getting into the ladder through malicious ways. We are all different. I did not tell this to degrade those who may fall into any category above, but as an eye opener, that we have our own time to shine. It may happen tomorrow, or even now. Sometimes, it may occur next week, next month, or next year.
I am still out here, checking my goals I have set as early as April (almost six months ago), and realizing there are still more of them I am YET to achieve. For a few examples:
(1) Buying a phone with BCH;
(2) Buying a laptop with BCH; and
(3) Achieve 200 subscribers (this goal was set last May or June, I think).
Those are just FEW of the goals I set that haven't achieved yet. Who knows when I'll be able to achieve that? No one, not even me. Sure, I could go around encouraging everyone to go subscribe with me, but I can't control people. But, it still depends on them whether I could achieve this goal or not.
Stating that none of these goals are achieved yet, does it discourage me? No. Well, but did it used to? Yes. I used to be so critical of myself, which is a good thing in general, but bad when overdone. I used to compare my achievements with others, and make myself feel miserable.
Another thing I learned is this important lesson: The only thing you should compete with, is your past achievements. That is what I do now. Benchmarking is good, yes, but only when you know you have a reasonable basis that you can have the same level of progress as the one you're inspired of.
I look up to numerous authors here, especially those who've spent quite much time in this platform. Their ways inspire me in many ways. Their achievements motivate me. Do I feel jealous? Maybe, but in a good way. I use that bit of jealousy (or if there is a better word to fit this context, please tell me in the comment section, so I can edit this) to grind twice as much, or even more than that. You know that quote, "If they can do it, why can't I?"
Be assured that everyone, even the most successful author here, (whoever he/she is, tell me. I want to know his/her ways LOL) started from nothing, too. There is always a starting line in a race. Sure thing, there maybe cases that one has benefit or privilege that gives him/her the edge over the other, but that head start for them, is not everything. The rest, which is the most important, is you. Your efforts, your persistence, and your passion. You may not reach the finish line first, but is that really important? Doesn't just successfully going there matter more? Because you know, not everyone finishes the race.
There are some users here who are not active anymore. There are various reasons, one of which, surely, is because they gave up. They must have also set goals, buy just repeatedly failed to meet them. It must have discouraged them when they felt like their hardwork is not paying them enough, or less than they deserve.
At least, now you know that you ain't giving up. You're definitely pursuing your goals, right? Just be reminded of these principles, too:
(a.) That there are just goals you could not achieve, maybe because they weren't for you. For example, you wanted to be an author known for writing about crypto-currency, and you know you gave your 100—even 200% best, to achieve that. But it did not happen.
In one way or another, you may realize you're meant for something different. Maybe it's your main area to share to and inspire others through your personal experiences. You may have a similar situation with this example. Let me know if yes, and let's talk in the comment section.
(b.) That you kept on failing to achieve the goals because you are setting unrealistic ones. For instance, reaching a thousand subscribers within two weeks. Sure, why not? But you also have to think that it has a little chance to happen.
Showing that example, I suggest you to set smaller goals, and just upgrade them according to your own assessment of your own capabilities, and progress. I do this, and it works. It could be effective to you as well. Try it.
(c.) That you can't accomplish your goals because you are in the process of learning something. Maybe that goal happens not today, but next week, and by that time, you have been introduced to new wisdom you would not have gained should you have reached your goal earlier.
The three that I mentioned are just some of the reasons your goal has not been achieved yet. Whether to ditch that goal, adjust it, or wait more, it's up to you. Goals are not supposed to pressure us, or make us feel bad, nor encourage us to give up.
Goals are meant to motivate us, and give our lives direction. Knowing that we have milestones to achieve makes us more ignited to do our best, and unlock our potentials. Goals teach is to be better version of ourselves, improving our ways of handling things, and dealing with uncertainties and obstacles.
The goal of this article is to inspire you who reads it. I hope I was able to make you realize something important, or inspired you even in the"little-st way. Was I successful though? If yes, thank God, I am relieved. If not, okay. I will work harder to meet this goal next time.
Most of what I said here are based on my own experiences as a noob writer, and I genuinely hope I could be of help to you. I am also one to set my priorities straight, so I write this one to teach myself as well.
Do you have some remarkable goals this October that you're willing to share? Comment down below!
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Love this Michelle! Setting goals is a good way to go forward. Goals kind of make you see where you are at. And it's a fact, that we start somewhere and our progress may differ from another but it doesn't mean we are failing. We just have to move on our own pace and just keep going.