Bullies and their victims.

All the reasons you listed in form of questions are actually right, they are reasons to why people bully, take it from someone who was bullied as a kid I should know, plus I did a lot of digging into bullying and why people bully. I some what became a bully myself, but only on social media for a while a few years back, it wasn't intentional though. Bullying isn't all that common in this part of the world based on what I've seen and heard.

It's so sad that some kids are deficient in their thinking and choose to be bullies. Most children who bully others have deficient homes period! For me, I think that bullying other people is the way they express their anger to the world and they don't care about how others feel because they too are being neglected one way or another.

This is just my take though, I could be wrong.

I experienced to be bullied in school because of my feminine characteristics. When I was in highschool I also experienced to be bullied, one of my bullies hit me and since my health that time is not stable because of asthma I am hospitalized for two weeks. I stayed in intensive care unit for 1 week, I am frail that time.

I was once the bully back then, but now I can say that what I did in my elementary days was not good.. good thing I changed when I was in highschool..

I haven't got to know how the person bullying feels probably does for status or for fun in high school. I have been bullied when I got transferred in new school. It was a painful experience until and unless I raised my voice and hands the bullies didn't stopped. I had seen a similar case where one of guy in my old school was bullied a lot. I and two of my friends were his only friends. He was a hurted soul asking us, Why other always tease me? He was a bit slow on processing. But one time he completely went nuts on the bullies injuring them severely. Constant bullying can turn people into a monster if not taken care of early which I have experienced. I have some friends to support me. Or else I would have been grown differently when I changed schools.

I'm also concerned about incidents like this, to be honest when I was little I was bullied by other people who were stronger than me when I was in elementary school and often scared me so I couldn't be more creative due to pressure but over time God has helped me and changed everything and now I am concerned about the lives of those who have to suffer with the circumstances they are in, I also don't know if this is the retribution for what they have done. we just pray my friend that this action does not continue to be carried out.

From start, if you create a good relationship with your child, I believe he or she will be able to tell you things like that when they happen even though it is embarrassing, it is up to you to make them feel comfortable telling you anything at all.

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Children are most people that must be respected in the world.

That's why it is really important that parents take time to know whatever is happening at school. Their child maybe a a victim or a bully, but both need help and action.

I also bullied some students back then when I was in junior school but after that, I still go back to them and tell them it was all play cos I could see the fear in them and I couldn't take it, why should they be scared of me? All these I thought but it was all for fun for me and then I will tell them not to be afraid again. I was also bullied in secondary school but I take it as fun for me oooo, but it can be depressing for many and need to be avoided. Asking your children about school, and how their day went will allow them to speak at some point about what happened.

I am sorry for all the children who are victims of bullies, they usually become depressed and experience very bad feelings. The parents of bullies children should listen to them and find their problems, and make their children feel loved.

How would a parent know a child is being bullied in school, especially when the child keeps quiet and says nothing about it?

I wasn't able to give a proper response in the previous Article. But I do hope this one counts.

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That is one billion dollar question, Elle. One thing we must know is that Parents CANNOT read minds. They are humans after all, and they don't have a fault in that. Let me make reference to a movie I saw once. There lived a couple and their only daughter. The marriage had it's ups and downs. But, they tried their best to keep things going... Especially for their daughter. Whom on one hand had a certain outlook on life. The school she attended were filled with bullies. She became a victim, but her parents were completely in the dark as to whatever happened to her in school, because she was pretty good at keeping her issues hidden. After a while, her strength failed her - not because she was weak, but because she thought she could shoulder the burden alone (a common trait amongst kids, and teenagers) eventually she decided to take her life. Her parents were broken and distraught... They took action against the school, but beneath it all they felt a guilt of not doing enough for their daughter.

Parenting is a tasking job. This I have found. On this matter, I think that no matter how hard any parent tries to understand their child, they sometimes can't seem to. But what they CAN do is to let their kids know that whatever happens it is okay when they feel their strength isn't enough. Creating an atmosphere of communication and trust goes a long way, yes. However, you may soon realise that too is never enough at times. We cannot be sure of these kind of things, but maybe, just maybe the child sees that he/she has someone they can open up to... we can only pray.

P.S. I apologise for making this long. :)

Most children or most people are natural bullies and most of the times you will see that they learn it from one of or both their parents at home.

I also saw that news sis, and that was so heartbreaking. That's true that being bullied is not easy and sometimes it really lead someone to do unpleasant things that can push them to their limit or doing something bad because of being a victim of bullying. So as a parent we should listen to our child, and give them some advice.

Bullying should not be normalized as it can cause serious trauma to the victims.

Bullying is a menace and should be curbed. It has made a monster out of innocent children and yes, it can manifest in a child who has also been bullied and has no one to help him or her or fight for him or her. It can also be as a result of broken home or faulty home based on what that child has been exposed to. It can also manifest because of the need to make fun of others or feel superior because of size. It can go on and on...but it's not right. A lot of people hold that resentment in and it has messed them up big time.

It is very easy to detect a child is being bullied, first u need to notice his countenance when it comes to attending a particular event maybe school, church or party. If he feels reluctant to go, just know everything isn't fine and act quick. But some parents feel their children doesn't like studying, that's why they feel lazy going to school. No! No! No!!! They could be a bully hiding in school, making life uneasy for him.. So parents shouldn't ignore this little signs by their children.