A Very Big Mistake.

Good day everyone. I am sorry for not being active here for a while now. I have been so busy since last week but I am glad that I am done with what I am doing so I have enough time to spend with you all. I have learned a lot in life. I learned that whenever I am very happy I should not make temporary decisions likewise when I'm sad too. I have also done some crazy things but I am glad that it hasn't gotten worse. I want to share the story of my cousin. But before doing so, I will share what I did some time ago and I am glad that it did not affect me very much. I used to love a guy and I go to see him in a state very far from mine. It is more than nine hours journey. I love them so much and I prayed to marry him because he loved me too. I won't lie, we had s*x. A lot that I can't count. I had it in mind to keep any pregnancy that I have for him but I am glad that I didn't get pregnant for him. At some point, I got tired of him and I broke up with him. Honestly, he didn't stop loving me even now and we still talk sometimes whenever we just want to say hi to each other. If I had gotten pregnant for him I would have been a single mother by now because I stopped loving him.

Now let me share with you the story of my cousin. A few years back, my cousin was madly in love with a guy. I'm happy that she was in love and she posted him all the time even if I am not very cool with her posting up her relationship issues. During the pandemic, she realized that she was pregnant. I expected her to feel bad about the pregnancy because it will mess up a lot of things like education and all and it'll be hard for her to pick up again. But to my surprise, she was very cool with the pregnancy without thinking of all the things that she had in front of her. Her parents felt bad and I remember when I called my dad on phone and he was crying. The man felt very bad but my cousin didn't even feel bad about what is happening. The so-called boyfriend and his family came to my cousin's house to plead with her parents so that they won't get angry. When she gave birth, things were still going fine with her and her boyfriend and also the family of both parties. I was not wishing her bad but I knew that it was likely for her and her boyfriend to split up after some years because she was still very little at that time and I am sure she has not had experience with other relationships. She was eighteen by then. Can you see how little she was? At times we don't understand what we call love. A lot of us cannot handle and endurance is part of a relationship. So, people that cannot endure should not try to be in a relationship or expect themselves to last long with their partners. It is not only endurance, other factors affect relationships too.

I spoke with her a few days ago and I realized that she broke up with her boyfriend some months ago. She showed me screenshots of the chat between her and her boyfriend and he was talking as if he has always hated her. The guy's sister told my cousin that she hated her. I saw the chat. I was sad. I was very sad because my cousin didn't listen to me or her parents when they were advising her to be careful of that guy. Now the guy and his family left my cousin and their family to take care of the child alone. Who does that? Even now, my cousin has still not learnt from her mistakes. She said she will hustle hard to train her child and I know clearly that her father is the one feeding her presently because she has no job and she's not done with her education. She was saying it as if hustling for money is easy. I hope by the time a father tells her that he would not train the child again maybe she will understand what I have been telling her.

I know we have a lot of single mothers here and I've read about different experiences here too. You all made us realize how difficult life may be for single mothers especially the ones without a job. Kudos to you all. I know my cousin made a mistake but I pray that the Lord strengthens her to be able to take care of the child.