Brutal ritual: Mothers "iron" girl's breasts

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A brutal ritual called "ironing the breast" is performed on girls in Cameroon, Nigeria and South Africa, and as members of the people who still "nurture" this tradition say, they do it to protect their girls from rape and sexual abuse.

According to the United Nations, this act affected 3.8 million women worldwide. In the process, large stones, a hammer or a spatula are used, which are heated and then pressed to the chest. Through this process, members of the people claim, adolescent girls look less feminine.

How does it work?

It often starts when the girl is about eight or nine years old. Their family will wrap tight elastic bandages around their chest. They tighten them at night, sometimes during the day, too.

Another technique is massaging the breasts with hot instruments. The assumption is that heating these tools and pressing them on the girls will melt the fat, which is completely insane. They use a wide variety of things in this process: pestles, wooden sticks, spatulas, spoons, and rocks. Most of the objects tend to belong to either their mothers or grandmothers.

Object you sow in previous pictures are used to stop breasts to grow, girls are massaged with hot stones or wooden spatulas in order to delay their first sexual experience.

WHY???

The theory is that if your breasts don’t grow, you won’t attract men. Mothers do this in the hope that it will help their daughters to continue their education. If they are not attractive to anyone, they will not marry too soon. From the age of 8 or 9, they start tying their breasts with bandages, which they wear all day, even at school. If the bandage does not work enough, switch to other tools such as a pestle, stick, spatula, spoon, stone, which are used hot.

Who does that to girls?

This unusual ritual is performed only by other women, either at home or under the supervision of a vidar.

"At night, my mother made me wear a tight rubber bandage. During the day, she massaged me with a spatula, a pestle, a stick, a stone ... it hurt a lot. I begged her to stop, and she stopped. But after ironing, my breasts grew quickly, and they were really big. I was ashamed of them. I wanted to hide them. On the street, everyone would shout at me. I was so ashamed! Around the age of twenty, my breasts began to fall like those of a woman in her fifties. It's hard for me to undress in front of a man. It is difficult in front of a woman, but especially in front of a man. Sometimes I don't even take off my clothes during sex. I did not forgive my mother" - said Gael (26).

"When Mom says come, you have to come. If you run away, she catches you. When you come to sleep she catches you. When you wash, she catches you, and then a massage follows. Even if you turn on your stomach, it somehow massages you. It's always been that way. She massaged me by force, no matter how much I cried. It was as if something was stabbing me in the chest. She is no longer alive today. I never understood what exactly she wanted, whether to help me or to punish me. When I was 13 I was raped by a relative, I gave birth at 14 but I had no milk in my breast. That's why we took ants, you put ants on your chest and when they bite you, they swell up" - Emanuela (23)

In 58 percent of cases, the perpetrators are mothers, which makes them primary abusers. In this way, they believe, they also prevent premature pregnancy. Mothers often allow this ritual to remove the signs of puberty so that their daughters can continue their education, rather than consider them ready for marriage. However, this is considered covert abuse. Breast ironing is often a well-kept secret between mother and daughter. Fathers are often unaware of it. Girls believe that their mothers do it for their own good and keep quiet. Therefore, there are no consequences.

-SAVE THE GIRLS ! SAVE THE GIRLS!-

A quarter of the girls in Cameroon experienced this physical and mental aggression. Thanks to numerous associations, this number is declining. This results in breasts that are of different sizes, mutilated and girls who have suffered great mental pain and not understanding traditions that have not brought them anything good.

Fight against this kind of girls abuse need to be cooperated with police, social services, doctors and schools to raise awareness of "breast ironing". Because of this act, girls have a large number of health problems, and they can also get cancer. They are often left completely without breasts.

The consequences are often catastrophic for health: cysts, breast cancer, problems with breastfeeding, but also on the psyche.


  • Have you heard of this cruel custom and violence against girls?

  • Is this happening in your country?

  • How do we fight this?

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I have heard everything about their customs, and the more I know, the less I want to visit those destinations, if it can be called that at all, thank you very much, I stick to the European continent.

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4 years ago

I know that is not very nice to hear about this custum and violence, but we must be aware and we must not keep quiete about it. We all should react and prevent such a violence.

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4 years ago

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4 years ago

I have never heard about this, but I know that there are many weird and brutal customs in whole Africa. They are hurting girls all the time. I know that they want only the best for their daughters, but they are doing it all wrong. Maybe, the law should change, and rapist should get some strict punishments. Ironing brests, or putting the 'belt of innocence' is not the solution. Rapist is the one who should be hurt, not the potential victim.

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4 years ago

You are right. Rapist is the one who should be punished by the low. We can not blame the victims. I already wrote about rape in earlier articles, you can check. I have one message: keep girls safe. Dont ruin theri lifes by irroning their brests. Its brutal :(

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4 years ago

I heard about this before and think it is crazy. Again they put it on the women to get protected for rape. Very sad... Educate men instead and give harsh sentences for rape. That's the problem men don't get caught and when they do its not much. So frustrating every time to see things like this.

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4 years ago

Education is important. Only rapist are guilty for rape, not the victim. Harsh sentences for rape are needed. So, they cant repeat the crime. Police shoud always find rapist, and women should report and dont be shamed.

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4 years ago

Totally agree. however in some societies it is seen as shameful or the fact that the woman might have provoked it is strong. Something not seen much in more developed, open and less religious countries. The victim should ne be ashamed or feel guilty in any way. Ever.

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4 years ago

Strašno.Podsetilo me na pleme Mursi o kojem sam nedavno čitala.Možda je običaj umetanja tanjira u usne u početku imao za cilj da obeshrabri robove da uzimaju Mursi devojke, ali danas je to statusni simbol i kulturna tradicija za obeležavanje obreda prelaska u odrastanju, prelaska devojke u odraslu ženu.Ne zna se tačan razlog, ali se veruje da ovaj običaj potiče iz vremena kada su Afrikom harali lovci na robove. Kako bi im bile neatraktivne, pretpostavlja se da su se žene namerno unakažavale da bi izbegle ropstvo.Religija naroda Mursi klasificirana je kao animizam, iako su neki Mursi prihvatili hrišćanstvo.

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4 years ago

Nekad uopste nismo svesni kakvi se zlocini desavaju. Umesto da se kaznjavaju zlocinci, silovatelji, robovlasnici, mi imamo to da zene moraju da povredjuju sebe i svoju decu kako bi ih zastitile. Skroz pogresno! Takodje, u Srbiji, decacima su sekli prste kako ih Turci ne bi odveli u janjicare. Tako da, eto... I kod nas se desavalo nesto slicno

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4 years ago

That's far too brutal a custom but then i read somewhere how african countries seem to have the highest rate of rape. But i don't think those stats are reliable enough

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4 years ago

In my opinion, people who are raping others are not normal, they have serious mental problems, and because of that I am sure that small brests will not stop them from raping girls. Speicall, if this is done to a large number of girls, and they all have small brests. I mean, big brests are not something what makes a man rape a woman.

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4 years ago

If only the older generations were actually aware of that fact but you know how the older generations who grew up to traditions are. They refuse to understand the views of now and the science based logic of some things simply because that was what they were taught whilst growing up

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4 years ago

@SuncicaZ you got the point. Brests are not reason for rape. Reason for rape is the sick rapist mind. @Hanzell we need to fight against old tradiotions that are brutal.. its not a custum, its violence :(

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4 years ago

I agree but i do think it won't be stopped if the older or traditional people force their ways on the newer generations. That's why if the newer generations were more educated though. The practice would eventually be stopped since they would know better about why the custom needs to stop

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4 years ago

Rape can be stopped by the low and punishing the rapist, not by hurting litle girls. In my country there is not such terrible custum. But, I can not close my eyes when that awfull custum exist in the world

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4 years ago

Wait, it still really happens??? Gosh the poor girls. I hope the more educated generation will know better than to do this to their future generations. I hope this practice honestly dies out soon because this is just too unethical

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4 years ago

Unfortunately, it still exists. It is a sad truth. It’s a crime that lasts and I don’t know if anyone is actively fighting it.

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4 years ago

I think the newer generation should fight for it. Specially those who want to become mothers. They'd need breasts

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4 years ago

Oh wow.. that's brutal. I think you should publish about female circumcision (Just a suggestion) next.

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4 years ago

Yes, its very brutal. I can not belive that mothers could do such a terrible thing to their daughters. That need to be stopped. Thanks for idea, I invite you to check my other articles, you may find something interesting to read. Thank you for your time :)

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4 years ago

Very sorry for the ladies who are all victim . even in hell if punished like this you know you did some big wrong

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4 years ago

When I read this, I think that those girls are punished, and not people who are raping them. They are punishing the potential victim. We all know how sensitive brests are, and we all know that woman can have serious problems, if someone is squuezing or pushing her breasts.

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4 years ago

Yes, that's right. I don’t know how they can think of helping girls, when in fact they are doing them so much harm. This process is a huge physical and mental torture. It should be banned and the perpetrators punished by law.

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4 years ago

Indeed yes I'm with you 100% because instead of them to fight against the physical abuses the children are experience they end up abusing them in another way in the name of protection how?

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4 years ago

I can't understand that too. Children cannot be abused or injured for protection. They must be protected with a law that is consistently enforced, followed by education.

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4 years ago

They have good view on it however the idea is highly bad they should avoid it and to say it could not stop rape since a small girl is been raped

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4 years ago

Rape should be prevented by hunting rapists and severely punishing rapists. The victim is never guilty of rape, the only responsible perpetrator and culprit is the rapist. This act only desecrates the body of the girls, and that is a crime.

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4 years ago

Exactly as you said the only way to prevent rape and sex abuse is dealing with the commiters thoroughly , and also this act is also a crime and it hurts the health of the victims

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4 years ago

This is Sick !! Gross!! It's unbelievable that this happens in this Modern Scientific Age !! Awesome Article. If possible please check https://read.cash/@Ragz/hollow-a6f72b5d Much Appreciated.

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4 years ago

It is unfortunate that the bodies of girls are defiled in this way and that they are exposed to physical and psychological violence and abuse. This heinous custom must be stopped. It is not clear to me how it survived in the 21st century. Thanks for your attention, I will look at your article

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4 years ago

Da, to jeste u njihovoj kulturi, ali se ipak mora spreciti. Cuo jesam za ovakve brutalne nacine nad devojkama ili ti deci, koja se sprovode. Ima i onoga gde devojka mora imati sto duzi vrat ili naopako izvrnutu usnu.. to se takodje s tim krece jos od ranih dana deteta... brutalnooo.. odvratno! Stop nasilju nad zenama kakva god ona bila!!!!

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4 years ago

Najgore je to sto zene koje su pretrpele takvo zlostavljanje nastavljaju to da rade svojim cerkama. Kao da su zaboravile kako su se osecale i koliko posledica je to ostavilo na njih, sto fizickih, sto psihickih. Neverovatno je kako je to jedan zacarani krug i niko ga ne zaustavlja. Javna tajna i javni zlocin na koji se cuti i ne reaguje.

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4 years ago

Da, jer su ubedjene da 'To tako mora'.

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4 years ago

Wow, I heard of this one in my Social Studies but I didn't care because I was busy talking with my seatmate. I never thought it's as interesting as this! However, we cannot tell the locals to stop this because it is their culture. And I hope they made a research if this ritual really proves an increases of literacy rate in their country.

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4 years ago

Such a heinous and horrible act, where little girls who have no choice or right to vote, are physically and mentally injured, cannot be justified by local folk custom. This is violence and abuse of little girls. We have to protect children, they are innocent. Organizations dealing with human and children's rights must respond and take some action against this violence against girls.

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4 years ago

I have heard about it, It is not mandatory in any community. This practice is popular in European countries. Pics which you have uploaded is very horrible.

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4 years ago

I know, but I still cant believe that such violence exist in Europe too. we have to appeal to all people with not doing something like that. Also, we must influence all organizations that deal with the protection of human and children's rights. Every state must ban this crime and punish the perpetrators. Little girls need to be protected and safe.

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4 years ago

Hi, @AngryKoala this user Phemmie2003 copying your articles and used it as new articles kinda check

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4 years ago

Thanks for letting me know. What the member did was a violation of the rules on the RC. Please, report him. I already did that.

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4 years ago

I already block and reported him, Shame on him

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4 years ago

This is a crime, not good example as mother. Mother should protect their child, imagine 8-10 years old. Its very painful. Hope the Lord will give justice to this kind of ritual. It must be stop., for the sake of God.

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4 years ago

Yes, mother should protect her child. I cant believe that a mother can do such a terrible thing to her child. even worse is that these girls become mothers who also do this to their female children. It was as if they had forgotten how much suffering it was. And that circle does not end. Women need to be educated that they have rights and that they can be protected, and rapists should be punished.

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4 years ago

That's right

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4 years ago

This is not a ritual but a means to humiliate the beauty of a lady,this is nothing but physical abuse of a female which needs to be justified,this is a battle which needs to be fought by giving more education about it and creating more awareness to this mother's or there should be a strong decree to stop this perpetrators from this evil act

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4 years ago

I agree, this is not a ritual, its a violence and crime. Its terrible. More education, more low that protect women and children. You said everything right, I dont have anything to add. Thank you for such a valuable comment

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4 years ago

That's really brutal. We also studied about this in school. There are so many harmful effects physically and mentally to the victims.

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4 years ago

Yes, its brutal and I dont know how it is not banned yet. This must be stopped for the health of girla. Education is importand. Low is important. Human rights are important. Fight for fridom is important

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4 years ago

I think they can't ban it because it is their ritual for a long period of time. Let's just hope that brutal ritual will come to an end.

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4 years ago

I know, but its not good to torture children. They need more education. Mothers do that to protect girls form rapist. Thats the problem. Rapist need to be stopped.

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4 years ago

I think they are blinded by their beliefs without thinking of what the children might feel.

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4 years ago

Znam da su postojele ovakve stvari, ali mije to do te mere brutalno, da sam imala problem cak i dok sam samo gledala fotografije.

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4 years ago

Da, vrlo je brutalno. Ne mogu da verujem da se desava i da to majke mogu da urade svojoj deci. Nije mi jasno kako organizacije za ljudska prava ne reaguju malo jace. Taj odvratan obicaj se mora iskoreniti. To i nije obicaj vec fizicko i psihicko nasilje. Ne sme se dozvoliti da se zene tako stite od silovatelja. Silovatelji su zlocinci koji trebaju da budu kaznjeni.

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4 years ago

It may cause a harmful effects. Ridiculous! this is not a ritual for me kinds of abusing

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4 years ago

Yes, it is very abusing. Clear torture against female children. Children have they rights. No one should have opportunity to torture them.

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4 years ago

It should be not tolerated hays :(

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4 years ago

Prv pat slusam i citam za ovaa agresija vrz mladite devojcina. Nekolku pati gi pogledav slikite, voznemiruvacki se. I toa go dozivuvaat od svoite majki, gi molat da ne mu nanesuvaat bolka. Strasno. A seto toa od ispovedta na ednoto devojce e bez rezultat. Gradite sepak porasnale , i toa golemi.

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4 years ago

Zastrasujuce je kad pomislis da majke to rade svojoj deci. I one koje su same bile zrtve, postanu nasilnici koji to rade svojoj deci. Dokaz da nasilje radja nasilje. To drustvo treba pomoc...

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4 years ago

Da, taa misla mi bese koga go pisuvav komentarot. Majkite na svoite deca....Toa opstestvo voopsto izgleda nema razvoj, nema promeni, ne znam...

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4 years ago

Anatomically, or organically speaking, a woman’s breasts are nothing but glands. This type of organ in our body is a soft tissue structure and such tissues are very sensitive to any prolonged pressure or trauma. If they are exposed to constant pressures of excessive intensity or impact, these tissues can very easily become disturbed and lead to cancer. Unfortunately, the lack of education that is clearly manifested here affects the fact that this population is exposed to a huge risk of disease by such procedures. Sometimes even when the possible consequences are known, tradition cannot be defeated, even though it is harmful.

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4 years ago

That's right, this physical violence can lead to many health problems, including cancer. In addition to physical trauma, there are psychological traumas that last forever. It is their tradition, but the girls do not want their bodies to be defiled. That must not happen. It has to stop.

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4 years ago

For Religious beliefs especially for Christians this is not advisable.

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4 years ago

This phenomenon should not be acceptable to any people, regardless of religious affiliation. This is pure violence and abuse of girls.

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4 years ago

I think it is harmful

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4 years ago

It is and leads to many physical and mental illnesses

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4 years ago

Oh my, this is ridiculous. I think it's harmful for the kids health. Are there no side effects of that to their breasts, i mean like breast cancer or health issues because of that rituals? I can feel the pain of those abused kids while reading this article and seeing those photos.

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4 years ago

This violencw leads to many physical and mental illnesses. It could be cancer. I am very sorry for the girls. Its not okay. It should stop

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4 years ago

True.. it should be stop.. it feels like they're taking away some part of femininity from those girls

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4 years ago

Good...

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4 years ago