Length of life line
When Corto Maltese heard from fortune teller that his life line on his palm is too short, he took a penknife and extended it.
He changed his destiny, with a penknife.
By himself.
He.
https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Corto_Maltese.JPG
Changed HIS destiny.
And, he was the only one who could change his destiny.
Corto Maltese is a characther from comics, but this is a very good example of a determined person.
In real life, we cannot make our life lines longer, and we cannot make our lives longer, but we can make them better, we can make our lives fullfiled, and that is the point.
We do not need fortune tellers, because there is not desitny, there is not guaranteed future, nobody can know what will happen to you, because you have a power to change your life. You can do whatever you want to do, and you can change anything, you can change your life from the foundation, how many times you want to.
He made his life longer with a simple small knife, and you still have an excuse?
I know, now you will say that he was a character from comics. Imagination. Well, everything you can think of you can actually make happen. You cannot dream up impossible things.
This sounds like cliche, but if you can dream of it, you can make it.
Just move on. Get up. Come on! Do what you have to do to make yourself happy.
Even if there is destiny that does not allow you to sit there doing nothing and waiting for all the things to happen.
You maybe cannot change everything, but you can change a lot. You can change yourself, and that is a lot, that is great start and great way to make yourself proud. Proud of what? Proud of yourself! We feel good when we are proud of ourselves, that is one of the best feelings, and we should give that feeling to ourselves, we should be better and do better.
The only way yo make is to start it. To try it, to believe in it, and above all, to believe in yourself.
If you do not work for yourself, nobody else will.
What Keeps Mafia so Storng?
There are varios criminal groups all around the world and nowadays it is common to call all of those groups 'mafia'. At first it was used only for criminal groups from Sicilia, later from the whole Italy, after that Italian criminal groups in United States of America, and today, we have mafia all arounbd the world, and we call all the mafia, simply mafia.
There are some specific groups od criminals in some countries, for example in Japan or Russia, but no matter what is specific to all those groups, there are some rules and some things that you can notice everywhere. In all countries, among all criminals, and that is what keeps them so strong.
https://www.benchmark.rs/vesti/stize_nova_mafia_potvrdjeno_da_se_radi_na_nastavku_originalnog_serijala-92305
Today, I will talk a bit about those things.
First of all, there is always a family in the center of the group. Leaders are members of one family and around of them there are their godfathers, cousins, bvest friends. People, who love eachother, trust eachother and will not betray eachother. They sit together, eat together, cry and starve together. That is why their relationships are so strong. They are family, that is natural. Even if someone betray them, leaders will not betray eachother. There is a rule set by Italian mafia about cheating. It says that if you are chating on your partner, who trusts you and sleeps next to you, you will betray anyone.
I think that is the most important thing. They keep eachother's back. They love and protect their families.
Next thing that is very important is that they know their place, all of them. There is a hierarchy. There is only one boss, only one capofamiglia, only one person is on the top, and all the people above them know where their places is. They know what they have to do and what is the way to get promoted.
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.history.com%2Ftopics%2Fcrime%2Forigins-of-the-mafia&psig=AOvVaw2gFc7ZZNg2l8i1I14bIIxc&ust=1664020137301000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAwQjRxqFwoTCMiF1KHsqvoCFQAAAAAdAAAAABAY
Next thing is that they resepct rules of group. For example, do not cooperate with authorities or do not mess up with your friend's wife, or do not cheat on your wife. They just respect all that. They have their rules and the rules are helping them a lot. They have non toxic families, they are respected by their friends. All those side thngs that can help you with any job you decide to do. It is that simple, just resepect the rules, and other people will respect you.
Never cooperate with authorities. It is called omerta and it really means never. No matter what problem you hav, no matter what you need, do not cooperate with authorities, specially with the police. Of course, they have personal documents, but for example if their home is robbed, they do not call the police, they solve that on their own way. They have their own way, they know things, they know people.
And, that is the next rule. Pay for what you can pay. They are dangerous, and we all know that, but they pay a lot of money to their lawyers, to their doctors, to their designers... When they really want or really need something, they will pay for it. Do not make a problem, just pay. It is not true that 'If the suit is not on the house, the house is burnt'.
They are not making problems, if they do not have to. They will rather solve problems with money than with the force and guns. Serious criminals are usually gentlemans, they do not need attention, they do not attract attention, if they do not have to.
They have a goal and they know their path. I think that this one can sublimate all the things that I said before and I think that it is the point. They know what they want, it is not fame, it is not forcing people to do things, it is not lots of cheap woman, lots of drugs, alcohol...
They have families, they have business, they have code, and that is what is keeping them strong.
https://smartlife.mondo.rs/tech/gaming/a24833/MAFIA-TRILOGY-kupovina-igre-MAFIA-Remake-Definitive-Edition-MAFIA-Trilogy-igre-cene.html
Of course, there are many criminals nowadays that do not have any code, but they came and they went. We will not remeber them. Nobody will respect them. They will not be on top. They will not last very long.
I have to say that I do not support any kind of crime, but as we all see, there are rules in crime, just like in any other job. And, people many times think that the easiest thing is to be a criminal. It is not there is always a risk and there are strict rules that you have to respect if you want to get serious money and to live for a long time.
And, for the end of this post there is one more thing similar to all the groups, similar to all the criminals, no matter if they are boss or the one who sells drugs on the street corner. After they end up in jail, after they lose everything, if you ask them 'Was it worth it?' All of them will say 'No.'
Because it is not worth it. People are born like that, born in those families, they cannot leave it, they cannot give up, but at the end of the day, it is not worth it.
SuncicaZ
Lies are Making Lies, Frauds are Making Frauds...
Many times I have heard that someone said that his or her lies are white. You know, someone is lying to the other person, and the motive for that is not bad. I am lying to you, for your own good.
People are doing that all the time. To protect, to hide what is bad, to change the situation, to make things look better. So many reasons.
So many ways, so many situations.
but, trust me, there are not white lies, no good lies, no higher purpose. You are lying to someone and that can cause the person that you are lying to, to feel very bad, to be very sad and the situation can be worse than it would be if you have told the truth.
No matter how dark the truth is it is always brighter than any lie. It maybe can hurt people, but it will hurt only once. You cannot hide things forever, at one point everyone will know that you lied to them.
Also, one lie comes from another. It is a chain, once you start, you cannot stop, you will have to lie and lie, again and again.
In my personal opinion there are not good lies. Maybe, you sometimes lie, because you want to protect somebody, but at one point, that person will find out, and will be hurt.
Lie itself is not good at all and one bad thing cannot produce nothing but another bad thing.
Also, frauds are making other frauds. While you are scamming someone, someone else is scamming you. From one scam to another, and that is a circle, that if you once get in, you will never get out. You will not be able to stop. You will become a person who lies and who is a scammer.
Person, who built everything on lies and scamms is like a person, who lives in a glass house, and every new lie is like a stone, every new lie or new fraud has a power to destroy everything. To the basement.
That is now what we want for ourselves, that is too stressful and too negative and too fragile. And, as we all know, fragile things break at one point, explode at one point. And you will lose everything you ever had, actually everything that seemed like you had it. You will not be able to gain all that again, because you will be recognized as a scammer, and nodoby likes them.
The point i that you should not be building your life on lies with lies and frauds. Calamity of other people will not bring you a long lasting happines.
Be good, work hard and be better and better, and you will see that you do not even need lies to gain what you dream of.
Not Your Ordinary Horror Story
am pretty sure that you all have seen many horror movies and series, and many of them were pretty similar to each other. Slasher movies are the most popular and after them we have mysteries, but in most horror stories we do not know much about the characthers, and we do not have a very developed story. You know what I mean, things are happening and happening and we do not get to know why they are happening. History f sharacthers is usualy pretty short. There is only one story that we are following, characthers usually do not have their personal stories and even if they do, they are pretty simple, we do not get details.
And, I do not want you to think that I am against classic horror movies because I am not. I love good slashers.
What I am trying to say, sometimes we eed to watch a slasher series, just to find out some basic things, like for example, why is the main characther crazy and why is he killing people.
That is why, I think, that we all need a bit different horror story. Not an ordinary one. We do not have to have a lot of blood and scream on the screen to be scared. Story itself can be scary, we do not need monstersto be scared, we can be scared when we see what people are ready to do to each other.
And, in my opinion, the perfect thing, for all the people, who are tired of ordinary horror stories, is TV series American Horror Story.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reP8VFF3KHU
I really do not know, why I have not discovered this series before. First season was relased in 2011, and till now there are 10 seasons out, and they are preparing three more.
Till now, I have seen two and a half seasons and I can tell that this is definitely one of the best TV series I have ever seen in my life.
Every seaon is story for itself, but cast in some of them is similar, which gives you a touch of last season and can make you develop deeper relationship with characthers. And, in the 8th season you can see some characthers from previous sesons.
https://netflixjunkie.com/american-horror-story-is-no-longer-available-on-netflix-but-you-can-watch-these-similar-shows/
First season is following a family with problems that are moving into a house with history.
Second season is happening in a mental hospital and follows some people, who are not supposed to be there.
Third one is about coven and witches that are trying to protect themselves.
Fourth season is followinf a freak circus that is trying to 'survive' thug times that are coming.
Fifth season is following strange things tha happening in one retro hotel.
Sixth season is about Roanoke Colonu and again strange and scary things that are happening.
Seventh season is followinf elections.
Eight season is the one that will show us some of the previous characthers, and this must be very interesting, because one actor usually is playing more than one role.
Ninth season is about one strange summer camp.
And the tenth season is about aliens.
And there are supposed to be three more seasons.
As you see I did nbot write a lot about each season, because I do not want to spoil anything, but I think that when you see this, it will be interesting enough to start watching. I think that you can watch any season, except the eight one, even if you have not seen previous ones. Every story is for itself and they are not connected.
Actors are amazing, many young people, very telented people. together with great Denise O' Hare, Sarah Paulson and the amazing, one and only Jessica Lange. She is really amazing in this series, I cannot tell that she is a discovery, but everytime I see her new project, I am amazed by how amazing she is.
Side stories are the story about Elizabeth Short, Story about Madame LaLaurie, some inside views in church...
Also, what is most important, you can see what people are ready to do to eachother. We have the Devil, ghosts and aliens, but we also have people, that are monsters, and that are doing some terrible things. That is why this TV series is great. It shows us what people are ready to do to other people, even to close people.
That is why this is good. You do not have anuone who is good or bad. They are all gray, nobody is black or white.
That is why I recommend you this TV series. It is scary, but you can see stories of characthers, you can see what made them what they are.
I will leave you a couple more photos here, so you can see them, and I am sure that they will be interesting to you.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1844624/
https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/culture/most-shocking-moments-in-american-horror-story-history/
https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/culture/most-shocking-moments-in-american-horror-story-history/
Mountin Tops Can never Teach You...
... the lessons that rock bottom can teach you.
When you are on top and when everything is good, you are not learning a lot. You have passed trough hard times, you have passed trough many problems and you are enjoyning what you have.
But, never forget what you have been trough to get where you are. You have been fighting, and you have been struggling, and you have been suffering, and you learned. A lot. You learned how to survive. And you did survive.
You are on the top thanks to the rock bottom.
https://medium.com/the-ascent/tales-from-rock-bottom-cad9021fb43b
You have been on the bottom, and you had nothing, and maybe someone helped you, maybe someone told you something or showed you something, do not forget that. Remeber hard times and people who helped you survive those times.
Once again I will say that from the top you can only go down and you should remeber that. You maybe have been poor and then you got rich, but you can always lose everything and be poor again.
Here in Serbia, where I am living we say "In the hard times do not humiliate yourself, and in the good times, do not humiliate others.", and that is one of the most imprtant points in life.
Help other people, when you are on the top because someone helped you when you ewere on the bottom. Help someone when you are on the top, even if novody helped you while you were on the bottom. Always help when you are in a better situation than someone else, who needs help, because, nobody became poor by giving and helping.
https://www.pexels.com/search/mountain%20top/
If zou were poor, always remeber that you can be poor again, but if you once became rich, you learned how to do it, and you can become rich again. Just do not forget what bottorm rocks taught you.
Always remeber all the things that someone taught you, if those things helped you once. What helped you once, can help you again and again.
SuncicaZ
Hell is Empty
...and all the devils are here. Among us.
Today, as you can see I would love to write one more article about the evil that is among us, inside of us and arund of us. I already had one article about a topic that was similar to this one, and you can see it here, if you want to. It is called Always be careful, Devil has a pretty face. https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/always-be-careful-devil-has-a-pretty-face-fd5375ab
https://slayersclub.bethesda.net/en/guide/3N3MQMmDOVGRLr3YGZv5Ew/level-walkthrough-hell-on-earth
Today, I would love to talk a bit more about evil, and maybe you are wondering why do I want to talk about evil. Well, because it is all around of us, and also it is inside of us. I noticed that even good people are doning some horrible things sometimes, and I wondered why is that happening. Is that because of the time we live in, is that because of that evolution, is that a chain that one of us sarted and now we are answering to evil with evil.
What is making a person be evil? What makes us do wrong things?
I do not know where does the evil came from, but I am sure that it is here, among us, not in Hell, deep under the groud. It is on the ground. Wars, hate, racism, hunger...
https://lithub.com/dystopia-is-realism-the-future-is-here-if-you-look-closely/
What if this world, that we are living in, is a world after the apocalypse, what if we are living in some kind of a dystopia. Something like all those 'worlds' that we have seen in movies and novels?
Evil is a chain. One person is doing something bad to another, and then that person will do something evil to someone else. Evil makes more evil. Good makes more good. That is normal. It is like a snowslip. One small snowbal will become bigger and bigger and at one point it will be able to destroy whole village.
We have no more empaty and no more sympathy. We do not undesrtand other people and we do not have patience for their problems. That is terrible, if you ask me, that has to change!
We need to see other people around of us. We are all just human beings, we are not perfect, and we need help support and empathy. All of us.
https://www.istockphoto.com/illustrations/dystopia
Underestimating other people will not lead you to the top. Sabotaging others will not make you better. Even if that can bring you something you want, you should feel bad about doing that.
What is yours cannot be taken from you, do not rush and do not try to seize it from other people. That is not how things are going.
The only one who cannot lose the race is the one who stays on his own path. Stay on your path, do your things on your way, put efforts and hope, give your best and the results will come.
Even though you do not know which path is yours, I am sure that you know which one is not. Do not stuble other racers, that will take your prescious time and destroy their precious dreams.
Always know that we are all precious, we all deserve the best, we all deserve respect, and we are all building our dreams, do not demolish other people's dreams. Instead of demolishing their dreams, focus on building yours. You will see results very soon.
Be someone's angel instead of being devil. Help someone, be kind to someone. To someone you do not know. Do something small, what is not hard for you, but can mean a lot to the other person.
You are not weak if you show emotions. We need them. You need them and people sround you need them. Love someone, and someone will love you. Give to someone and you will take from someone. That maybe will not be a same person, but good things are cycling. And, so are bad.
You cannot be bad and happy at the same times. Devils are not happy. That is why nowadays we do not have a lot of happy people. Deep down, we know how bad we are, even if we do not, energy knows. Energy is real, and if you spread negative energy, there will be only negative energy around of you.
Energy is real. Conscience is real. You know what you are doing. You feel the energy that you are spreading.
What goes around, comes around. Now, you can say that it is a cliche, but just like all other cliches, it is true.
SuncicaZ
The bravest Thing that You Can Do
Today, I would like to talk a bit about suicide. I think that suicide is one very important topic, actually not 'very important', one of the most important topics ever!
I want to give support to everyone, who is passing trough some thug times, I want to tell to everyone who is thinking about suicide that there is hope and there is chance. I want to tell to all the people who want to give up on their lives that there are still reasons to live!
Unfortunately, I cannot tell those things to all the pople who want to kill themselves, but I can talk about this! And, I want to talk about this to other people in person, I want to write about it on the Internet, and I hope that I will make other people talk about it too. Because, if many people talk, if many people want to help, we can reallu help.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/bryanrobinson/2020/09/05/grappling-with-the-rise-of-work-related-suicide-during-the-pandemic-how-to-support-yourself-and-fellow-coworkers/?sh=14e2d8f348d2
The title is actually a part of one amazing quotation, and now I will leave the whole here.
“The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.” – **Juliette Lewis**
We all have dark times, but we need to be brave, we do not want to die, we want our problems to die and we are the only ones, who can kill our problems. Sometimes, it takes lots of efforts to be brave, but the feeling after you were brave when it was hard, is amazing! You feel strong, you fill like a victor. Do not be a victim be a victor. Aways be a victor. And, sometimes victory means to keep going, when you wanted to give up.
https://www.verywellmind.com/suicide-warning-signs-and-risk-factors-1067525
Here is one more great quotation about suicide.
“We cannot tear out a single page of our life, but we can throw the whole book in the fire.” – **George Sand**
Some things in your lifes were horrible, and they will stay in your memory forever, you cannot remove them, but you can not think about them and think about good things in your life. The whole book is not destroyed, because a couple sheets are. Fix what you can, and leave behind what you cannot. We all have things that we would love to forget, that is normal.
There are people, who can help you pass trough your problems. They are psychiatrists, and they know how you feel, and they are experts, they know what you should do. It is not a shame to wisit them, they are doctors, just like all other doctors, and they will hel you. They know better than your friends or family, and if your problems are serious, you should visit one of them.
You do not go to your friend to heal or remove your tooth, so, why do you expect your friend to know how to solve your problems with emotions or fears.
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/07-08/cover-prevent-suicide
Of course, it is important to have people who love you, and who you can talk to, but if your problem is serious and one honest conversation with a loved one cannot solve it, visit the doctor.
What is also very important, there are the sos numbers in many countries, and you can call those numbers if you, or someone around you is thinking of suicide.
Now, I will leave a couple more quotes, that can make you think once more about your life and how valuable it is!
“Suicide doesn’t solve your problems. It only makes them infinitely, un-countably worse.” – **Sinead O’Connor**
“But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.” **– Albert Camus**
“There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn’t.” — **John Green**
“One of the secrets of life is to make stepping stones out of stumbling blocks.” — **Jack Penn**
People who tried to commit suicide and survived it, usually never try it again. Because, while they are feeling the presence of death, they realize that they want to live, they just do not know how to solve their problems. They want to kill something inside or around of them, they do not want to die.
That is very important. While you are drowning, you realize that every of your problems can be solved, except one, you are still drowning.
It is okay to be weak and to have problem, it is not okay to give up on yourself!
Stay strong!
Keep fighting!
And, one more thing, help someone who is fighting!
SuncicaZ
Please Don't Take my Man
In this article I would love to talk a bit more about sheating, and how different people react to it. Actually, first of all I would love to concentrate on the difference between men and women, when it comes to cheating. In my previous article, I was talking a bit about cheating in general, and if you are interested into that, you can see it by simpl clicking on the title of if. Want to find a husband? https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/want-to-find-a-husband-2dfd15fa
Today, as you maybe can guess from the title I would love to analize a song by Dolly Preton, called Jolene. And, I am pretty sure that you have already heard this song. In case that you have not, I will leave it here, so you can hear it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ixrje2rXLMA&list=RDMMIxrje2rXLMA&start_radio=1
In some interviews she said that this song was made because of one woman, who was really around her husband. So, it is based on a true story.
At first she says, please do not take my man, do not take him just because you can. Later, she is talking about how pretty Jolene is and that she cannot compete with Jolene.
And, that is one very important thing I would love to take. We all know how pretty Dolly is, she is pretty, popular, she is funny and full of positive energy, but there is still someone who looks better than her, and who is more interesting to her man.
https://www.netflix.com/rs-hr/title/80244846
But, why is she telling that Jolene is better than her, when we all know how great Dolly is?
That is a huge problem that many women have. Many women are constantly scared that there is a Jolene, that looks better than they do, and that will come and take their man away.
Why are you comparing yourself with others?
Why do womane do that all the time.
You are pretty. You matter, you are enough.
The beauty industry is making women feel like they are not good enough. Beauty does not have any standard. And, no matter how 'good' Jolee looks, that does not mean that she is prettier than you are. What is pretty to me, does not have to be pretty to you.
https://depositphotos.com/96864388/stock-photo-silhouette-man-leaves-from-the.html
Women need to know that they should not be scared of Jolene, it is not up to her. It is up to your man. She cannot take him, if he does not want to be taken away from you.
Next what she says in the song is that her man talks about Jolene in his sleep, and that she understands how easily Jolene can take her man. And, she says that Jolene can have any man she wants, but that she cannot love ever again.
Why do women underestimate themselves. If he calls Jolene in his sleep, that means that he wants her, not you, and it does not matter if she does not want him. You need to stop wanting him, after he stopped wanting you. You need to move on. He decided, and if Jolene decides that she does not want him, he will be with you only because he cannot have her. You will be the consolation prize for him. And, you do not want that.
You deserve better!
Many women can find themselves in this song, and that is not good at all. The moment when he decided that he wants another woman, the moment when you realized that other woman can take him, is the moment when you should break up.
Respect yourself. There are many men for you, but there is only one you for you. You can find another man, you can love again, but you cannot find another self.
Do not blame Jolene, do not hate her. Love yourself! Be grateful to Jolene, because she showed you what your man really is, and that he is not for you. He does not loveand he does not respect you.
Even if he loves you, but I doubt that, he does not respect you, and it is as important as love and even more.
So, when you notice a Jolene in your life, pick up pieces of your broken heart and leave.
https://www.istockphoto.com/vector/husband-leaving-his-wife-with-another-woman-infidelity-concept-vector-illustration-gm1316048301-403884460
Do not forgive that, do not gve him another chance, do not fight with Jolene. It is wrong to think that you should fight with another women for your man. Women do not have to fight for a man, he is not the best thing you have. He is not good for you, if you have to fight for him. You should not fight for someone, who wants Jolene, instead of you.
You can love again, and even if you cannot it is better to be alone than with someone, who does not respect you.
Women need to learn how to respect themselves enough to leave those who do not respect them.
You are pretty, you are good enough, and if he wants someone else, that is not connected to you. He wants another woman because of him, not because of you. And, you do not have to change and to fight. What you have to do is to respect yourself.
And, that was it for this part of the topic called 'cheating', I hope that in the future women in general will change and that women will appreciate themselves more and that they are not going to stay where they are not respected. In next article I will talk a bit about some other sides of chating, and I will analyze some other songs and some movies and books!
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
Want to Find a Husband?
A couple days ago, I saw a video on the Instagram. It was made by one girl, and the sound that she used is not hers, but I do not know who the original author is. Anyways, in that video you can hear a female voice saying that if you want to find a husband you should visit Tinder, that there are a lots of husbands, but that they are probabblu already someone's husbands.
https://www.123rf.com/photo_96591821_couple-cheating-on-each-other-at-home.html
For those who do not know Tinder is a dating app. And, yes, some researches are showing that there are really a lots of husbands, but also lots of wives. Many taken people have accounts on this kind of app. And, why is that?
I am trying to figure out, for a very long time, why are people doing such things, when they are taken. Why do taken people have need to chat, to see, and at the final point to cheat their partners?
https://www.myjoyonline.com/if-someone-cheats-on-you-its-because-they-love-you/
And, some of the results of this thinking and research are horrifying. Many people live with someone, they do not love at all. Many people just cannot leave. Imagine living wiht someone, just because you cannot leave and cheating on that person to make your life less miserable. To make yourself living a bit better.
And, imagine the other side, living with someone and knowting that he or she is chaeting on you. And, still living with that person just because you have to, because you cannot leave.
https://www.healthline.com/health/relationships/emotional-cheating
People cannot leave for many reasons, and I will leave only a couple here:
*****They are too weak*****. Many people are cheating or living with a cheater, because they are too weak to leave. They are with that person for too long, they cannot cope with stress that break up is bringing. They do not care anymore. And, they are there forever stuck in a relationship that is not good at all. That side of your life that is not good can destroy all other sides. You need to be strong, you need yourself. Just get up and leave, solve your problem. You deserve happiness.
*****They have children.***** And this is a big mistake, huge. Children cannot be happy if they are living with parents that are not happy. Childrne should not watch and listen you fighting. So, just explain to your children that a good break up is much better than a relationship that is not good at all. If you failed in a relationship, it does not mean that you will fail as a parent too.
*****They live together*****. Many times partners live together in one apartment and the one who wants to leave, does not have where to live. This can be a huge problem, because people, many people, cannot afford to buy a house, flat or to pay rent. I know that it might be hard, but if you leave toxic relationship, where you are not happu and where you are cheating or being cheated on, leave. It is better to live in a very tiny apartment and work hard to be happy, than to stay where you are not happy. You will work hard and at one point you will get bigger apartment, and you will be happy.
Those were just three interesting and common reasons. I know that there are many other reasons, and I cannot know them all, and I cannot know how every single person can feel in that kind of situation. But, trust me in that kind of relationship, things can only be worse and worse.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/202102/so-you-think-you-weren-t-cheating
And, it is not important are you cheating or you are being cheated on. Leave, just leave. Things will not get better, you are not going to change. He is not going to change. She is not going to change. cheaters do not change, they will cheat again and again.
If you are not respected leave.
If you do not respect leave.
In both cases it would be better to just pack your things and leave.
Even if a cheater can have a relationship without cheating, he cannot have it with someone who he cheated on already.
That was it for this article, I think that it would be great to have a little series on this topic, and I will write a couple more articles about this topic. There are a couple very interesting songs about cheating, also some movies, and it would be great to see how cheating is shown to us in popular culture.
That was it for the first part, see you very soon with a new one!
SuncicaZ
If I were you...
*...I would do totally dufferent than what you are doing now. And, no matter how much effort you are putting in what you are doing. No matter how hard it is for you. No matter how important it is to you. You are simply not good enough, and I would be. I am better and smarter. Because, I know everything, and I know exactly what I would do if I were in a situation I have never been in.*
I am pretty sure that those couple honest thoghts of all those people, who are telling you 'If I were you, I would...', and I am sure that you are sick of it. I am sick of it.
People constantlu have so many advices for you, they all the time know what is good for you, and something, what you are doing, they would do in a different ways.
https://www.invisiblegrail.com/blog/wearing-the-shoes-of-others/
People seem to forget that a benevolent piece of advice that you did not ask for, is still a peice of advice that you did not ask for.
Intentions are important, but sometimes you are annoying and people do not want you, even though your intentions are good. And, you need to respect that. You need to realize that people have their own small worlds, and they do not want you inside of those worlds all the time.
If people need help they will ask for it, if people need help they will show that they need it. Do not try to give to people, what they do not want you to give them.
What is the worst thing bout those situations, when people know better than you, what you should do with your life, is that they usully do not know what is the right thing to do. They just want to feel smart and important.
https://candlesonline.wordpress.com/2019/08/07/5-point-advice/
What they would rather say than all the things that they are saying is 'If I were you, and I am glad I am not you.'. And, that is because they also do not know what should be done. They are not sure, they are just saying thinkgs that seem smart and good to them.
That is all. People do not know. People are not better than you are. We are all equal human beings. You have a right to do what you think is good for you, you are allowed to make mistakes. We are all making mistakes. You are not supposed to listen to people, who know everything. People, 'who know everything', usually are not doing anything in ther lives, and if they are, they are making lots of mistakes.
Of course, if you have in your life, who loves you, and who you can trust, and what is the most important, who was in a similar or same situation, aks that person for advice. That kind of advice can help you. That advice is really useful, that person was in your place, and know how to get out of that place.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.xmarqsthespot.adviceme&hl=sr&gl=US
But, maybe, you cannot do it 100% same as that person did it, because we are all different, and that is why there are some things that you need to do alone, even if someone was in a ame situation. For example, when it comes to emotions, nobody can tell you what is the right thing for you. They cannot know how do you exactly feel.
Only you are you. Only you are in your place, and nobody can tell you what for you is good and what for you is not good.
Do what you feel.
Your intuition and your feelings will lead you. They will show you your parth and your place.
Other people will not take the responsibility for what you have done, even if they told you what to do. That is why you need ot make decisions. You are taking responsibility at the end, that is why you need to take a risk and to make decisions.
Take your life in your hands, and get out of the place where you are not on your own foot!
xoxo,
SuncicaZ!
Always find a way to make your job easier, always find what you are good at, ans what will be interesting to you, and always put effort into things that you are doing. That way, you will find many ways to work smarter instead of working harder.
The bottom rock can teach you lessons, that mountain tops never will. Never forget where you came from, and what you have been trough!
Always Be careful, Devil Has a Pretty Face
In this article I would love to talk a bit about temptations, about weakneses and about our own reasons for that.
Dostoyevsky once said one very important and interesting thing about human's nous. He said that nous is a cad, because reasons finds justifications and excuses for all the things that are bad, but that are pleasant at the same time.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6WkafOaqoA
You always have a reason why you have done something, you always know why you wanted something. Usually, you wanted it because it was pleasant for you.
And that is why we say that devil has a pretty face. Bad things look good. Harmful things look like they will bring you a lot of good things. So, be careful, do not take it, just because you like it. Think about it first. Think of it very well. Think about all the aspects, all the things that are happening, and that maybe can happen. Of course, you cannot predict everything, but you can predict many things, because they are expected to happen, and if you want to see them, you are going to see them.
Put your nous into the mood for exploring, so you can look all the sides and you can give your best to find out all the things that you can find out before you make the decission.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/my-wallpapers--289848926027142953/
Making decissions is a process, so put time and effort in it, because if you do not the process is not going to end well. The Devil will fool you with one of his pretty faces. As you know, he has many faces and he is everywhere.
And, I have to say now that I do not talk about the Devil from hollu books, I am using the word 'Devil' as a metaphore here. So, here Devil is used for all the things that look good, feel good, that are plesant, but actually are harmful and dangerous. (An example would be any kind of drug).
Devil is nt your friend even thouh he seems like he is, he does not want to give you, he is just trying to take from you. Even if it seems like he gave you something, that is because he is about to take something much bigger from you.
Do not let him fool you, think about the things that you are about to do. That can help you a lot. That can save you a lot.
You should not became paranoid, you should not be only thinking about the bad things that may happen to you, but you should be careful.
Find a way, to be careful and let it become your habbit. Once when it is your habbit, it will be much easier for you to recognize the Devil and to avoid him.
xoxo,
SuncicaZ
Better Times...
Constantly we can hear that in the past things were better, people were better... And, also we can see manu people, who re waiting for the things to get better.
It is all about some better times that alread passed or that should come.
https://uxwing.com/time-period-icon/
and, what I can say about that is the maybe there were and maybe there will be better times, but this is ours, and we cannot escape from it.
Every period has good and bad sides, every period can be used for good things, and there are great people making great things in every period.
Ancient Ltins used to say "O tempora, o mores", and that means, oh times, oh amenities.
Ig you think a bit about it, you will realize that every time has something ery special, ameities are cnstantly changing, and even if we as a society, with very long tradition, have a moral and value system, things are changing. And, moral and value systems, are not something what will last forever.
https://sr.vector.me/browse/132385/clock_periods_clip_art
Older people can notice how the wrld has changed in past 30, 50, 70 years, and many of them do not like those changes.
And, okay, we all realize that things are not as good as they were.
One small example is that people used to be polite and used to help each others in the past, but that is changing. And, we cannot stop it. Actually, we can. When I say we I mean whole society, whole world. But, it seems that many people are not interested into those changes, and that is just they way it is. As I said in some of my previous articles you cannot make people change, if they are not interested into changes.
https://news.softpedia.com/news/Which-Are-the-Earth-039-s-Eras-65164.shtml
You can change yourself and become a better person and be that change that you want to see in the world.
And, the other important thing is to focus on good things, and on what you can do with all those good things. Winners focuse on themselves and on winning. So, focus on the opportunities that you time gives you.
For example, nowadays, you can invest your money into crypto currencies, and you can became rich thanks to those currencies, if you focus on them.
Or you can make videos and post them on the Internet.
Or you can make a blog about some interesting things.
Those are just some simple examples.
https://www.thoughtco.com/eras-of-the-geologic-time-scale-1224551
Do not focus on rude people, who do not want to help you, focus on crypto and earn money. You cannot change others, but you can change yourself and your situation.
Find 'mores' that are good for you.
Do not look for an excuse, they are everywhre and it is not hard at all to find them. nstead of that, look for the opportunity that will change your whole life, your whole world.
Maybe, you cannot change the world that you live in, but you canchange your small world, that for you is much more important than the whole world.
One more good thing about positive changes is that your example can inspire people around you, people you love, and that is how you can make a chain of changes, and that chain oh small changes can make some bigger changes.
Small change will inspire other small changes, small changes will make one big change and one big change will inspire other big changes.
Once more, be that change that you want to see in the world.
This is your time and it is your only time and because of that it is the best one that you have and that you will ever have.
So, get up and take your chances. Make your chances if you cannot take them. Make them. And, ofter you made them, use them. Make chances for other people too.
Start now, because period that you are living in may last long, but you can never know for how long you are going to live and you do not want to leave before you have done everything that you wanted and that you could.
See you very soon,
SuncicaZ!
Failure is not the opposite of success, it is the part of it.
You have to pass trough the bad to get the good! 😇😀
From the Top of the Hill
You can go only to the bottom.
When you reach the top, when you are on top, you cannot clim anymore, you do not have where to climb, and you can only fall or step down. So, when you rech the top, your next goal can only be to stay on the top as long as you can, and of course, it is alwaus better for you to step down than to fall. So, give your best to stay there and to prevent falling.
https://www.trawell.in/uttarakhand/lansdowne/tip-in-top-point-tiffin-top
But, what will happen when you step down on fall? Nothing lasts forever and at one point you will have to get down from your top, and what will happen then? Is that the end? Is that the sing that you should spend the rest of your life suffering? Should you give up?
No, of course no. That is a sing and that is a moment when you should start climbing again.
From the bottom, you can only go up and that is the good thing about the bottom and about falling. When you are on the top you can only go down, but when you are at the bottom you can only go up.
https://www.mindtools.com/blog/how-to-overcome-a-fear-of-failure-mind-tools-minute-video/
One falling is not the end, one failure is nly a sing to try again.
There is not limit how many times you can try. You can always keep trying and trying, until you reach your goal, and if you lose it, then you should start chasing it again.
Dreams are here to be chased, but sometimes they are running away, sometimes, they do not want to come to us, and we have to put a lot of effort into things that we want. And, that is what is good about life, you suffer to get something, you get it, and you enjoy it, and you are happy because of it. You know that you worked hard, and now it is yours, you made it. And, if you made it once, you can make it milion times, yust do not give up. Never give up.
If you got of the top of your hill, you can climb to another hill, or you can climb to your hill again. There are lots and lots of hills, you can choose some of the hills for yourself.
https://blog.linkyourpurpose.com/2022/07/21/overcoming-failures/
You can always work on yourself, you can always gain new skills, you can always work new jobs, meet new people, make new friends, and make new opportunities for yourself.
Things are not simple, but that is what is good about life, simple things are boring. When you are reading a book, there are always many characthers, and their own stories, and their own problems. If books were simple, only about one thing or one person, they would be boring, and nobody would read them. If life was simple, nodoby would be excited about it. All the problems and all the ups and downs are the thrill of the life.
Life lasts till you breathe, and till you breathe, you can get new shances, youc an get new tops of new hills.
Just take all the things that you can take and that you wanna take. That is the point, you can cilm on more than one hill at the time, do not limit yourself. Push yourself forward, you can be stronger, you can be smarter, you can be better, so go there and be. Make yourself better, every day, every hour, every second...
Do not be scared to fall, because that is not the end.
Life is full of ups and downs, and that is what life is.
Life is a crazy ride, life is a rollercoaster. Nothing is for sure.
You have only now, only this moment, and that is why you have to use it the best way you can.
There are so many hills that are wainting for you, start climbing now!
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
You do not Leave because you Love
Many times I have heard that people said that they have left someone, because they loved him or her too much.
I personally od not think it is true. When you love someone a lot, the last thing that you want to do is to leave that person.
https://englishlive.ef.com/blog/vocabulary/culture/love-idioms/
When you love someone, you fight for that person, you are ready to be a better person, because of the person you love. You do not leave.
Peole do not leave because they love too much, they leave because they are selfish. They are not ready do fight, they do not want to change, and they give up and leave. Leaving someone you love is nothing but giving up.
https://seattledivorceservices.com/leaving-left/
I agree that you can love someone that you have left, but you did not leave because of love. Love is never a reason to leave.
Not fighting for love is a reason.
Of course, you can also leave because the other person did not want to fight or to be better.
And that is fine.
Both of those are fine. If you do not have time, strength or the will to fight or to change, that is fine, you can always give up, and nobody should judge you because you do not owe anything to anyone, except to yourself to have your inner peace. So, it is okay to leave, but do not lie to anyone that you left because of love.
https://johnpavlovitz.com/2019/05/14/dear-church-heres-why-people-are-leaving/
First of all, tell yourself the real reason why you left, and trust me, you will feel better about leaving. You will feel released, you will get your inner peace, and you deserve it , no matter why you left.
Second, do not use love as an excuse, you do not need any excuse, when you are clear with yourself and the reason why you have left, you do not have to explain it to others. People want to know, everything, but you do not owe them that. They want to know, but they do not have to know.
Sometimes it is much better to keep your break up and reasons for it, for yourself, and to keep moving forward. Keep your private things private, and do not excuse yourself to others because there is not any good reason for that.
What is yours sometimes should be only yours. Give yourself time to find your reasons for break up and to accept them. After that you will be free and you will feel good.
https://www.asaecenter.org/association-careerhq/career/articles/career-management/how-to-give-feedback-when-you-leave-a-job
'I left because I loved him too much', just does not feel right, does not feel like true. And, what is the worst about this, it gives you hope that in the future things can get better, they cannot. If they chould be better, they would be better. If you and your ex partner could make it work you would make it work.
If you are the one who could not change that is okay, you are okay. Sometimes, we just cannot some things and that is fine. But we need to accept things as they are, because we can heal only from accepted things.
Leaving is okay, just do not lie to yourself and to other person.
Say the truth and keep looking for your happiness.
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
Every Sinner has a Future...
... and every saint has a past.
And, what about that?
I am sure that you have heard this sentence many times before, and maybe you are sick of it. I have. And I am.
It is soo empty and soo deep at the same time. It wants to say that we all can change, but how often are people actually changing?
https://www.thecatholictelegraph.com/body-and-soul-patron-saints-of-food-and-drink/45883
Not vert often, many people get out of jail and commint new crime that is worse than the previous one, and that is just one small example.
Many people are cheating on their partners all the time. They did it before, and they will do it againg. That is just the way they are.
People can change, but there are not many people, that are actually changing.
What can make a person change? Is it love that oters are giving to the person that should change? Is it love that person who should change, feels for others? Is it some kind of realisation? What should happen to someone to make him change?
What is strong enough?
https://m.facebook.com/OfficialSaintNews
We can talk a lot about this, it is not universal, things are as vig as you see them. If it is a big deal to you, it does not have to be a big deal to others.
In my opinion, most people reallu deserve other chance, but who will give them that chance?
They. The onlu person who can give you a second chance is you. You have the prover to change your life, bu shanging yourself. You are the one who can, only if you want to. And, what will have to happen to make you want to change, again, depends only on you.
What I am trying to say is that peole sometimes do not know how powerful they are. The onlu one wwho can make a sinner or a saint out of youis you.
So, take your life in control now. Not on Monday, not on the 1st next month, not later, now.
Correct your sins and your mistakes today. Be a saint today. And, here I m not trying to make fun of any religion, I am using those two words as a metaphor.
Eberyone can change, just people usually do not want to. That is the whole point. If a sinner wants to be good, he can, and saint can always decide to be bad, but that depends only on them. That is their super power.
https://safety4sea.com/cm-building-resilience-change-is-a-part-of-life/
Stop trying to change people, you cannot do that, you do not have the power to change others, you can only replace them in your life, with other people.
Do not try to make them do what you want them to do, you are not supposed to do that. You can defentd yourself, if someone attacks you, but that is all you can. You are not allowed to go beyond that.
You can stop people from doing harmful things to you, but you cannot stop them from doing harmful things to themselves. And that is the biggest change that they can make, they can stop doing bad things to themselves. They can make changes on the inside, and that is where real changes are made. That is where sinnesr and saints are made. Inside. In the person. You cannot get in there, and you will never be able to get in there, so stop trying. Give up and let them be.
If they want to change, they will, if they do not want to, they will not. If they want you cannot stop them. If they do not want to, you cannot make them.
Accept the things as they are, sometimes you do not have other solution.
See you bery soon,
SuncicaZ.
Who's Searching for Redemtion?
I have heard Maneskin's song called 'I wanna be your slave', a couple minutes ago and it gave me idea to write this article. This song is really deep and it has a very deep message, only if you listen to it carefully. By the way, I noticed that people somethines are not listening to roack music carefully and sometimes people do not even pay atteniton to lyrics, and those songs usually have very good lyrics.
https://www.shutterstock.com/search/redemption
Anyways, I want totalk about redemtion, not about amazing lyrics.
The song, among other things, is about redemption, a person, and all the other sides of the personality of that person, that are looking for redemption.
It says:
I'm the devil, who's searching for redemption,
and I'm a lawyer who's searching for redemption,
and I'm a killer, whos searching for redemption,
I'm a monster who's searching for redemption.
And. I'm a bad guy, who's searching for redemption,
and I'm a blonde girls, who's searching for redemption.
I'm a freak that's searching for redemption,
I'm a monster that's searching for redemtion.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6ZZKNPrSPw
Are really all those creatures in one person, and are really all of them searching for redemption. Well, it is possible. We all have many sides and in different situations, we are different, and that is okay.
If you ask someone, he or she will say that we are the best, and if you after that ask someone else, he or she can say that we are the worst. It depends on so many things.
In some situations we are all bad, and we are all sinners, and because of thar maybe we all need redemption.
We do not have to be monsters to be sinners, even a good girl can be a sinner, and she probbably is. Everyone is. But, are we ready for redemption?
https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/redemption.html
I have to say that here I am not thinking about any religion, going to heaven after we die or anything similar. I think about passing trough the feeling of remorse.
Remorse can kill you from the inside, and that is why you have to forgive to yourself and move on, maybe you can even fix something trhat you have destroyed, maybe you can even make someone feel better, maybe you can even be better than you are now, you just have to give yourself your redemption.
Do not wait for God, he may not come, you cannot know is there another life after this one, but you for sure have this one, so forgive yourself, calm down and see what you can fix.
Be better, realize your mistakes, and do not repeat them, fix what you can, and move on, keep going and keep working on yourself, and your redemption will come, you will see how far you will come.
We all need redemption, and we cannot get back in time to skip what we have done, what is done is done and we cannot change that. Some things we can fix, some we cannot. Remorse will not make things better, it will only make you feel bad, and that is not what you want for yourself, so, just keep your head up, keep working and keep becoming better and better all the time.
Redemption is close, it is inside of you, give it to yourself, let yourself get it.
xoxo, SuncicaZ
Kill the Killer
'The easiest thing is to kill the killer ', once I have read this sentence in one article, about the man who raped and killed a very young girl. She was a child, and he was a monster, so many people were thingking that the only right thing that society can do is to kill him.
And, that really is the easiest thing that society can do.
But, what comes later?
First of all I have to say that people who are ready to do those horrible things to a child will probbably do them again if they get another chance, and because of that society have to pay attention to those people, society, and when I say saociety I mean all of us, should do something . That other chnace for those people to do horrible things should not exist.
But is the solution really to kill them?
I am living in Serbia and most strict penalty here is life sentence. A person can be sentenced to life in prison, but cannot be sentenced to death. The most important validity in our legal system is life of a human being. So, if the state is protecting human lives from other human beings, should she protect them from herself too?
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-58483850
I am trying to say, if the state is punishing killers, how can she sentence someone to death?
And, what is maybe even more important, is death really a punishment?
I mean, a dead person does not know that she is dead? Dead man cannot suffer because of death. Only people, who loved dead person are suffering, does that mean that when someone is sentenced to death, actually people who love that person are sentenced?
Here in Serbia, last couple years we have a lifetime prison as the most strict punishment that a person can get for the most terrible crimes, and before that one we had long time jail. This punismeht includes 30-40 years in prison, with a possibiluty to get our earlier, if the person behaves well in prison. (For example if someone is sentenced to 30 years,m he can get out after 20, after 2/3 are served.)
Now, a person sentenced to life in prison can get our after 27 years if he or she behaves well.
What does that mean, to behave well?
https://www.experian.com/blogs/ask-experian/can-you-go-to-jail-for-debt/
How someone, who raped and killed a child can behave well?
Will he become a better person? Probabbly no. Never.
The main goal of every signle punishemnt is to make a person stop commiting crimes, to make person accept value system of the soicey and start a life over, as a 'normal' member of the society.
Will someone, who killed a child, really get a chance to be the member of society, even if he or she get out of prison?
Wil society accept that kind of a person? Is that kind of a person really capable to live normal?
Those questions are really hard to give answer to. They are very complicated and you can think a lot about them, but no matter which answer you give there will always be some pros and cons.
For example, if you kill someone, who did something horrible, he will never do it again, and people around him will be no longer afraid. But, on the other hand 'monster' will not be able to suffer, becaus ehe will be dead, that means that we are actually punishing people who love him.
And, if you sentence that person to life in prison, he will have a chnace to get out, and also he cna be desperate and he can hurt other people in prison thanks to that.
Thare are always pros and cons, and it seems that we can never know what is really the good solution, we can find the best one that we can find, but only because it is the best that we have, does that meand that it is really good?
I would really love to read your opinion about this complicated topic.
I do not have the soultion, and I cannot say what is good and what is not. I would just love to see that this problem got really good solution in the future.
What about People we do not See?
Currently I am reading a book about two young people, who loved each other a lot, but they had no luck, they had no money, they had no chance, they had no choice, they only had each other. But, that was not enough, and the system destroyed their lives.
As I said, they only had each other, they were poor, they were4 on the edge, and someone pushed them over it. They fell. They lost their life battle.
Today, I would love to talk a bit about poor people, who have nothing and who seem to be invisible for us.
Those are people who do not go to school, who do not have medical insurance, who do not have real house. They live in illegal colonies on the edges of towns, big towns, small towns. Every town. I do not want to tell anything too specified because I know that you know who are those people. They have a problem. Actually lots of problems, and system sees them as problems. Which system? Every single system. They are out of systems.
https://www.nbcnews.com/storyline/2016-rio-summer-olympics/what-favela-five-things-know-about-rio-s-so-called-n622836
But, you know what? They are as people as we are, we in the systems, you, me, he, she, his mother, her firend. All the people with names, that you know a lot about and that you repect a lot.
Those people from illegal colonies also have names, stories, fears, wants, but you do not know anything about them. They are not important for you or for anyone who is important for you. But they are people. And they deserve a chance. All of them.
I was thinking a bit about those extreme poor people, and I realized that they also have feelings, but that theis feelings are much stronger than ours. Same but stronger. They love each other, a lot. And maybe more than we can imagine, because they have only each other to love. They do not have jobs, houses or expansive clothes as we do. They do not love their things, because their things are not valuable, they love people. And their love is strong.
When they lose someone they love they suffer, and it seems to me that they suffer much more than we do because again they only have each other. All the worthy they have are other people.
Those people are connected to other people, deeply and strong. They have honest feelings. They are simple.
I do not have a solution for all the problems of those people, but I can tell you that you should think about them as people. Do not judge. Maybe, we also should not try to understand. Maybe we cannot understand that.
And, if you ask me if we are happy because of that, I do not know. Our lives are easier, but their feelings are stronger.
It is up to you to decide are they happier than we are.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
How far People can Go?
A couple days ago I was scrolling my You Tube page and in recommended videos I saw something very inteeresting. It was a clip from the MTV show called 'How far is tattoo far?'. This is a show where people are coming with someone, who is supposed to be close to them, for example their best friend or their sisters, brothers, their emotional partners...
Somebody who they are supposed to trust and to love.
But... that is what the show is about. Those relationships are pretty messed up, and those people usually seem to hate each other.
https://www.metro.us/how-far-is-tattoo-far-episode-1-tattoo-reveals-how-to-watch-online/
The cncept of the show is that that there are two people coming to the show, there are hosts and there are two tattoo artists. First guests are telling their story and after that, artists are doing their tattoos. Guest are chosing each other's tattoo. And, they have no mercy.
People are putting horrible things to each other, they are mad, they are sad, they are angry and that leads them to do horrible things.
Some of them want their revengfe, some of them are jealous...
And, I was thinking a bit about this show and people on it.
I mean you get there, with someone close to you, and then you put horrible things on each other's body, and those things will stay there forever.
I mean, you can cover up or remove the tattoo, but sometimes it is not easy at all.
https://www.inkedmag.com/original-news/howfaristattoofar-season2
What makes you wanna do that to your sister, boyfriend, wife...?
What is that deep inside of us that is making us do horrible things. Even if you are hurt, why would you want your revenge on TV show? Why is there so much negativity inside of you? People accept to have a horrible tattoo, just ot give something more horrible to the person they are mad at.
What do we carry inside of ourselves, what do we feel?
Are we good?
Well, nobody is born bad, but, bad things are happening to everyone and those bad things are leaving marks, that is how people became bad, but deep down, under those marks people are still good, and if someone help them heal their trauma, they will be good again.
And, you go to this show just to put one more mark on yourself.
If you ask me, this show is great! It shows us what people are ready to do, just because they feel week because they are hurt. It is okay to be week, but you do not have to do bad things because of that. Heal far away from people who hurt you. You do not have to be around of them. Remeber, you cannot change people around you, but you can change people around you.
Things like this show are great to show us what people are ready to do. To show us what is around of us, how far people can go.
Of course, there are also some good things that are happening on this show. Actually, I am not sure if it is good to do those things on the show. But, for example, some propposals happened there.
Here is one clip from the show.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HyxW2riu3wU
I would love to hear what do you think about this.
Can you imagine what would have to happen to you to make you go there?
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
It always Takes more Time to Write...
... than to read.
I have seen this sentence somewhere, and I loved it. I really loved it. For example, my previous article takes 4 minutes to read, and it took me about an hour to write it. Some of the articles that people are writing here are taking a lot of time, because before they write them, they have to to some researches, to find many information, and only aftert that they are able to write. Of course, people who write, have to put effort in the writing too.
This was just one small example, and it was literal. The point is that you never know how much time and efoort does it take for someone to do something.
https://www.wbcsd.org/Programs/Climate-and-Energy/Energy/New-Energy-Solutions
You go to the museum, and for example, you see a painting, you like it or you do not like it, and it took you a couple seconds to see it. Many times, you do not know how much it took to be painted, you can never know how hard it was for the artist to make that painting that you are looking at.
We never know how muc effort people put into the things that they are doing. Artists, writers, lawyers, actors, doctors... You can see what they have done, but you almost never see them doing it. You do not see their struggle, their pain, their problems...
That is why you should appreciate them. You cannot know how much did they work, but you know, you always know that they did work. We all work, we all struggle and we all need respect. We all want to hear that we are good, that we did a good job, that our work was not a waste. We all love to hear something good. We need it.
https://saxoncrossfit.com/effort-makes-difference/
In case, that you do not have anything nice to say, in case that you do not appreciate someone and his or her work, do not say that. Do not say anything what is not nice. If you are very close to someone, you can criticize them, you can tell when something is not good, but when you are not close to someone you are not allowed to criticize.
Just let people be happy. Read or do not read, but do not talk about writing. If you want to say that something is good, say it. If you do not like something, do not insult.
Be positive, stay calm. Be the person who likes, who appreciates other people, who is there to say good things about good things that people are doing.
If you give good things, good things will be given to you.
Good things come when they are given, good things cycle in the universe. They go and come and go and come.
So, start the cycle today!
Be positive and be happy!
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
How to help, when you can't help?
Hello everyone, I am here with another article and another topic that is, in my opinion, very important.
Again, I had one very big break, but this time, I am here to stay!
Today's topic is sects and how to help all those people who are having problems with sects.
First of all I have to say that I am not a professional, and I cannot tell you how to defend yourself or other people from sects. Also, I cannot tell you how to pull someone out.
What I want to tell you here is that this is a problem that we should not turn our heads from. We have to know that there are many very dangerous sects, and that those are destroying lives of many people.
Sects are mostly focused to young people, and they are not strong enought to defend themselves.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_Dissenters
People in sects know how to convince young ones to join them, and that is where everything starts. After they became members, everything goes very, very fast. They are very close to death, and their lives are about to fall apart. That is what we need to stop.
First of all, we have to pay attention to our children. Young people, who are smart, but not confident enough are targets of sects. Young people whill nothave enough confidence, if they do not have enough love and attention. That is why we need to give all our love and lots and lots of attention to them. We have to know what they are doing, who are their friends, where are they going, what are they reading...
After that, we need to talk a lot about sects, we need to aware children how dangerous they are. They need to know that everything about sects is dangerous and disgusting. Maybe, at first it seems all nice and fun, but it is not.
https://signat.co.uk/articles/sects-religion/
Sects are something like the house of the witch from "Hansel andGretel" fairytale. Before they got in, it seemed like house made out of candy, but when they got in, they saw that house is actually scary and ugly. It is the same with sects. At first it looks glamurous, full of accolades and success. When they get in, they see how terrible it is.
Next problem is that 'terrible' becomes their normal. The moment when it becomes terrible is close, but untill that moment, their mind is washed, and for them, all what they see there is normal. They accept it and they live it.
That is why we need to make close relationships to our children, so we can see if something strange happens to them, and also we can protect them from ''strange'' things that can happen to them.
That is all what I can tell as a piece of advice for prevention. Again, I am not a professional, I just want to talk about this because it is important, and I want to make people pay attention to this important topic.
Next thing that I would love to say is that there are many lines that you can call for help in many countries, and even if there is not such line in your country you can always call the police or a therapist.
So, if you notice that someone has a problem and it seems to you like a sect, you should call the professionals, you should ask someone who is sure that you should do, and how you can help. Even if you cannot help, you will help by calling someone, who know what to do.
There are people, who are studying about sects, whole their lives, and they know how to help others.
And, what all of us can do, is to talk more about this, and make easier for people with this problem, to solve it.
Here in Serbia, where I am from, we are not talking enough about sects, and we do not know enough about them, and I am sure that situation is the same in many other countries all around the world. We need more professionals, police should pay more attention and we need more hot lines for help.
That was all for this article, I would really love to see your opinion on this topic.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ.
Human weakness is to desire...
...to know what one does not want to know.
Says Moliere, and he is totally right. We always try, really, really hard to find out what we actually do not want to know.
https://blog.bridgemanimages.com/blog/moli%C3%A8re
Here is one simple example, you are trying hard to find out who are your children's friends. And, you are trying, giving your best, finding many ways, and at the end, you find out, and you are terrified. You find out that they are doing drugs, that they are criminals, that they are alcoholics...
You did not wanted to know that, that is breaking your heart, that is making you scared, that is horrible.
One more example, you think that your partner is cheating on you, and you are doing various things to find out, or you do not do anything. Anyways, you find out that you are right. Your partner is cheating. That breaks your heart.
You found out one more thing that you never wanted to know.
At the same time you needed to know. You got me, I am sure. Those things are not what you wanted, are not how you wanted them to be. You found out what is destroying you now.
But, when you think a bit about it, maybe it is good for you to know, maybe it is better to know than to live like it is all right, and it is not all right.
https://careerintelligenceresumewriting.com/3-ways-talk-greatest-weakness-biggest-failure/
Again, it is all about the intuition, it pulls you to things that at the moment are not good, but when you think about them better it is much better to know than to do not know.
You cannot change some things, you cannot make them be different, you cannot change them, but you can accept them, you can fight with them, you can suffer and you can heal. I know that is hurts, and I know that life would be easier if you did not know that, but sometimes it is just better to know.
Now it is not good for you to know, but later it will be good for you to know, it will make you stronger, it will show you some important things.
What I wanted to say with this post is that your weakness now can be your strength later. What brings you down now, can make you fly tomorrow. Just accept things.
Do not think that it would be better if you never found them out, it would not.
Follow your stomach and use your weakness to make yourself stronger.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ.
Should Clothes Fit on Us?
Or should we fit into the clothes?
Last couple days everyone is talking about Met Gala, and that made me want to talk about it too.
https://www.vogue.fr/fashion/article/cardi-b-met-gala-2022-versace
First of all, I would love to say that there were many amazing creations, many amazing outfits that I really like a lot.
All of them were unique and original and they are teaching us that we should be original, that fashion is here to express ourselves, that we can wear whatever we feel like. And, that is okay, that is the great side of the fashion. We wear clothes that is expressing who and what we are. Actually, we are always chosing outfits that are expressing us.
https://www.alamy.com/new-york-ny-usa-2nd-may-2022gigi-hadid-in-versace-at-arrivals-for-met-gala-costume-institute-benefit-and-opening-of-in-america-an-anthology-of-fashion-part-1-the-metropolitan-museum-of-art-new-york-ny-may-2-2022-photo-by-kristin-callahaneverett-collection-credit-everett-collection-incalamy-live-news-image468816394.html
That is why we should talk a lot about fasion as a way to express our uniqueness. Wear clothes that is making you feel good about yourself. Wear clothes that is making you happy.
In my opinion, we should use things, and clothes are just things, no matter how pretty or expensive clothes is, that are making us feel good.
Material things are here to be used, not to be loved, admired, or whatever, they are here to be used. So, use clothes, do not change yourslef because of clothes.
Last couple days everyone is talking about Kim Kardashian and the dress she was wearing. She was wearing Marilyn Monroe's dress, and she had to lose 8kg to fit into the dress.
Many people, from all around the world support this and think that the dress is amazing, but there are also many people who think that this is wrong for many reasons.
It is very simple, if you cannot fit into the dress, do not wear it. If you want to lose weight, that is okay, do it, but not because of the dress.
Mariliyn has worn it and it is amazing dress, but it is still just a dress.
You are beautiful, Marilyn was beautiful, Kim is beautiful, we are all beautiful, and we should not change our bodies because of clothes.
There must be something what you can wear and what will suit you great. You right now, without losing weight or gaining weight, without changing anything on your body.
Be free to wear whatever you want to.
Once I saw on a video by one Serbian influencer, and in that video she was wearing a shorts. She got a comment that said that she should not be wearing that shorts, because it is short and tight, and she is 'fat', and she is not supposed to wear it. She replied to that comment and simply said that is she was not supposed to wear it, it will not be made in her size.
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.herzindagi.com%2Fhealth%2Fbody-shaming-and-its-effects-on-women-article-61103&psig=AOvVaw1gZLQq2zzWXecIq0zF0HeX&ust=1652121947220000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAwQjRxqFwoTCMiJsoLI0PcCFQAAAAAdAAAAABAD
That is all.
That is self confidence, that is slef love, that is the only right answer to the evil person who is body shaming anyone.
I say evil person, because I believe that people who are body shaming anyone are evil. We should not body shame anyone because of anything. If someone is skinny that is okay, if someone is short that is okay, if someone had plastic surgeries that is okay.
Let people live.
Stop making people think that beauty has a size of model or standard. It does not.
Enjoy your life, and love your body, your mind and your soul.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
It is not what you see...
... It is what you feel.
Only what is really real, what is really true, what is really important, is what you feel.
I truly believe that we, deep inside of ourselves, always feel what is good for us, just sometimes we do not listen to that feeling.
And, that can lead us to big mistakes sometimes, that can lead us to the edge sometimes. Trust yourself. Trust your stomach!
If you feel in your stomach, that something is not good, it is not and if you feel that you should od something, you should. Do not wait someone to tell you what is good for you.
I am not trying to say that your mind should go off, and that you should not think about things that you are going to do. What I am trying to say is that you should pay attention to your intuition, because it can bring you many good things.
And, one more thing that I would love to tell you about feelings is not about your intuition, it is about energy around you.
People sometimes are not what you think they are, they are sometimes hiding a lot of things from you, and they want you to see things that do not really exist.
https://cosmosmagazine.com/science/physics/what-is-energy/
That is the moment when you should put aside what you saw, and trust the energy you felt. Energy does not lie, it cannot lie. It is real. If you feel something negative, it is negative, no matter what people around you are trying to show you.
People cannot fake their energy, no matter what they do. They can pretend that they are good, that they are confident, that they are whatever, but their energy can never pretend.
Trust yourself, no matter what happens. Trust what you feel. Energy is real, intuition is real.
If I get a Smile...
Once upon a time, in one country, one man jumped off a bridge.
On the place where he jumped off, police found a message that says 'I am going to the bridge, and I want to jump, but, if only one person, only one, smiles at me, I will come back home and I will not jump'. As you can guess, nobody smiled at him and he killed himself.
https://www.allplan.com/industry-solutions/bridge-engineering-software/
This maybe is not true, maybe it is just a story written by someone, who wanted to mention some important things. But, it is heartbreaking. It is sad. Very, very sad and very, very true.
You can get out of your home and walt trough whole town without getting any smile. People are no longer kind to each other. You can smile to someone with no reason, you can say something nice to someone you do not know with no reason, you can do many kind small things with no reason.
That can make someone's day, that can make someone feel better, that can make someone be less sad.
Of course, nobody's life should depend on kindness of strangers, but, why not? I mean why do not be kind, if you can be kind?
We lost the empathy. We do not care about other anymore. If we are okay, everything is okay, and that is wrong. We are not alone. We are a small part of big society. Sometimes we do not realize how much we need other people. Strangers. People we have ever even seen, and we will never see them.
We are all small parts of one big thing, we are all parts of society as I said before.
Make someone happy, one nice, happy moment. It costs nothing to be a nice person.
We are all obssesed with being pretty, rich and successful.
Let's be pretty kind, pretty good person...
Let's be rich with friends, with good memories, positive feelings.
It is a success to make someone happy even for a moment.
Next time when you see a upset person on the street smile on him or her. You probbably will not save a life, but you have a pretty good chance to save a day.
That is my short message for you today, I hope that you agree with me and that you love making others happy as much as I do.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
Joker of the Pack...
... can still defeat the King.
This proverb is here to show us some very important things. Actually, not to show us, we already know it, we have already seen it. It is supposed to remind us of how life can change in no time, how people can be a lot of things that they do not seem like being.
https://www.alamy.com/the-joker-in-the-pack-image3172397.html
And, that is why we should be careful and full of respect. No matter are you a king or the joker of the pack, things can change for you.
I am not trying to say that people out there are trying to defeat you all the time, I am trying to tell you to keep working on yourself and to always respect everyone.
I am sure that you all remeber the story about rabbit and turtle. They had a race, and turtle wes running all the time, she gave her best, while rabbit was making jokes, resting, eating, doing everythig but running. At the end, turtle come to the finish line first. She won.
https://www.dreamstime.com/rabbit-turtle-tales-discussing-competition-image197535962
We all know that rabbit is faster than turtle, but he was not serious about this race, he knew he is better and he was thinking that no matter what he do, he will stay better.
That is happening to many people out there, many people out there think that their opponents are 'turtles', and that they can win wherever they want to.
Do not do that, ever.
There are so many people out there, who are working really hard, who are giving their best, and at one point that will bring good things to them. That has to happen, that is happening. When people work hard at the end they get something good.
Good things happpen to people who deserve it. And, people who work hard really deserve it.
So, be the person who works hard all the time. If you are the jocker of the pack, by working hard you will become the king, you will be better and better. And, in case that you are already a king, hard working will make you even stronger and better and jokers will not be able to defeat you.
https://stickybranding.com/the-value-of-hard-work-because-hard-work-is-a-value/
That is how things are going. Work hard, stay focused and results will come to you. Today, in a month, in a year, but trust me, at some point they have to come, they have to be there, because they are yours.
Nobody can take from you things that are really yours, and things that you gain by working hard on yourself, are really yours. Things you know and things you can will stay with you forever.
Stay calm, work hard, focus on your goals,
and be the king!
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
The Painful History of Industrial Law
In the past I was writing some articles about painful history of some branches of medicine. I written about surgery, plastic surgery and psychiatry. So, if you are interested into that, you can read them by simply clicking on those links. https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/the-painful-history-of-surgery-51205116 https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/the-painful-history-of-plastic-surgery-4d05b484 https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/the-painful-history-of-psychiatry-97166298
Today, I decided to write about painful history about one branch of law. As you can see by the title, it is industrial law, and trust me, it have history that was more than painful.
Industrial law is a branch of law and jurisprudence that is all about labour. It is about laws that are regulating labour and rights of workers.
Tomorrow is the 1st of May and that made me think a bit about workers, about people who were workers in the past, and people who were fighting for the rights of working people.
People were working since the beginning of everything, people were doing various things, because they had to. It is very simple, you have to do something in order to survive. That is why we can talk about workers, but we cannot talk about industrial law, because that work in the prehistory was not regulated by any law, and we did not have any sources of law that would regulate duties and rights of workers. Also, in this period everyone was a worker, everone had to do something, we hadn't rich people who were hiring others to work for them.
In the ancient period we had slaves in Greece, Rome, Egypt and other less known ancient civilisations. During this period slaves were working for food, place to live and clothes. We have some sources that say that slaves in Egypt were working for food and beer and that they also were getting some money for their work. This is showing us that those people were not as poor as we usually think when someone says 'slaves'.
https://afripinion.com/the-first-jewish-lie-the-old-testament-fabrication-that-the-israelites-were-slaves-in-egypt/
Also, some sources say that in the ancient Greece they did not wanted to use some machines, that they knew for in that period, because they had many slaves, and it costed less to use the strength of those people, than to make machines. For example, in ancient Greece they knew for steam engine, but they never made it and they never used it, because coal and wood costed much more than slaves. That is showing us two things. First, they had many slaves, many people were not free, and second, there was many of them, much more than they actually needed, which meants that they were not working too much.
https://www.greecehighdefinition.com/blog/slave-markets-in-ancient-greece-the-price-list-the-duties-and-the-rights-of-slaves
In ancient Rome, slaves were private property of their owner. He could kill them, sell them, use them and set them free. Slaves were not treated like human beings in Rome. In ancient Rome they had law for citizens of Roma, law for foregin people, and law for things. Law for things regulated everything about slaves.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/666392076093165537/
Also, in Roma there were free people, who were service providers. Those people were making various things, and doing various things, which were very useful, but they were not very respected.
Anyways, they were free workers. But, we still do not have a employment, we only have a service contract.
Time is passing and we are now in the middle age. During this period most people were serfs. They were working on the land of feudals and they had to give part of their products to the feudal. They were not free and sometimes they had to work a lot to make enough for the feudals and for them, also they sometimes had to go to the war, when their feudal call them. They were in a bit better situation than slaves, but they still were not free, and we still cannot talk about employment.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZAhNFRGkZY
In this period we also have manufacture, in middle age cities, there were people, masters, who were making some products or providing some services. Those people were working, usually for themselves, they had helpers, who were working for them and learning from them. Masters had power ower their tiros, and sometimes they treated them like things. But, later, when they learn everything about the proffession, they could leave their master and make their own small business.
That is the phrase, small business. Manufacture is pretty similar to the small business we have nowadays. People, who are working for themselves. Making something and selling it. Nobody guarantees them anything. You make it and if you are lucky enough, you will find someone to buy it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-ojG17MDFw
In this period, guilds were formed. Guild is a association of masters who are doing same thing, for example guilde of bakers or guilde of blacksmiths. In those associatins they were helping each other when it was needed.
Important thing here is that again nobody had any obligation. You were not obligated to be in a guild. It could be good for you, but it was up to you.
And, what is also very important to say here, during the ancient period and middle age, state, government, rulers were not doing anything to protect working people. They depended on the people they were working for and on themselves. State was not interested.
Later, we will see that as religion was going 'down', human rights were going 'up'. As religion had less and less influence to people, human rights were more and more important. Working people, who was watched as weak and poor, realized how powerful they can be together.
Now, we will see how they realized how powerful they are.
https://www.sciencephoto.com/media/362695/view/crystal-factory-19th-century
Working class was formed during the 19th century. In this period those people forced liberal capitalism. That means that they were free. There was not any law that regulater slavery anymore. People were not slaves, they were workers. They could chose will they work. Actually, they could not, they had to work if they wanted to survive, but it up to them to chose will they work and eat or they will die.
In this period everyone worked, men, women, old people, children, everyone. Since the early childhood till death. People were dying in the mines and factories.
https://www.agefotostock.com/age/en/details-photo/england-children-s-work-in-coal-mines-in-le-magasin-pittoresque-19th-century/POH-DFS09A04_303
If you are interested into this topic, you can find many stories and many date about that in Industrial Law classbooks, in some movies, on the Internet, and in some novels written by Chalres Dickens. One of the most popular is definitely Oliver Twist.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1065309/
That period was horrible for working people. As I said they were dying on their work places, because if they do not come to work they will not get paid which means they will not have money to pay rent, to buy food or medicines.
In this period we have a labour rent contract. That is a contract where the owner of factory, for example, is renting someone's labour. So, you work, you get money. You are selling your work. The moment you stop working is the moment when you will stop getting money. You are not slave by the law, but you are by the economy. You are free to stop working, but that will lead you to the death. Salaries were miserable, and people could not save money for the period when they are old, or for the case they get sick. That is why wery old people, pregnant women, sick people were working.
Conditions of work were horrible.
https://www.businesspundit.com/10-most-momentous-strikes-of-the-20th-century/
And people started to realize that this kind of, well I can say of living, because they work was the biggest part of their lives, is not leading anywhere.
That is the period where workers were making protests, they were destroying machines, they were attacking their bosses, and the states paid attention to that.
First laws that were regulating conditions of work, salaries and position of workers, were enacted.
http://historymatters.gmu.edu/d/5291
And, now we can talk about employed people, about employment and employment contracts.
After that we have two world wars and we have some new ideologies, actually some old ideologies become the leading ones, one of them was nacism, which was not good at all for some groups of working people, and the other one was comunism, which was good for working people.
As time was passing, everything was happening much faster, workpeople are getting more and more rights, bigger salaries, insurance, retirement, shorter working time...
Now, we even have a holyday that is all about workingpeople and work in a good form. We are celebrating 1st of May as a day that is here to remind us of what workingpeople passed trough and about how working process should look like.
In modern world, we have some countries where working week lasts only 4 days, people in some countries work 6 hours per day, salaries are getting bigger and bigger, working process in any branches is getting easier for the workers. People are satiesfied and they are more and more productive.
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fgenesishrsolutions.com%2Fpeo-blog%2Fassessing-employee-satisfaction%2F&psig=AOvVaw23biiwgSYh6sfSKru008ov&ust=1651444569876000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAwQjRxqFwoTCIiGuc_svPcCFQAAAAAdAAAAABAD
Workingman is not a thing anymore, he is not there to work till he fall, he is a person, appreciated person, and we are grateful to him for everything.
Unfortunately, this medal has two sides, one of the, the bright one, is the one I just described. Workers in developed countries.
Other side, the dark one, are workingpeople in some other countries that are still very poor, where workingpeople still do not know how important they are and do not work for living, they still work to survive. We can still see children working, old people working, women and men working for 16 hours per day, and all that for a couple dollars per month.
https://labs.theguardian.com/unicef-child-labour/
It seems that some countries are still in the 19th century, and that has to change.
On this 1st of May, I want to remind all of you about that people, that children, that world. I want to talk about that. I want all of us to talk about that, because if we talk about that, those people will realize how much they can, they will rise their voice and they will solve their problems. They will change their world.
Everyone deserves to work for living and to live. Let's leave surviving in the 19th century and move on the the 21st century.
Please, think about this,
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
@SuncicaZ
