Stop saying sorry for....
We've used the word "sorry" so much, and even when it's not supposed to be used, we've started to associate it with our personal lives which isn't the best.
You might be wondering what inspired me to write something like this; it came from a trend I saw a few weeks ago, so I just remembered it in my head and had to write it down. The trend was about a question asked by someone, and it went like this:
Why do people say sorry for other people's mistakes?
I'd been thinking about what the answer to this question was, and I finally came up with something that made sense to me, and I'd also be talking about things people should stop apologizing for.
In my opinion, people say sorry for other people's mistakes to make them feel like someone cares about them. I'm not saying that saying sorry for other people's mistakes isn't a good thing, but when it's done too often, it becomes "obsequious."
If you're unfamiliar with the term "obsequious," let me define it for you in simple terms. When you hear the word "obsequious," it refers to an act of demonstrating obedience to please others rather than oneself.
Let me discuss certain things for which individuals should no longer apologize for;
Being busy (your own time).
Wanting to change your life.
Needing time for yourself.
Other's mistake.
1.Being busy (your own time).
This has been the most recent trend; people say sorry for being busy, which is improper because you are doing so to please others and be obedient to them; you are in control of your time and can choose how you want to use it; being busy should not allow you to say sorry for not attending to others; it is our time, so we can use it to engage in whatever we want to do, and we should not apologize for doing so.
2.Wanting to change your life.
You don't need to apologize or say sorry for making a change in your life, which includes the people you surround yourself with and how you interact with them; you shouldn't apologize or say sorry for taking another step of change because doing so would only demonstrate your obedience to them and make you please others rather than yourself.
3.Needing time for yourself.
People nowadays often say sorry for needing time for themselves; however, the time is ours and not theirs, so why would we say sorry before using our own time? It sounds strange to the ear, and if you think about it, we are pleasing others rather than ourselves, which isn't the best. We don't need to say sorry for needing time for ourselves; instead, we should use the time because it is ours and not saying sorry to please others.
4.Other's mistake.
As we all know, we learn from other people's mistakes so that we don't repeat the same mistakes. We don't need to apologize for other people's faults because it won't remove the mistakes they made, though it does make them feel better. However, saying it frequently isn't the best.
In conclusion.
We become obsequious if we say sorry all the time to please others and be submissive to them, which appears to be the case. We need to realize our worth and not strive to make others happy while denying ourselves of our own happiness.
While making a change in our lives to become a better person, we should not apologize to others for changing our attitude or lifestyle from the person they knew us to be previously; our lifestyle change does not necessitate our saying sorry to others.
It's the weekend again, which means we can spend good and quality time with our loved ones. Since this is the only time we have with them, let's try to make the most of it by going to the cinema or doing anything else that will make them happy.... I hope you're all having a good time this weekend.
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I wrote something similar to this yesterday with the title unapologetic.