From the moment man came into being, parents also came into being. We have to admit how many people and parents of different types, nations, races, mentalities…
As a child I did not have many encounters with children who have some health or mental problems, or at least we did not recognize it. Children do not make a difference when it comes to other children. He sees them with his simple gaze just as he sees himself. For them, there are no invalids, autists, deaf-mute or blind people. They unreservedly help to solve these obstacles in children's play. But these are all features of early childhood.
However, I did not want to write about children with special needs, but about their parents and how they accept the situation with the child. According to the research "Stress in families with children with special needs", back in 2000 in Kragujevac, out of 50 samples made, 18 families were complete, ie. They included mom and dad and another child. Two families were with two or more children with special needs, unfortunately they were single-parent families.
The results were devastating…
Most parents denied the shortcomings of their children and the accompanying result was that the mothers hid the shortcomings of their children and considered it a disgrace for her as a mother and her family?!?!?!
Rarely has a parent understood the problem they face in retardation problems and similar oligophrenological forms of the problem. The presence of depression in the mother was in all possible forms. Self-blame is one of the accompanying elements of parents of children with autism and motor disorders and behavioral disorders. As the cooperation between children and parents grew, so did the self-blame.
Great emphasis was placed on rejection from the family, especially in rural and backward areas where children with special needs were selected as a mockery and disgrace for that family, family and even for parents.
One case is the story of a mother with two blind children in whom blindness arose as a hereditary factor. After the birth of the first son, the child's mother asked for the cause of the child's blindness to be investigated, and the findings indicated a DNA factor and that the combination of the father's and mother's genes led to that deficiency. Not believing in these findings and results, the mother gives birth to another child also with blindness. The father is inconsolable, leaves the family and leaves the mother to take care of two blind children on her own.
It is amazing how much energy and positive we found in families where the parents of a deaf person with children are also deaf by nature. "Easy" communication is the key to functioning in all families. Where it is aggravated, the degree of parental depression and accompanying neuroses and psychotic episodes increases.
With this text, I wanted to show that where there are children with special needs, parents also have problems in functioning, just like their children. Unfortunately, many triggers are in the difficult economic situation of the society where such families live. Without the support of their society and the help of associates, many such families are in a desperate state.
Now that we have looked at other people and their stories, I wish you a happy and joyful day.
The photos used in this article are taken from the site www.google.com
Literature from the professional library FASPER Belgrade, 2020.
This is amazing,