I wish I'm an only child too

June 02, 2022

"Having a real best of friends that will never betray you as you came from the same womb is the most beautiful thing ever"-mommykim

I am having a break with the 30-days challenge as I was just caught up with my conversation with Mum earlier during our video call. Mum was concerned as my niece was always saying this when she's pissed at her sister.

"I wish I'm an only child too"

This was what my 9-year old niece told Mum the other day while they we're lying down last night. And my mum was just relaying them all earlier while we we're talking. This happens most of the times, especially when she's pissed her sisters.

My niece have two younger siblings including Baby Alex whom my son is so fond of. And as I observed her being the eldest, she was sometimes tasked to take care of her younger sisters since her parents are both working. At 9-year old,feeding the baby while tutoring her sister with the module, making milk solutions so that she won't have to hurry if the baby get thirsty after, changing diapers, tidying the room after waking up and taking care of their hygiene(includes my son), doing bath as she's the one capable of thoroughly cleaning their bodies and scrubbing them.

This takes me back to the article of Madam Jane about her being the breadwinner even though she's the third child. I even commented that I also wished to be the eldest so I can have the privilege to scold my sisters, lol!!

I also heard my niece before saying that " I wish I could also be Tita Inday's baby" because all of them can see how I tend to my son most of the time when I'm home as I was filling in the days I'm not with him because of my work.

"Don't say that, don't you know how nice it is to have siblings?"

I even told her these before but since she's still a kid maybe she then don't understand it for now but I know one day she'll realize how nice it is to have siblings.

I also understand her side though. Four years of being the only child that makes the house livelier before her little sister came in the picture, and then followed by my son whom was the only boy and then baby Alex. She was the apple of our eye and then out of the blue she became the on handling stuffs that not even suitable for her age. I can sense where she came from by saying those.

As I said, I can't scold my sisters for I am in no position to disrespect them for we are thought not to do so, but sometimes I put the blame on the parents especially my sister for not letting the child adjust first for having a sister. Mum told me that we we're also three siblings before but the difference between us and my niece is they had a little age gap difference.

Me and my sisters came in consecutive years one after another. When my Ate was one year old, the middle came and a year after that I was also born so we only had a year gap while my niece had a four years gap so the adjustment is not quite handy to begin with and after four years of having a sister came a little sister again and God knows if when will be the next one coming if ever. 1-1-1 to 4-4-4 is quite different though lol!!.

When she and her sister bicker, she always run to Mum and saying that she just wished she's the only child. This kept on happening every time some situations occur that she doesn't like.

When me and Mum were talking about her earlier she came in and joined the conversation, and being the Tita I am who loves giving her advises (that usually don't apply to me, lol) as she always listen to me I said this to her earlier.

When Tita Ate(our eldest) and your Mama(middle) bickers, Tita Ate will pinch her cheeks as you Mum's chubby before. Instead of hitting back, your mum will just laugh it off as the pinch is not that painful as your mum said and we ended up laughing and playing again. And then they bicker and then make up again.

When Amber(the one in next to her) shares a bed with you, you two both sleep late as you we're talking things only you two understands that Mamay would scold you to go to sleep already.
Then you wake up and you will asked your sister to help you fold the mattress and put it on the closet while laughing at some silly jokes your making.
You get to have a partner in doing those cooking era with the leaves outside and you often get to build the doll house together.
You see having a sibling is nice as you have a playmate forever. Don't ever say that you wish to be an only child like your cousin. You see how he cares for Alex right, that's how thirsty he is on having a sister, for being an only child doesn't make him glad. Not that I can give him one in an instant though. You might not understand my point right now but I know one day you'll understand it, but for now, learn to accept that you have now your sisters that you need to look out, as a big sister to them.

She then told me that she was just envious with her cousin but she's enjoying tending her sisters although sometimes it's tiring.

That's my girl.

Most days, siblings bicker on useless stuffs but the day will not pass without them reconciling with each other.
I can attest to that since me and my sisters are like that. We're mad at the other and we sometimes throw harsh words but after the day you will see us squeezed in our parents bed and talking nonsense stuffs and laughing together like nothing happened.
Mum always said this to us that it's normal to bicker but you shouldn't let the day pass that you are not talking with each other because it will get worse in the long run.

That's it for me as I was so caught up writing this.
Honestly the start of the month is really hectic for me as my work requires a lot of my time as it always will be like the past few months also last year.

But still trying my best to do good here as also it still the first two days of the month.

Thank you for reading!
@mommykim