“If a man shaves in the morning, he does it for the community, if he shaves at night, he does it for his wife, so I always cut my beard at night.”
The owner of these words is my father, who is 73 years old today, I have heard him say this many times and he always stood by his word, he always shaved his beard at night. This was one of the visual manifestations of his love and respect for my mother, my father was an educated figure of an old and uneducated life, so he was never stingy in showing his love for my mother.
"A man who loves his job shaves in the morning, and a man who loves his wife shaves in the evening" (proverb)
I, on the other hand, always shave in the morning, which shows that I am for the community. I'm happy with that because I don't have anyone in my life right now, it doesn't bother me to admit that I'm doing it for the community.
Instead of constantly saying I love you to someone, showing this love in different ways and forms can turn into a more effective and lasting love over time, it is nice to be loved, but it will be more attractive to see and feel loved. When we look at those who shout out their love, they change lovers almost as if they change shirts, but those who choose to show, feel and even prove their love continue until they enter the grave with the woman or man they fell in love with in their youth. This may be an indication of the great love, respect and mutual understanding they have experienced over the years.
Think about it, you will live your life in your 20s with someone you joined in your 70's, and you will taste death as a person who has kept the oath of "until death do us part", and you will face the advantages or disadvantages of monogamy all your life.
Even though this is a bit contrary to today's lifestyles, it does not prevent you from enjoying that great love that everyone will look up to. After all, no matter what mindset you are, closing your eyes with someone you open your eyes to can be a tremendous family and marriage success.
We can agree that marriage is a sacred institution, but we may differ in the conduct of marriage, that is, this sacred institution, but the struggle is common, not to break the framework of a holy marriage!
Sometimes water can flow from the roof, insects can get in through the holes, the establishment can get dirty, it can emit bad smells, but respect and loyalty are the strongest columns, other elements can be eliminated in some way unless something happens to the main columns.
Whatever the reason, the end of respect can lead to feelings of lovelessness, hatred, and disgust, while infidelity would be placing dynamite in the middle of the sacred house that would blow up the roof and the walls at the same time. Even if the person who puts the dynamite and the person who ignites the dynamite is not the same person, the result does not change, the marriage framework breaks down, creating gaps that cannot be replaced and continued.
The fly is small but it is nauseous, when a fly gets into your soup, you spill all the soup on the plate, even the thought of drinking it is disgusting, you don't drink even your favorite soup. The initiation of disrespect and the completion of other processes leading to infidelity is like a fly in the soup.
We should not play too much with some dynamics that are formed and accepted by the society, it is one of those dynamics in marriage. Today, when there are millions of single men and women, presenting oneself to someone who is blessed and bound by marriage is to seduce him, to act only with the ambition of obtaining, to assume an inferior character, people with this character are excluded both in society, between spouses and in beliefs.
Protecting the fact of being a family and the roof of marriage should not be limited to the people under the roof. This is a task that is not crossed out and has no reward, to be done without expectation. Every responsible individual can take part in this protection wall, even if he is not married today, protecting the marriage roof he will have in the future is a job he will start today. States have ministries related to family and women. The main purpose here is to protect the family framework and to go to the next generations in a healthier way, the fact that children grow up in the family roof and spend time with their parents will contribute to the reality of a healthy society.
Everyone should take an active role as a responsible citizen and responsible gender here, and what is meant by responsible gender is to observe positive discrimination at the point of protection of the same. It's like protecting the woman if you're a woman, or protecting the man if you're a man.
I'm not talking about a subjective approach or gender discrimination, I'm talking about the attitude or support you can get at the point of protecting the dynamics of society. Everyone can warn their fellow wrongdoers or support their victims, but they cannot take sides with injustice. Social dynamics and marriage framework prevent you from creating this.
Love and respect are the leading feelings for the community to be more connected, the more these feelings develop in people, the tighter the society becomes. Especially the love that can be shown and felt is our greatest weapon, and respect is our defense.
Thank you for reading.
Nice words from your lolo. It makes sense at all. I think most of the people shave their beard in th morning, you lolo sounds weird but it must be a really good feeling to have a husband like him. Your mother is so blessed to have him. I hope hell have a long life.