Ways to become Emotionally Independent

 When we think of a situation where we are being dependent on someone or something, it doesn't seem right at all, right? Isn’t so disappointing to think that we had to rely on others to solve our problems because we can’t do it without them. Well, it doesn't always happen because we really can’t solve all the dilemmas we are facing just by ourselves. 

In my case, I can literally say that I am so independent in many situations. For example, when I turned 15 years of age, I started to be independent in my financial needs. I was the one who supported my studies and I never asked my parents even cents after that. Therefore, I am the one who helped them if I had some extra to give them. In my family, if you are already a teenager, you must know how to do all kinds of household chores like basic cooking, cleaning, washing your own clothes and many more.

But being Emotionally Independent was hard for me, I always yearn for attention, advice and I can’t decide alone in most of the cases as I wanted to be open. so, what is emotional dependence?

Emotional dependence - is a state of mind which we have all experienced at some point. It’s when your mind is full of uncertainty, you are indecisive, other people manipulate you and affect you in some ways (usually negative), you let everyone treat you the way they want and feel vulnerable, dependent, weak and confused.

As I wanted to become Emotionally independent, I browsed in my Pinterest account to look for some ways to become one. I know it will help me so maybe it will help you too. Here are some of them that I got.

The first thing you must do is Accept yourself. 

Accepting yourself is one of the best ways to become emotionally independent. We know that we are not perfect at all so we must accept ourselves and accept all your flaws! Acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses, Assess yourself, know thyself and have a great desire to improve to become that new “YOU”. For sure it will help us to become a better version of ourselves.

Let go of the past. 

Being stuck with the past won’t help us to move on and step forward. Don’t let your past determine your future but we can use it as a motivation to keep on going. Don’t let yourself be stuck in your past, try to let go! Oh, come on just don’t keep on chasing that someone who doesn’t see your worth at all. Accept, forget, forgive and learn is the key.

Accept your failures, your mistakes, your wrong decisions in life and your regret because all of these are done and you can’t change that fact. Forget those negativities they are throwing at you and those unessentials, forgive yourself, forgive others, forgive everything that can be a hindrance for you to become emotionally independent. After that, try to learn from it, reflect on your actions, learn from your failures and try to make it successful, learn from your mistakes and regrets.

Decide for yourself.

 As long as you can, please avoid relying on someone else just for your own good. Don’t let them manipulate your decisions in life, do not let them push you and change your mind. Decide for yourself, speak for yourself, do not be afraid to share what is on your mind and try to say it out loud without hesitation. It is your life and not them. Be yourself. Define exactly what you want to do in your life, trust yourself, trust the process and be confident enough in whatever you say, whatever you do and whatever you think. 

Don’t get too attached to people.

“If you see the world through someone else’s eyes, you most probably depend too much on them”

You need to analyze your relationship with them and see if you are too dependent on your family, friends and loved ones. We all have different perspectives in our life and how we see the world. If you are too attached to them, it will be hard for you to become independent as you always think that they are with you no matter what or whatever happens. Try to step at your own feet! (Huwag kang dumbell sis).

You must try to avoid expecting more from others so that you won’t be disappointed in them and it will help you to become emotionally independent!

Accept judgement and criticism

It will be hard especially if you are not open to listening to others when they are pointing out your wrongdoings. There will always be feedback in whatever you do, some people might judge it so avoid pleasing everyone and hear what you expect that they will answer you in their respective manners.

Do not be too dependent on their opinions, sometimes it is better to trust ourselves rather than relying on what society thinks will be better for you. 

We can simply express our compassion, respond mannerly, show love and appreciation so we can achieve to be emotionally independent.

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And in the of my article, I want to share this video that tackles being emotionally mature :) I suggest watching it and will surely worth the time

Author's Note:

• Article #76

• July 14, 2021

  Hi! I just want to say how thankful I am to all of you for dropping by and read my article today. As I was being inactive for a couple of days to take a break and think for the meantime if I will enroll this sem lol. I am still undecided but I wish to have a better decision this time. I have come to think that sharing this article with you can help you to become independent with your emotions too. If you have some feedback just leave a comment below and I will be glad to read and appreciate it. Once again, this is caris the cutie one in the world of read.cash.

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