It's complicated

Last week I read @BreadChamp's Why fight for it if it's not worth it? Exactly! Why would you fight for someone if it is not worth it? Have you ever fought for someone before? What happened? Are you still together or not anymore? Did you choose love over family or vice versa? Seems like a very good topic to talk about right but I am not going to talk about that now as I am not feeling well since this morning.

This article is about some random situational questions amongst couples that I read from the said article. But anyone who is not in a relationship can still answer these questions. I told her last time that I like these kind of questions so here are my answers:

If your partner hides your photos on social media, is it ok for you?

Who would want to be kept as a secret? This usually happens if you both have a complicated and unlabelled relationship. Complicated because either one of you are in a relationship with another person. In short, third party. Though it can also be complicated because you are not yet allowed to be in a relationship because your parents said so. This is something that I can relate to. I cannot post a photo of the 2 of us together because my mom does not allow me to have a boyfriend that does not meet her criteria. So our pictures were just saved on my phone. Though I have some photos taken with some other guys and also one-on-one photos with them but my mom did not question about those because she knows that they were just my workmates. We cannot escape our mother's intuition. Remember that mothers know best. My past flirtationship never questioned me about hiding our photos together. He also liked that because for a playboy like him, it will just cause trouble for his other girls.

Going back to the question, if we are both legal, of course it would not be ok for me if he won't upload a photo of me or us on his social media accounts. Because I know there are a lot of reasons as to why he would do that.

Is it considered one-sided relationship if your partner is not 100% open to you?

I do not think so. Because there are some couples that are not 100% open to each other yet they are not considered as one-sided relationship. We sometimes hide things from other people especially to our partners because of a lot of reasons. For me, a one-sided relationship is when the other person does not love you or does not care about you totally. But of course I want a relationship wherein we would tell each other about everything even if it would hurt our feelings.

You opened your partner's social media once, is it okay that your partner changed her/his login right ahead?

I know there is one article that I have read before that she was the one who opens his partner's social media and she also replies whenever her partner receives some messages especially if it was from her partner's exes. I am sorry if I forgot your name.

Personally, I do not like opening someone else's social media accounts aside from my brother's. LOL. When I was still promoting some of my Facebook pages, I would borrow his phone and I would send page requests to all the people on his list. Then he will just be surprised when those people had accepted his request to like my pages. LOL. Anyway, if it was my partner's social media accounts, all the more that I do not want to open it because for me, it is his own private account. It is not a joint account where one can pry on it. Then I would end up getting hurt if I will see that my partner is flirting with other girls. I gave him my full trust and it is up to the person if he will cheat on me. Actions speak louder than words. You would feel it if a person is cheating on you or not. No need for opening someone else's social media accounts. There was a couple whom I know off personally who had access to each other's accounts but the guy was still able to cheat on the girl without traces on social media and also on call and text logs. They were always together everyday. When the boyfriend drops his girlfriend at the house, she would time her boyfriend and would call at her boyfriend's house if he was already home. Back then video calls were not yet a thing. But the guy was still able to cheat on the girl. I do not know how but if a person will cheat, they will find ways to cheat.

Is this type of relationship already a toxic one?

It depends. If it has been what the couple had agreed upon from the start, then it is not toxic.

Is it still worth fighting for if you have already tried your best in your relationship?

If I feel like there's really no hope for the both of us then I do not want to push for it any longer. I already did and tried my best. If we are really meant for each other, we would find our way back to each other at the right time.

When can you say that it is over?

When he say that it is really over between the two of us. Ouch!

Do years in a relationship matter to you?

I have only been in a "flirtationship" twice. The first one was my first love and it only lasted less than 6 months but it was like we have been together for so long. With the second one, though we did not exchange I love you and other sweet messages, it lasted for almost 5 years. Yes sometimes he made me feel that I was special but it was with my first love where I really felt that I was in love.

How would you want to answer all of this if you were asked these questions? Do you have access to your partner's social media accounts? Why or why not?

P.S. lead image is a photo with my second flirtationship