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Separating from your parents at a certain age don't apply here in the Philippines, compared to foreign countries like USA and Korea. I never really thought of it when I reached 18 nor when I started working. But as adulting hits me, and as a 25 year old woman, I've been thinking of moving out a couple of times. This will be the biggest decision that I'll be doing yet. I'm listing down my expenses one by one, which I haven't done, never. Just planning on moving out itself stresses me. I'm torn between living with my family and get whatever I need easily or living alone to help myself grow to be a strong independent woman.
If it's comfort that I want, I won't be thinking of being away with my parents and siblings. They literally helped me a lot to make my life easier. I don't even have to do any household chores. However, I want something that will make me change and help me get a visual of how life truly is. As of now, since I'm with my parents the only thing that I get myself responsible for is the allowance I gave every cutoff to my parents and sometimes, I treat my family for meals and snacks. That doesn't cost a lot to be honest.
Since I am the type of person who always explore outside of my comfort zone, here I am already moved out of our home and living with my fur baby. Being a furmom is expensive, I might make a different article about it soon. Going back, after giving it a lot of thoughts, I finally decided to live a solo life and hold myself responsible for me and my dog.
I expected that buying the appliances I'll be needing will be expensive but detergent powder, fabric conditioner and my toiletries suprised the hell out of me. I never thought that they are that pricey and I need to buy them every month! Good thing is I was able to save enough to sustain my first month alone. I already bought enough for this month. Now here's the deal, I thought after moving out I'll live a free of stress life, but my wallet is shaking for the bills. Before, I don't have to think about electricity, water and internet bills. Right now, they were all in my hands. In addition, I also have rent fee to pay. Now I know why adults fear the word due date.
As of now, I am still in the process of adjusting on being by myself. But I know sooner, I'll appreciate it more. I get homesick from time to time but I still managed to pull it through. You just need to have a strong mind and you just have to stand with your choice. I can say that I'm enjoying myself being alone because I can do whatever I want without the need to ask permission from my parents. Though I still miss them from time to time like a baby. I have to face the responsibilities alone from the time I decided to moved out. I accepted that having a social life is something I need to give up. I guess this is the only good this pandemic brings. Going out is prohibited if it's non-essential. Also, I am working from home, so I don't really have any reason to go out. I guess being single here is a good start as well. Haha!
I don't plan on renting my whole life. With God's grace, I hope I can save enough for me to have my own house and lot and for my parents too. It will take a while, I know. I want to take it slowly. Just one goal at a time. I know I can achieve my goals if I put my mind into it. As Cong TV said, "It's just a matter of the law of attraction". I'm attracting all positivity and I don't welcome any negativity in my life, may it be thoughts or person. We can do this! One step at a time. Brave souls, if you have the determination to achieve your goal, then you're halfway there. Goodluck!
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It isn't easy starting a new life alone. The responsibilities and all can weigh one down. Your sis is doing a great job so far, thank God she has her fur babies as companions