A Broken Home

"Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often it is the place where we find the deepest heartache."

-IYANLA VANZANT-

Every person has different stories in their lives. Some were so blessed to have a happy and complete family while others were very unfortunate to grow from a broken family.

Family is said to be the most important factor in shaping and developing someone's personality. It is the spinal cord in every individual. It is the crucial fount of affection and encouragement. But what if the family you've made is not healthy anymore? If you've been suffering from your disparaging partner, what would you do? Would you still stay just to make your family remain whole? Or leave and make your family broken?

I come from a broken family as well. But this article won't set about my personal life but my partner's. I already shared in my previous articles that his parents have separate house. I asked him a permission if I can make an article about their family and he agreed. Everything I write here is based from what he shared to me.

My Partner's Story

His parents separated when he was in fourth year high school. He witnessed how messed their family. Almost every time, his parents argued on something. Later did he know that his father was using an illicit drugs. He knew it when his aunts told him to go wherever his father went. That moment on he knew that his father was doing something wrong. Sometimes he saw his mother having bruised on her body. He didn't mind it for the reason that he was afraid to his father as well. His father became violent and sometimes extremely frantic in some activities. He always sharpened his bolo. Every morning, my partner saw his mother's puffy eyes. She seemed tired and hopeless but she still fighting for her family especially her children. Their situation continued for how many years.

His father's behavior got worst when he had a vehicular accident. He has a little damage on his head. He became more violent and aggressive. He even accused his wife of cheating. The worst that happened when he chased his wife with bolo. My partner's mother hid at their barangay chairman's house. The day after that incident, his mother ran away with her 2 daughters without him. Actually, the reason he wasn't able to ran away with them was that he was not in their house when that happened. He was with his friend's house trying to escape the chaos from their house. He was shocked when he went home. No one was in there and his mother's clothes and his sister's were gone. He was extremely sad knowing that they left without him. So he went to his grandparents and left his father as well. His father fetched him and wanted him to go with him but he refused to go with him. After a few weeks, his mother came back together with the two daughters. She then made a decision to break from her abusive husband. My partner and his siblings supported their mother because they knew how much suffering she had with their father.

In this moment of time, both side are settling their own lives. The children are free to visit their father. What I admire about my partner's mother is that she did not badmouthed her husband to her children. In fact, she gave her children freedom to be with their father anytime they want. She is now happy with her life. Though she was struggling before on raising her children but her parents (my partner's grandparents) helped her. She is a teacher but her salary was not enough for her children's need especially in their education. So aside from her parents help, she also make pastries as her sideline. What a strong woman.

CLOSING THOUGHT

For us women, we should choose whom we want to spend our lives. We should look someone who has a good heart, not those who are just good looking. As what I have said on my previous article, having a handsome partner is just a bonus. What's more important is the character of a person. A person with a good character can build a good family.

That's it for today everyone. Thank you for always supporting me by reading my work, leaving comments and upvoting. Be safe guys and stay healthy always. God bless everyone.🥰

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