Does "That Special One" Exist

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There is a very popular controversy, some say there is a special one for everyone, that is, there is someone created specially and specifically for you, and you must make sure to find your special one or like they say your missing rib or else you'll be choosing the wrong person. Others however don't concur to this ideology, they believe we make our own special one, everyone has the potential, its what we do with them and how we shape them, its what makes them who we want them to be. Hmm. Tough right, what do you think, is there a special one for everyone, or do we just over think things as there is no special one, we make them the special one. I too wouldn't know for sure, would I, but here is what I feel.

First off, analysis the first point, how do we know someone is truly the special one for us, only God can know that. People have been dating angels only to get married to discover they have been disguising all alone and it they were the devil himself, vice versa some spouse has been judge wrongly as "not an potential husband or wife" only to give it a try and be amazed with how wonderful they are. So I guess we should acknowledge the fact that we are only humans, and we can't predict who is who or what they really say they are, we can only study and experience. However we can seek Gods guidance, but then we have to be sure it's God really guiding us and not our human needs playing the choice for us.

Yes, we are only humans and can't know if that special feeling we are having is indeed the special one, so most times its best to pray about it. It doesn't matter how civilized you're or how smart you are, we are all prone to making the wrong choices, the best one to pick for us is who knows all things. However, so many people have prayed and still gone ahead to pick who their heart needs. We mostly don't pray for God to lead our option, instead we indirectly need God to just say OK. We know who we want, who we are going to pick, if your spirit says otherwise, then we still wouldn't agree, so why pray in the first place.

The second ideology being that there is one special one for anyone, and we make them into the special ones we need. But how hard is it to shape anyone. Some things need to be in place before we should agree to go out with some individuals. We can't see potentials in everyone, some people are a no go. Yes God made everyone, and he said all is good, but we have made our choices of life, and lot of experiences and actions has shaped our mindset and we are different. Do you expect to marry someone who is very violent and not expect to experience violence in your home. Someone who sleeps around with everyone and not expect to have infidelity issues in the marriage. No not everyone is a potential suitor, some basic requirements needs to be in place, before we proceed.

So where do I stand. Is there a special one for everyone right from our creation, or is there no special one, we have to make and shape them to being it. I'll likely go more with the second ideology, saying there are no specially ordained suitor for everyone, and the choice of pick is left to us. If you're making the wrong choice of whom to marry, I don't see any Angel coming to warn you about it, except one is truly prayerful and God wants to avert some misfortune, however we humans are stubborn and we would still do what we want, so what's the need of trying to change someone's mind. Do you know most people still learn more by experience. So I say we have to pick.

But, we are picking not necessarily changing anyone. No one would say come let me groom you into my special one. I want you be like that, stop doing this and start doing that. Humans are not dummies, we all have our way of life, so rather than picking and thinking of working on them to change for us, the best think we can do is to pick with wisdom, understand who they are, what they do and their personality, let see if they would be compatible to us, or would there always be issues. Attractions also matters, do they please us as we need.

I know what attracts me a lady, a lady to knows what attracts her to a guy, the characters are mostly a secondary observation, we firstly get a physical attraction. That is our first pick, sometimes we don't end up with them though, but we surely did get attracted. Some of us also felt like that was the special one for us from God, only to find out it would have been a wrong choice. The choice is left for us to make, however God knows best, but he wouldn't meddle into our life unless we let him. He knows who's best, the only issues is we often ask him for direction but do what we please anyways.

Now that we have carefully selected, with wisdom and prayers, let's accept them as the special one, that is the ordination right there, the heart acceptance. Now start sharing memories, love up on each other, that is what makes them special, the mutual love sharing and nothing else. So does that special one exist I ask again? Yes, but we have to pick with wisdom and prayers. Its all our choices, everything in life, all our friendship and associations are all our choices, you can't hold God accountable to any. So pick wisely.

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I do agree. There will be times that your relationship will be tested and you can say thay maybe you are not the one for me. But there is no perfect relationship. You will never know she/ he is the one unless you two being together and knowing all their flaws but accept them anyways. And yes, it is important to put God in the center of the relationship. Stay blessed @Willtravis.

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Put God in the centre nevertheless, we can't really know who would be the perfect one for us. Let's keep looking for someone who connects better to us. Let love lead ❀

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With God in as the center of a relationship, surely that will not fail. We keep using the excuse that "we are just humans" which is just lame to easily get out of the situation.

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I admit that being human is no excuse to do well, but it truly isn't easy, especially I'm this enticing world.

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For me, everyone is special if we view them as special. God created us equally so no one should be labelled as not.

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Very one is special in their own way but not everyone would be special to us, we can love people, but we can only draw few closer and select just a spouse who would be more special than the rest.

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God made us with a pair. Even animals have their own partners too. But how will we know if he/she is our special one? In my own experience, your instinct or feeling will lead you to your partner. Just like what I felt to my partner. Before we became a couple, I had this undescribable feeling. I felt like he will have a big part in my life.😁

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This is lovely 😁❀, yes our instincts plays a vital role to express our connection to the person. Although its not a sure guarantee, but its who we love and ready to try out with.

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Special one exist? Yes, God only knows, prayer is everything. We are humans, we cannot predict if he/she is the special someone for us.. It's our own choice on how we let our hearts decide or else why don't you just stand and to be a "special someone" to them...

God bless you Willtravis..πŸ™β€οΈ

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Totally Ramona, we can't predict anything, its our choice. I love the point of we trying ourselves to the special to people instead of always wanting to be treated specially. God Bless Ramona ❀

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Yes that's it Willtravis. If we find always on that special someone, let ourselves having a chance or try to be a special someone to others..

God bless you too Willtravis..πŸ™

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Yes dear, we also playing our part. Keep being awesome JRamona ❀πŸ’ͺ

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Thank you so much Willtravis...

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I loved this topic, you have my support, greetings friend, the way you develop your topics is very good and satisfactory, greetings and blessings.

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Awwwn... I feel loved. Thanks William. You have my support too πŸ’ͺ

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It really is hard to find the special someone . Some say "No need to look the will just come to you " but what if the someone is always there for you that you didn't notice . just being themselves as to how they are when you met them and support you .

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Very true Ramramx, they could be with us all along but we just wouldn't notice. Let's just be true to ourselves, and be watchful with prayers, everything would fall in place.

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Agree being true to yourself is the key to acceptance to owns insecurity

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Yes you're right. Thanks for such awesome comment. πŸ’ͺ

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It is my pleasure..

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It is very important of course to pray for your future spouse. We all want to fidn the right one than we often forgot to be the right one.

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Yes Sequoia, we are always so keen on wanting people to be extraordinary that we forget to be special likewise, like Miss Jo said earlier on the comment session, let's try to be the special one to them too. Thanks Sequoia, you're awesome ❀

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God's choice is always the best. There's always someone special for each individual., but it's a matter of cpatibility.

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Its a matter of compatibility indeed, we hope to meet the right one for us. Seeking Gods will is best too.

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Its really difficult to find the special someone that we are looking for. But for me, instead of looking for that someone, we can be the one. I mean, if we have the capability of being that special, we may attract the same energy from that person and that will be the time, you will get each other.

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I love this ideology too, we should try to groom ourselves to being special, then our energy would attract someone special too, indeed we rising up would attract someone who matches better. Lovely.

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I am glad that you agree with this one. Thank you! ☺️

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Yes I do agree, its true and brilliant. You're awesome dear πŸ’ͺ

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Oh! Thank you for that. You as well. Much love. πŸ’—

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Much love and thanks for the awesome comments.

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There is a special person for real. They really exist. God has created everyone for a particular person if mistakenly they didn't come into contact,there will be a problem. The only way to get that special person is by prayer. Although many are lucky to find each other easily but prayer is the only way to make it easy.

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Although I feel different, but we can't really be certain who's right or wrong, I feel its a matter of compatibility. Yes prayer is the key, but its one thing to pray and its another to accept the result after the prayers.

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If you fail to accept the result after the prayer then there will be a problem. God choice is the best,so why choose somone else?

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Yeah, I understand you. But we are humans and we have the choice and sometimes we still want to go against Gods will. But we will all learn that's certain.

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Sure, we will surely learn if we fail to follow his instruction.

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Indeed we all learn, but not as a punishment, but as a result of wrong choices made. God doesn't seek to punish us, we just reap what we sow.

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When we say reap what we sow,we also mean punishment too. Some may find it hard to be able to pregnant on time,some keep having problem of fight with their wife and so on. They are all punishment.

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Do I call it karma, well I guess you're right, God made it work like that, so we just act right so we don't get the consequences.

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Now you get it

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Yes I do πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ

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Interesting and I agree that some times we think we chose which is the best for us , but the God chose which is the better than the best for us .

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Bestest lol... We'll need to add that to the latest dictionary edition. But you're right, God knows best and knows more than we do. If only we truly accept his choice, remember how Adam blamed God that Eve was the reason he sin. "Its the woman you gave to me", afterwards I don't see anywhere God picked a wife for anyone else. Lol.

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