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  • She just finished graduating.. It was very long and tough ride. There were many ups and downs. She struggled for a couple of subjects but friends helped each other to ace out all of them. They all are fresh graduates now... She thought of taking a break from life and enjoy all the fun moments she missed during her education time... her parents gave her ultimatum.. she is getting married..an arranged one.. she was crushed.. dropped into depression but went through it without questioning.. Her husband is a good person.. but she is not happy!!!!

  • He was walking down the hallway of the college when his stalker, a girl who takes language subject with him stopped him in the mid tracks, she has tears in her eyes, she confessed her love, he saw the tears, felt sympathy, accepted her love proposal, they were happy initially, bunked a couple of classes to roam around... gotten into some bad habits because of her bad friends' influence.....and he saw her true colours after.... he regrets his decision... should have focused on education.. he can't escape now, she makes him feel inferior... his marks are now low.. parents are disappointed and disapproved... friends started to walk away thinking him as bad influence... he is now alone and depressed... he is not happy!!!!

  • She is an aspiring employee in the office.. works extra hard. Everyone loves her work.. client is always happy... she aims to become a team leader first and then a manager later.. it is her life ambition to have a team under her.. should lead them in a great way.. must build a strong force that is capable of any project or task. everything is going smooth... boss suddenly calls in one day.. she is excited to hear about the news... might be on-site or might be a promotion or pay increase... she goes in.. boss proposes to spend some time with him... boss promises promotion to affair.. girl is devastated.. she has talent to grow.. boss makes her believe she needs him to grow... she feels desperate... she forgets there are a million other companies to work... boss threatens her she don't have a choice.. she believes it's this or no growth in work... she goes to have an affair with him... he secretly records it... now uses it as threatening device to have s*x whenever he can.. no promotion or increment given to her. she feels inferior.. loses confidence... believes she is nothing. she is severely depressed... she is not happy!!!!

  • They announced electives in school... it is this boy's dream to take accounts as elective. He sees himself as a future auditor. He is good at scrutinizing... tells dad about the same... dad strictly says he should take maths... otherwise he will not pay.. boy is scared so much.. he does not want to see dad angry...boy agrees and takes up Maths... boy is not good at Maths... he passes other subjects with A but always fails Maths... dad does not understand why and beats him up every time.. this does not make him ace Maths.. both dad and boy are depressed... lost so much money and time... all his friends moved to college.. he is still stuck.. he is not happy!!!!

Life is very simple yet complicated... because humans are the one who cries about problems and do not realize they are the ones that created problems themselves.. what stupidity behold us!! every person we meet in life is going through something or other.. every person has a story to carry...every person has an on going issue that causes them depression... look at the above scenarios.. did you think I imagined it?? absolutely no!!!!! these are real life issues.. what do you think caused them these?? let me tell you!!

"They are stuck, depressed and not happy just because they did not say NO..."

Saying no is extremely important in life.. people do not realize these two simple alphabets have a massive butterfly effect in their lives.. Saying no is life altering guys... when we screwed up a situation, the only thing we think about is "gosh, I wish I could have said no to that...".. and my question is "why not before??" after all, prevention is better than cure isn't it? let's see how the scenarios would have completely changed if only they said NO strictly...

  • She is a fresh graduate who just wanted to enjoy life... her parents presented with a marriage proposal.. she thought about it and said "I'm not ready, so NO!!".. parents threatened her, warned her.. gave her ultimatums.. she stood her ground.. they asked her to leave.. she got a job easily in other city and left them. She balanced her fun time and work time and years have passed, she is a successful employee in a firm and doing so well for herself... she paid off all her dad's debts...Parents apologized to her.. they are proud and EVERYONE IS HAPPY!!!

  • She was stalking him for a while and confronted him one day with proposal.. he remembered how important his education for him is, he sternly said NO!!.. she threatened him she would raise a complaint of sexual harassment.. he was not worried as he did nothing wrong.. all his friends, teachers, parents supported him.. she could not prove.. she got expelled from school.. he focused on his studies.. he aced all the exams, got ranks and made his college, parents proud.. all companies want to hire him now.. he is doing so well in life.. he is now married to a beautiful yet humble girl who also works.. money is not at all a problem now.. EVERYONE IS HAPPY!!!

  • She patiently hears the boss's proposal.. she gets up and slaps the boss across the face.. she says NO!!! not even in your dreams... boss is angry... dumps all work on her.. she finishes all because she is a focused and talented woman.. everything slowly catches up to others.. team leader questions boss... he does not answer properly.. HR gets involved.. girl informs HR about what happened.. boss has an inquiry on him.. many girls come forward against him.. boss loses his job.. she is greatly appreciated for standing up for herself and saving other women on the floor.. she is promoted and made a team lead.. everyone is happy to work for her.. her team is very successful now.. they get continuous work and profits...EVERYONE IS HAPPY!!

  • They boy did not argue back because he is scared of his father but says NO!! I will not do well in Maths.. if you do not want to pay fees, that's upto you dad!!.. Dad beats and threatens a couple more times.. Boy stands his ground...dad has no choice.. he has to either keep his son in home or pay.. he reluctantly pays... boy aces all his exams with grade A++.. His whole college is stunned to see him get state ranks.. years after, he is one of the most successful auditors in the town.. he has his own firm now that employs hundreds of people. His father pays him a visit. He is nothing but proud of how well his son is doing now.. he apologizes finally... EVERYONE IS HAPPY!!!

Do you guys see the difference between these scenarios and realize how important the word "NO!!" is??? The scenario of not taking Maths actually happened in my life.. my dad threatened me to take Maths but I stopped eating for 2 days and gotten myself into commerce and got a university gold medal in my MBA... My dad was so proud while I was taking medal from our state governor.. I was not rubbing off my success but want to tell you when you want to say NO.....Say NO!!!! strongly, firmly, strictly... TRUST ME, it will end up even saving your life...

Hope you guys are confident enough in your lives... I know here a couple of users who are afraid of their situations in their homes and office.. I wanted to write this post to boost up their confidence from many months but finally got time to do so.. I hope this helped you guys.. because believe me when I say

"your happiness is in your hands.. your destiny is in your hands.. your future is in your hands...!!!!"

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Yep. NO!

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2 years ago

haha.. that's a brilliant comment

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2 years ago

This is really good advice. We must adopt the act of saying, it will save us from a lot of hurt

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2 years ago

I really enjoy reading this big sis. I'm motivated and inspired. One thing about standing your ground, is that it gives you such confidence and determination you never knew you had before.. And that alone is more than enough to do all the things you think you couldn't do, as you would be more determined to prove others wrong. Your goals would be accomplished effortlessly

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2 years ago

very well put out.. such beautiful words.. bless you

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2 years ago

Bless you too, mentor 🥰

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2 years ago

You are just so so sweet.. Hugs :) and trust me, you are a brilliant writer, you don't need anyone.. you already are perfect.. am so proud of you

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2 years ago

You nailed this explanation 💯. A little firm word of "NO" has the capacity to secure a bright future. It may look tough when taking the decision but its aftermath is priceless.

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2 years ago

yes more people need to realize the magnitude of difference a simple "No" makes

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2 years ago

Not saying "no" has led me to regrets so many times. Even when I wish to say no, the word just seems too heavy. I'm glad you shared this. I would definitely learn especially after reading this. It's indeed important to say "no."

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2 years ago

Thank you!!! and you should know you are not alone in this.. I have made some stupid decision in a stupid couple of times by not saying no and now stuck in life

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2 years ago

We can always say no, it's on us really. As for me. I know how to say no, specially if I can't really do it or what.

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2 years ago

good for you for saying that.. need more people like you

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2 years ago

Because regret is always at the end. I'm proud that I learned to refuse now whenever I feel like I don't like it. Never let anyone manipulate or control us. Because at the end, it is still our own life.

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2 years ago

One of the most important skills for a person is precisely the ability to refuse. By agreeing to fulfill any request or accept an unnecessary offer, we find ourselves captive to the wishes of others. At the same time that we forget about our own desires! That is why it is worth learning to answer "no".

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2 years ago

beautiful comment my dear @Belozoriana .. you nailed it

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2 years ago

Saying No to detrimental situations is greatly advantageous. When you courageously say no to what could affect you negatively, it will pay you later. Some bosses will always want to lure you, and take advantage of you, but when you stand your ground and say no to what they demand, they will later apologies.

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2 years ago

That's a problem of many people hey think that they can lose an opportunity or someone will get mad if they didn't do what other ordered to them, they have no stands to themselves and doesn't even want to decline nor disagree since they are weak hearted people, they don't have any power to defend themselves, say No if they feel like they are bring manipulated but they tends to act it's still good even though their dignity are being trampled. I admire those people who are ready to fight what is right, the feeling that they don't care what the consequences as long as they took the path that they dream.

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2 years ago

It's very difficult for me to say no especially to a girl that I like 😆 but sometimes if the demands are unreasonable and ridiculous, I will no longer give a fu*ck and will say a resounding NO!. We just have to put ourselves first sometimes, and I guess that's what gives us the power to say no

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2 years ago

haha you got that right :)

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2 years ago

Just “NO” can be great decisions in some moment in life honestly. This is a simple word with very big and dig meaning.

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2 years ago

You are correct doll, saying NO.in some situations like what you mentions will save our life and give us happiness in the end

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2 years ago

My dear friend, your article was very inspiring, I completely agree with you, sometimes saying no causes a butterfly effect in our lives. We must have the courage to say no.

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2 years ago

Yes, if we have confidence to reject, we can do anything

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2 years ago

Strong word from you. A simple word with deep meanings and strong warning. Well said.

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2 years ago

Yes, the word NO is impactful in life.. it is life altering

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2 years ago

When you dont want to do it just say no. Saying no will not dimish your own personality, it is your right.If you feel your not comfortable with it, just say no. Its yourself, its your own decision.

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2 years ago

Yes very well said.. it is so important to realize this

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2 years ago

A simple No can impact so much in one's life, see. A Great article. I used to be like that, whenever anyone asks or says something me to do, I did until graduation. I opened my mouth and eyes a bit late but I am happy that I did. I know now I am going in the right path where I can excel.

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2 years ago

Good for you at least realizing it before it is too late... I realized it late

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