Watch out for your kids

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We all know how beautiful and special our kids can be. Don't mind the "our" I used because I haven't had any 😁 For the sake of this article, let me just maintain the use of it and I hope you understand I am referring to every mothers in the house including singles like me because I would surely have too.

Children are gift from God and until you see a barren woman who give birth after many years, you will understand how special they are to you. One of the responsibilities of parents is to take care and monitor their children, take note of what they do, how they behave, their attitudes before compared to now, only then will you notice what's wrong with them.

There is this recent case going on now which happened days ago and I was really pained and felt for the parent of the deceased. This boy was 12yrs old and attended a boarding school in one of the richest schools located at Lekki, Lagos State. You can imagine how rich the parent of the boy are.

According to what I heard because I was trying to get the full gist online, the mother of the lost son narrated how their boy was an extrovert before he started the school and when he came home for the term's holiday, they noticed his behavior had changed from being an extrovert. He became a silent and gentle boy, he doesn't say anything for the time being at home. School resumed again and the parent was driving him back to school and the boy told his mom to change his school for him. His mom asked what was wrong which he later said she shouldn't worry again.

They dropped him off at school and went their way. Few days later, they were called from the school that the boy was sick and that he fell down while playing with his mates but the truth was that he was bullied by some cultists students who gave him a chemical to drink. His mouth was swollen before he died. They already closed down the school and the father vows not to bury his son until those culprits are brought to book.

Seriously, I was so emotional to see a young boy's life been cut short and couldn't fulfill his destiny because of bullying at school.


What do I have to say to this? I would want to blame the parent on one side because when we were talking about this issue last night, I had to say some things which goes thus;

"A mother who heard the word from his son "Mom, pls change my school", shouldn't she understand there is something wrong for a child to say such thing even at that age? It means something is going on with him and just asking what's wrong isn't enough, but to follow him down to school to ask how are things happening in school. A parent who saw how extroverted their son was before going to school came home and changed all of a sudden, shouldn't they know something has gone wrong?"

Children are really facing bullying in school, not only in the boarding but day school. As parents, it is your duty to notice and observe your children to know what is going on before things get out of hand.

I really appreciate my Dad for his care and attention to us then. From our primary school down to secondary school, my Dad will always come around to check up on us. He was a musician and through that, he was made a permanent musician in our school. Everyday of the week, my Dad would visit his children in school and it got to a point, I thought my Dad was too over protective on us and made us like little children even when we were in higher college.

My elder sister was taken to my grandma when she stopped breastfeeding and my Dad would often travel home to visit her at her school. She attended a boarding school and he never stopped going to visit her. Thank God for who we are today.

Parents needs to watch their kids so they don't regret later. You have to monitor them especially their movement and how they act especially with behaviors they never put up before.

I really pitied Sylvester and I hope Justice is done for him and the culprits are apprehended. He was supposed to celebrate his birthday on the 4th of this month but he is gone. May his soul rest in peace.

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I heard the incidence also,it was a sad one to hear,the mother is at fault cuz she didn't listen to her son but pondered on asking him questions instead,I hope justice be done for Sylvester.

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2 years ago

I hope so too. Thank you

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2 years ago

What a sad and painful story. We should always listen to our children and never minimize what they tell us. And pay attention to their behavior as they can be an expression of their feelings.

And you are most welcome Busayo. My pleasure always to be your sponsor, my dear :)

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2 years ago

Thank you very much for your feedback. Parents should always understand their kids to avoid regret later

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2 years ago

This particular issue has created a huge argument on nairaland, with people blaming the parents on one side and I feel they are right. The mother should have pressed the son to know why his behavior changed, but she just left things as it is.

Even when the son told her to change him from the school, she didn't even pay attention and try to figure out what the problem could be. That young boy's death really pained me, and what even pains me more is that the school is trying to cover the whole thing up

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2 years ago

As in ehn, I would still blame the parent for this stuff. According to what they say now, the culprits have been flown abroad. What wicked act. The school is owned by a big personality and the case will be hard to take oo

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2 years ago

Big personalities are also getting involved in the case and right now it's a battle of who is the bigger personality. The parents of the culprit are something else, but I wouldn't blame them because they are just trying to protect their kids, even though they are going about it all wrong

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2 years ago

So touching story. Firstly parents should not sent the children at a very age to boarding school. They should have the fun staying with us so that we can also know their strength and weakness. They cultivate good things from us and will have the will power to defend themselves.

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2 years ago

You are right. Thanks for the contribution.

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2 years ago

This is why attention is really needed by the children at their growing stages, and this can only be given by the parents. This is such a sad story

One cannot really blame that parents, children are like that most times too. It might not be because of the bullying another time, it may be because such child has done sometime wrong in school, such child now want the parents to change the school. The parents too should have asked why was the boy saying that?

Come to think if it, according to the video I saw, the father said the school is good academically and that that's the same school all his elder siblings went to. Which means they may not think in such manner since such haven't happened to them before

Boarding school have so many disadvantages and advantages, I went to one.

This is really pathetic, really.

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2 years ago

You have a point. I think it all boils down to the parent not looking into the matter keenly especially when the boy said he want his parent to change his school.

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2 years ago

It baffles me on the kind of era we found ourselves, little children practicing cultism to the extent of using hard drugs and taking someone's life wtf! It's true that parents need to step up with regards to checking the welfare of their children and the authority of schools need to step up too. Above all, we need God to save us from such acts because sometimes, somethings can still be done in the dark where the sight of the parents and school authorities are far off

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2 years ago

Seriously the authorities of the school needs to come up with a strong measure for all students in school and to make sure there is punishment for those who act against the laws and rules of the school

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2 years ago

Some of the reasons parents love like to send their kids to boarding school, it's because they don't have much time for their kids, they feel too occupied to check on them, I believe that when Sylvester came back home and was silent all of a sudden, the parents don't investigate on the matter because they put too much trust in the authorities and they believe that with that huge money of money they pay per term, it should be enough for the school to be checking on the kids for them.

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2 years ago

You are very very right. This is what my friends were saying yesterday that the reason why parents put their children in a boarding school is because they don't have time for them which is not too good

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2 years ago

Being an alumnus of a boarding school, I must say that boarding schools are really scary places to be in. Bullying is the norm there, not only from cultists but also from ordinary students. The parents should have really known better than what they did.

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2 years ago

Not even boarding now, it happens in day but I would say it is much in boarding because I don't think teachers and even parents have time to monitor every students there.

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2 years ago

That's very correct. It's just having your own back in schools. Parents ought to share their children's personal life. It's really sad.

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2 years ago

I really fell sorry for his parents. It is sad that he had to die.

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2 years ago

It's so sad.

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2 years ago

I was shocked knowing this. A deepest condolences for the bereaved families. I felt broken and sad knowing about this princess that's why I hate bullying. I hate those people who do a bullies to the innocent people. God watching them.

This is the main concern regarding to the "Parents". They should be responsible for their children. They should give them a time. Give them an attention and the most important always check on them if they are still fine. If something change, you need to work an action with it because it means there's something wrong. Be a parent to our children.

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2 years ago

You are right. Parents needs to take care of their children. They need to monitor their changes. Thank you for contributing.

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2 years ago

Yes princess. Parent is always be a parent for their children. You're always welcome princess.

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2 years ago

Sylvester case still makes me uncomfortable, I don't know why the mother acted nonchalantly towards the boy's complaint because she could have done something about it it.

All the same, he wasn't meant to die. May the soul rest in perfect peace.

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2 years ago

Amen. It's so sad he had to die like that. The mother took it lightly.

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2 years ago

Heard about the very unfortunate incident and I was dumbfounded. Its scary that secondary school kids now engage in cultism. What is more worrisome is that these are kids whose parents were not poor people. I remember that in Nigeria, we associated stuff like cultism and other social vicess with the poor( children from the ghetto and slums)... We pray for justice for Sylvester. Meanwhile,I heard culprits have already flown them abroad.. Boarding schools are a No, No for me BTW.

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2 years ago

It's bad. Why would they take them abroad? They should face the consequences.

Btw, your account is spammed and this might prevent you from Earning.

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2 years ago

Aww bullies, seriously some parents thought that when they are asked by their kid to change school they will think that the kid ia just being rebel without even asking what was the real reason, it's just sas right why not ask, talk to them 🥺

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2 years ago

Parents need to listen to their children especially when they are going through a lot in their mind. They need to take notice of every words their children utter because there may be reasons to what they say and if attention is not taken into consideration in their part then the worst is the case at the end.

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2 years ago

Yeah I read that story and all I can say is it’s just so sad that some young people of nowadays are just so evil and devilish .. may his soul Rest In Peace

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2 years ago

Amen.

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2 years ago

To all the parents and who want to be one, there's nothing wrong about listening to what our kids told us. I mean they won't utter that words unless otherwise there's something that happened to them.

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2 years ago

Exactly I totally agree with you. When a child has grown up to the age that he or she is not satisfied with something and opens up to his or her parents, then they should know that this child is going through something that needs proper attention and care to understand him or her

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2 years ago

That was heartbreaking. I remember too just before pandemic the same case happpened here in out country. The boy was in a.school for PMA (philippine military academy). His farther was a high ranking official in PMA. He was bullies because of that and was beaten to death . Good thing, he kept a diary!

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2 years ago

What the hell is this. Bullying is rampant in school and should be giving attention to and also punishing every student who bullies others.

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2 years ago

Exactly, even I when I was a kid experienced bullying though not this level. This is worst. Just typical bullying of student at school.

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2 years ago

Justice must surely be done in the case of mr slyvester who lost his life and I also believe that the culprits will never go unpunished ho ha!

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2 years ago

Awww, may his soul be in Paradise with God. Parenting is very important and part of it keeping an eye to the kids always because they are just kids who need guidance.

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2 years ago

You are right, parents should always keep eyes on their kids and monitor their movements especially their behaviours

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2 years ago

I guess the kids need care now that their parents are deceased. Let justice prevail that's all I have to say simple

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2 years ago

I didn't say the parents died. It's the case of a child who died as a result of bullying in school and the parent's not taking the step when they need to.

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2 years ago

This is so sad 😞 for the deceased parents. It will be pain forever in their heart. Parent losing their kid is highest lost they’ve experience. The culprits will be find soon I hope and justice will stand

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2 years ago

It's so painful. I hope they are caught as soon as possible.

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2 years ago

We need to be more careful about the kids.Because kids don't know what's good and what's bad. Many times a lot of big losses happen, so we must always be careful to keep an eye on the children.

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2 years ago

You are right. Children should be taken care of.

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2 years ago

It was so sad ,because of bullying the boy died😥

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2 years ago

I was really sad too

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2 years ago

I am actually very disappointed in a lot of people involved in the whole thing, from the negligent parents to the negligent school administration and staff and the sickos who did that to the young man. We really live in a dark world

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2 years ago

Yes, act of negligence caused this.

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2 years ago

One of the common problem in school is bullying. Parent should really take time to investigate and observe thoroughly the action and behavior of our kids especially when you observe something wrong. We have to be careful and take good care our kids. Sad to know it princess. Condolence to the bereaved family

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2 years ago

Thank you Princess. Parent need time for their children.

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2 years ago

Yes indeed my friend

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