Romantic Movies vs real-time relationship.
“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.”
One way to clear my mood is to watch movies, and not just anyone, but romantic movies. In the end, I just smiled because I know they aren't real.
I am a fan of Bollywood movies with two lovers who ended up together after going through some tough moments or hardships, and in the end, they come to love and spend time with each other. I know something like this can never happen in reality, and even if it does, it takes a lot of time to make it happen.
Romantic Movies present relationships in a way that is humourous and unrealistic. Movies like that aren't realistic at all, but relationships nowadays want such love to end happily just like they see in movies.
For example; I watched a romantic movie some days ago. Both partners were on their way to getting married and settling down. They hired a housemaid. Along the line, the lady's ex came to greet her after returning from the states. The guy forced himself and kissed the girl. The housemaid met them on this and one way or the other, the fiance got to know and he broke up with her. He ended up marrying the housemaid. 😄😄
Can this ever happen in reality? I mean just because she was caught kissing her ex, does that mean breaking up? Why can't they just iron it out and the guy forgives and that is it?
For something like this, the fiance might try to kill the ex. Do you think such a thing can happen in a real-time relationship?
Do you see why romantic movies or novels shouldn't be used as a standard for what relationships should be like?
The fact remains that real life doesn't play out like in the movies and happy endings are a fallacy. Love and communication take a whole lot of sacrifice, hard work and willingness from both partners to commit to each other.
Romantic Movies will picture every scene to look real and within a flashlight, but the reality isn't measured this way. What only takes a few minutes in a scene could take years in a real relationship and that is it.
The media that we consume impacts our perceptions of the real world. For example; when you expect your partner to look into your eyes, and with magic, know that something is wrong with you. This is a scene that works well in romantic movies or novels, but is far from being real in real-time relationships.
Will you expect your guy to go ahead to marry you when you are HIV tested positive? I have seen this in movies. Even when they say love is blind? Who wouldn't open his or her eyes in reality, to know that there is danger looming except there is a miracle?
Watching a romantic movie or reading novels together is good and it's a means of entertainment. It is a way to have or spend quality time together.
The truth is that relationships shouldn't be based on what we watch in movies because you can never use that to set a standard for your relationship except you are trying not to be content and want your relationship to be all perfect because of what you are seeing which isn't real.
Watching movies like that should be a way of talking about your perceptions and views about what you like in such a relationship and talking about things you like or appreciate in the movie.
Take for instance, you saw two partners who have had a daily routine to spice up their relationship, you can express your needs to your partner and try to discuss things if such a routine should be taken into your relationship since you love what you saw. There is nothing worse after all.
Do not think all romantic relationships that end with happy life are real, and you trying to match things up with yours will only make you destroy your relationship, and do not think those things that are possible in movies and novels would be real in real-time. That's a lie.
All romantic movies are unrealistic and just a way to see relationships from another perspective.
I decided to join the train with you guys so I will not be left behind. Kindly join me on noise.app here
Thanks for your time.
Image by Vitor Lima from Pexels
[September 11, 2022] (No 253 articles for the year)
I also like this kind of movies, have you seen the movie The Exotic Marigold Hotel? it's great, I invite you to see it. tag me if you see it.