Practicing Hospitality

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“It has been, and continues to be, our responsibility to fill the earth with the light and warmth of hospitality.”

— Conrad Hilton

It's a beautiful weekend full of grace of God. I woke up as early as possible and quickened my personal devotion because my siblings were going to the farm to get some firewood and this means I will be the only one to prepare everything and make sure Grandma takes her bath and eats her breakfast. It took me 2 hours to get everything done for her and others. I had to do the chores that was meant for three people to do, but I decided to help since they have gone to the farm. Sincerely, the work wasn't easy and I really commend my siblings for that. 

After that, I quickly replied to all comments on my last post about friendships and I sincerely appreciate everyone's contribution. It makes me happy seeing people coming to my posts to leave something meaningful and not making it look like I am just blabbing. You all said wonderfully. 

So, we talked about how to nurture friendships, I mean the true ones because not all people are meant to be called friends because of their evil intentions towards us. We just need to be careful in selecting them and also to cherish the true and real ones. You can click this link to go through it if you haven ́t. 


Today, we shall be talking about the second best thing in life that is free and it is “Practicing Hospitality”. 

According to Wikipedia

Hospitality is the relationship between a guest and a host, wherein the host receives the guest with some amount of goodwill, including the reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers.

Friendship and hospitality go hand in hand. Many people, I would say do not know how to show hospitality because they think hospitality means showing off their beautiful houses, designs, cars, and their fancy cooking skills.  We become so concerned with impressing our guests with what we have achieved when we bring them to our houses that we forget to make them feel welcome in the house. Some people also think they do not need to entertain because of how unkempt or bad their home is, but let me tell you this: Hospitality isn't about showing off your new designers or lovely houses or the food you serve. No, it has nothing to do with those, but it is about inviting people into our imperfect hearts. 

Something we need to understand is that our guests do not need those things or having an elaborate party or event, but to feel at home, to feel welcome, to feel that they are wanted and also that they belong also. No amount of money in the world can buy such hospitality because it comes from our hearts and not the store of everything. 

True hospitality is about sitting down with your guest and asking about their day, their welfare, looking them in the eye and letting them know that we are glad they are here, this should be done by our actions and words. Let them feel it that they aren't just welcome without doing anything, but let them be happy and see that you really care. 

Hospitality is letting our guests know that our home is not an inconvenience or a burden, but an happiness and Joy. It is by giving them our full attention and attending to their needs. 

“True hospitality is not about us, but our guests”.

If you think that showing hospitality is hard or feels overwhelmed for you, here are some tips to help you;

Anticipate their needs: Do you know how it feels when you already assume your guest would need something before they arrive at your place? It is just like getting food, coffee or anything else ready. It is like knowing they would have been so tired and thirsty after the long drive and getting these ready will make you put your guest in a comfortable place and put them first because they have come for you and no one else. 

Plan ahead: Let me tell you this, that the best way to avoid running around the house when your guest is sitting, or making them feel like a burden is when you have planned everything before they show up. It will feel awkward to start picking up a broom to sweep the dirt in the sitting room when your guest is around, or searching for something in their presence. It makes them feel uncomfortable. Planning ahead can make the difference when hosting a guest in your home. 

Make conversation: I learnt this from my family that when a guest arrives in your home, you can bring out the photo album and let them get busy and happy seeing those happy moments or create a conversation first and not make it boring without anyone initiating the chat. You invited them over, so it is your responsibility to start something to talk about. The quickest and best way to get someone talking and keep the conversation rolling and going is to ask them questions about themselves. Be attentive and listen to what they are saying and look into their eyes to let them know you care about what they are saying. 

Smile: Do you want to make your guest feel unwanted? Then put up a frowning face or be aggressive, you will only send them out and never return again. A simple smile can go a long way to make people feel at ease. If you look so stressed or bored, your guest will think they are an intrusion into your house. 

Avoid awkward moments: One thing you must not do is telling your guest to pick side in a disagreement between you and a friend or partner. It feels awkward and can turn into something else. Do not bring up issues that are meant to be secret out for your guest to contribute because to them, they would feel sad and think otherwise. 

I hope you enjoyed another series today? Come back tomorrow for the last series as we celebrate Easter. I wish us a fantastic celebration.

Thanks for reading.

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The last part has a lot to do because it's very common in homes. You'd just just enter the house and during Chitchat, either the husband or wife will bring up a pending issue for you to judge and settle. It'll just look as it one of them is waiting for you to be the chief judge🤣. Once I'm found in that situation, I act smartly and avoid being biased AND THAT WILL BE MY LAST VISIT THERE.

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2 years ago

😂😂😂 One needs to be careful in judging such matters especially having to do with couples.

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2 years ago

Wherever you go in the Philippines, you will be greeted warmly and entertained. We are really hospitable, and it is always a pleasure to have you as a guest.

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2 years ago

I am glad to hear of such good thing. I also know that Filipinos love entertaining with love.

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2 years ago

You are right. It is not all about money, bit about how you feel and.behave with your visitors. Most people are not having the heart to keep someone or their strangers or visitors busy. Do you k kw that being hospitable can make you know somethings you did not know before? You can learn from each other.

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2 years ago

Sure, we learn more when people speak or talk about what they have experienced. Thank you for stopping by.

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There is a saying in India that loosely translates to "treat your guest like God". and that is why most of the Indian people are very hospitable too. It's amazing to see you people are so kind and generous too

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2 years ago

You are right. When we treat them like that, we will be happy and God will bless us too.

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2 years ago

It is important to show earnest care for our friends and guests, make them feel comfortable and cared for

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2 years ago

Definitely! Thank you 😊

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2 years ago

Being hospitable is one of the best attitude a family can possess. Those who know how to handle their guests that makes them comfortable

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2 years ago

You are right. This is why we need to learn how to entertain our guests and make them feel comfortable.

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Hospitality towards guest implies warmth, respect, and even protection; it builds understanding and appreciation among you and the guest

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2 years ago

Definitely true. Thank you 😊

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2 years ago

I heard the hospitality of Philipinos people and after reading your article I am now sure that you people are very caring. Nicely Written friend. Keep it up.

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2 years ago

I do my best though to be caring because we know how beneficial it is. Thank you Niazi😊

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2 years ago

Hospitality is my thing but, I'm a type that get shy of every new person. So naturally,my shyness makes me to give all my capable hospitality. Nicely written... Have a wonderful day my friend

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2 years ago

Smiles. I am also a shy person but we would surely feel comfortable hosting you know? Thank you for stopping by.

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2 years ago

Well spoken princess. Unfortunately, many people in this part of the world don't even know how to show hospitality to their guests, they think it's all about the offshow of the glittering things in their possession, meanwhile real hospitality lies in making the guest so comfortable by, being with them either the living room or wherever they are, smile with them, making them feel at home, and not making them bored .

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2 years ago

Absolutely true. Thank you for understanding. We shouldn't be hospitable with the aim of showing off.

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2 years ago

I hardly ever have guests, especially when I am in school, as I am usually out most of the time sef. But I think hospitality is important. How someone treats me when I meet them for this first time or go to their house leaves a lasting impression

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2 years ago

That is it. First impression last longer.

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2 years ago

Indeed hospitality does not require welcoming your guests into a luxurious abode and offering sumptuous foods. Hospitality simply means giving your guests the feeling of warm welcome and the sincere gladness for their presence.

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2 years ago

Thank you for understanding my point 👍

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2 years ago

Friendly to others is the initial love when you have to accept them as they are regardless of their background, it is a form of sympathy and the character of sincerity in facing everything to become a person who deserves respect.

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2 years ago

Great. You are absolutely right. True love is shown when we treat others warmly and kind.

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2 years ago

Many foriegn people love filipinos of being so hospitable.We gave so much attention for out visitors,we are always busy preparing for them

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2 years ago

Yea, I know as I have come across some here and even watch their movies.

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2 years ago

Hospitality is the virtue of the good families and people. It's part and parcel of our moral and ethics values. In our family guest is considered as a blessing of Almighty. Hospitality is obligations of the host

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2 years ago

Yes, God shows His love when we show an act of hospitality to others.

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Hospitality creates strong bonds of friendship and sometimes that person could seize to become a stranger if you're hospitable enough. Even according to Islam, when you have a visitor you're to feed him with special food (better than what you eat at home) and cater for all his needs for three days before asking him what brought him to your house on the third day.. Imagine doing this in Nigeria though. 😂😂

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2 years ago

Nigeria...😅😅 Well, I still want to believe there are those who practice that.

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Filipinos are hospitable anywhere you go in our country 😁 that's why foreign people like us haha

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I have heard many testimonies about you guys and I am forced to visit one day 😅😅

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