Just a simple "thank you" is okay

“The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become.”

Robert Holden

Happy New Week everyone. I hope you guys enjoyed last week? Let's be hopeful this week and I pray may God grant our heart's desires. I was so weak yesterday after returning from Church for the worker's training as I would be joining the workers to work for God. I will be joining the children's teacher department because I am good at teaching. Thank God I already visited articles here before I went out.

Last week, I made an entry for a challenge on Hive and I feel like sharing it with you here too so we can read and learn. Here is the question I chose for the challenge as there were options to choose from;

On the occasions you help others, or do positive things for them, do you like or expect public recognition or do you prefer private thanks or gratitude. Explain why in either case and give an example.

In my tribe, they say when a child shows gratitude for what was given to him or her, there is a guarantee he or she would receive more tomorrow. I have been taught right from childhood to always show appreciation, no matter how little the thing is because some people, if not all love those who show gratitude because it means such a person acknowledges what has been given to him or her and definitely, there is the possibility of receiving more next time.

Also, the Bible says that when your right hand is doing something, you must not let the left hand know you did it. Perhaps, I had to paraphrase that but something like this word is in the Bible.

I love to help people, yes, I help people a lot and I would appreciate it if such a person appreciate it and it depends on the person on how he or she wants to show gratitude, it´s fine by me but I wouldn't ask you to do it in the public. For what exactly? To make people know I did something for him or her? Then that isn't helping at all but a mere show off.

I love to be plain and my life is simple. I won´t even stop helping you if you do not appreciate but your sense should pick up at that instant to say "thank you" when I do something for you and I wouldn't mind next time you see me and you didn't acknowledge the other day. We all are different and we have different approaches to being grateful for what was done to us.

Just like I said, we are different. For me, just a simple thank you at that moment is enough for me and if you help me, I will continue to appreciate you when I see you even if it is in five years we come across each other "Oh, thank you so much for the other day, year etc" and that is me but not everybody does this.

I will never expect public recognition because I do something to or for you, but it'd come as a surprise if such a thing ever happen while I am there and that alone would make me happy but on the other hand, I don´t like it. Instead of that, just show your gratitude privately and let it end there. As I said, I am simple and that is me. I wouldn't even get angry because one thing about me is that I do those things because of God and I believe He is the one to repay me and not you.

I don't do things to earn praise from you in the presence of another, it could make me feel pompous of myself and I don't want that.

There was a day I was outside with other hostel mates and we were just sitting and gisting. Then something led to another which made all of them start to praise me for what I have been doing for them. I felt ashamed though because others have been behaving badly to them but praising me in their presence almost made my legs collide with each other, I was just smiling and I didn't reveal that. I had to excuse myself and went inside.

I feel somehow when people praise me outside even in my presence, well you can do that in my absence because I don't feel too good being praised. We need to be careful out there because not everyone will love you or be pleased with what you do. To some, they feel sad when people praise other people in their presence and they might decide to hurt such a person. So, we need to be careful and follow what the Bible say "Do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing".

Thanks for reading

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