His Ego ruined it all.
“When the ego is with you then your heart becomes like sick.”
Many things are happening in this life and it's good to pay attention to those things so we can learn from them and be able to apply them in our lives and eliminate the bad ones we don't want.
Marriage is fragile, just like women which should be handled with wisdom and care and also to know the right thing to do and not to do. Marriage is sweet but with the right person, even though there's no guarantee that there will always be a happy moment, challenges would suffice but being with the right partner wouldn't call for divorce or abuse of any sort but both partners would come together to solve it without the third party or fifth columnist.
I read @HappyBoy article about "Happy Ever After?" The part I read which reminds me of a movie I watched and would love to narrate to you was where he mentioned Men's Ego. He attended a program and learnt that some men wouldn't even want their wives to work or earn more than they do.
Some men want to be superior and do not want their wives to progress more than them because they believe or assume if they do, they will be treated lowly by their wives. This is not so with all women, especially if it is a woman who loves and humbles her husband. There is no crime with your wife earning more than you, it's all about unity and love. If you love each other, both of you wouldn't have any cause to hate another of his or her progress as long as you guys are in agreement.
This man promised to sponsor his wife to be for her Masters once they get married. This lady insisted on going for her Masters before getting married and making sure to achieve all her dreams, but the man's promise to her made her trust him. The love grew and flourished even while dating which made the woman believe he would fulfill her dreams and not become a full house wife.
After they got married, the man stopped her from working, he didn't fulfill his promise of sending her to do her Masters. He believed he was capable of taking care of her being a full house wife. This lady would beg her husband to allow her work so she doesn't have to keep requesting for money from him but he declined.
He would always go on business trips and most times wouldn't come home for months and he never bothered sending money to her. He was intentional in his plans for her by not giving her money and was selfish to even calculate foodstuffs and give her the actual money for them.
He didn't allow her to take care of herself other than the only daughter they had. He was happy doing this and it always made her sad. Still, she never stopped respecting and loving him. She was ridiculed by her friends and this made her get angrier but despite that, she never stopped showing respect and care. She was always submissive.
There was a day the man traveled as usual and didn't drop any money for her, believing the foodstuffs in the house would be enough for her and the daughter till he returns. One night, thieves came to rob them and when they didn't find any money, they shot the wife. The guy came back from his business trip and went to the hospital.
The lady lamented how he was not there for her. How he shattered her dreams and didn't fulfill his promise of sending her to do her Masters. She became the object of ridicule among her friends. As she was saying all these, the man was crying and promised to change and allow her further her education but it was too late as she gave up the ghost.
I felt for the lady because it is what is happening in the world. Some men think they are in control and are afraid of allowing their wives do better than them. Why wouldn't you be happy your wife is doing fine? If both of you really come together to understand things, there wouldn't be hatred among each other. Your happiness should be to see your partner doing well and always pray for their success and not shattering their dreams because you assume they would act superior over you.
Though some women are at fault too but why wouldn't you be submissive? The Bible says that husbands should love their wives, wives should be submissive to their husbands. These are part of the ingredients of a successful marriage. Love and Submission between both partners.
When there is love, every other thing wouldn't be difficult because you will find yourself enjoying your life. If you love, would you want to see others falling down? If you love, would you want to kill another fellow? If you love, would you want to have bad thoughts against another?
Love is the greatest of all things in this life because when you love, there is no length to the sacrifice you will make for another and the good part is that you will always be happy at each other's progress.
Marriage should be all about love and unity. Marriage should involve understanding each other. Talk about things together and solve the issues amicably. Drop your ego and focus on doing the right thing. Learn to appreciate each other's success especially as husband and wife.
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[May 03, 2022] (No 123 article for the year)
Thank you for sharing it Princess and good morning.
This is true - more often than not, men tend to focus on the "submit to your spouse" mindset only thus become demanding and controlling to their wives. They forget the part wherein they should love their wives as they love themselves.
Not sure if how everything goes - but during marriage preparation seminars it is deeply discussed and informed by the minister about everything in life and the role of everyone in the marriage. Everyone wins if they follow it thoroughly.
In our case with my wife, currently she is the one taking care of the household. It was a mutual decision as we have a daughter who is turning 1 year old this 1st of June. She is not working thus financial responsibility is on me. BUT her workload is way harder than mine, and we talked about it over and over again and she said that it is okay not to pursue her career for now as she wants to enjoy motherhood and see all the milestones that our child would have.
I guess proper communication will be a deal breaker to the ego.