Compliment || Be a good role model to the kids.
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around”.
At the moment, I am having a serious headache and I think I caused it myself. I strained my body to the extreme yesterday and it is affecting me today that I just need to take my rest. I asked myself, “Can you just give yourself some rest and take your off day?”
Yesterday, I bought an energy drink just to stay awake to finish what I needed to do online. I have been so busy outside the platforms and when it was getting to evening, I knew I haven't done any tangible thing online, I decided to get a fearless drink and overworked myself from 6 pm to 1 am without taking any rest which I was able to engage on Hive, Readcash and Blurt.
Am I hurting myself? Yes, I know. I am trying to survive and help myself because I don't want to beg anyone including my family. So, I just needed to grind harder last night just so I won't be lagging behind. As it is now, I would take some rest and only do what I would be able to do so I don't get sick.
THIS POST WOULD BE FOR ALL PARENTS WHO HAVE WONDERFUL CHILDREN, AND PROSPECTIVE PARENTS WHO ARE ANXIOUSLY WAITING FOR THEIR BUNDLE OF JOY AND ALSO, TO ALL GUARDIANS.
I was watching some videos on YouTube a few days ago and this short video took my breath away. Like, I was mesmerized by the words of this little boy and I kept thinking about it. “He must have seen his parents doing that”.
Children are so amazing when it comes to imitating adults, especially their parents. This is why parents ought to be good role models to them and not the opposite because every child's behaviour is determined by what the parents exhibit inside. This is why they say “Charity begins at home”.
Parenting is not an easy task as it involves different methods of disciplining a child or children.
What was the word I heard from this little boy that captivated my heart? This child went to the mall with his mother and while they were still shopping inside the mall, the boy sighted a young lady beside them and he was like, “Mom.....” Their eyes both met (I mean the mother of the child and the lady). I could see from the lady that she was already nervous but the next word melted her heart; “she's so beautiful”.
The lady must have thought the child wanted to say something negative because we know how some kids are and how they behave. They say what they see and if you happen to look awkward, the kid could say it out and you become embarrassed.
I have been in a similar situation where I was hurt by the words of the children and I couldn't beat them because they will still blame me for doing that. I just had to walk away quickly from their midst as they were creating a bad scene.
The lady looked at the mother and smiled. The mother too was nervous, wanting to hear what would come out of her son's mouth but when she heard those positive compliment, she was happy.
I want to believe it is what the child has seen his mother doing (complimenting other people in his presence).
“Be a good role model to them”.
When you compliment someone, you bring out happy smiles in them and you build self-esteem in them too. Throughout that day, they would be positive because someone has decided to give them a genuine compliment about them. A good compliment can go a long way in changing one's bad decision into a good one because they know there's still hope.
A simple “you are gorgeous” can increase positivity in one's life and this is why if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. This is because words have power; either to build or destroy one's life. So, one needs to be careful.
As parents, since you know children easily do what adult does. They watch and act the same way that their parents or guardians do around them, you must set a good example by nicely complimenting other people in front of your kids so that when they go outside, they would do the same and the praise would be given to you.
HOW DO YOU TEACH KIDS TO COMPLIMENT OTHER PEOPLE?
Just as I have said, act as a good role model by doing the positive things around them. Make them realize that they will always see the good in people if they search for it. Tell them to be genuine when they compliment other people.
Lastly, tell your kids to follow a compliment with a question because they will also learn and put on a good habit.
What do I mean?
When you meet someone who puts extra effort into getting something done, then you should say “You put up a good speech out there, how did you come up with that?”
With this, it means you want to learn and acquire some knowledge.
Children can easily say “You are smelling nice today, what perfume or fragrance did you apply?”
Trust me, the other person would feel good and positive especially when it comes from kids who say it genuinely.
I hope I have been able to inspire you today?
Thanks for reading
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