Nine Years Ago

Hi guys. 

It's a great day from my end here. Nine years ago, at exactly this time, I tied the knot with my darling wife. And like the flash of light, it's already nine years and we signed forever. 

We are happy that we have a great union despite the challenges around us, we pushed on together. It is in this marriage that we came to the understanding that a man and a woman are truly no longer two but one. 

I have cherished every moment we shared together. 

In the first year of our marriage, we had the biggest trial of our lives but we were able to weather the storm. 

Marriage Is Workable

I have heard people complain of how they can't cope in their marriages. 

First, we all should know that only mature minds can maintain a stable marriage. That's how it works. Maturity in marriage can be checked in the area of emotions, finance and material. This has nothing to do with age. One could have come of age but not mature enough to handle a marriage. 

Temperance is one other instrument that makes your marriage last long. In marriage, especially during the early period of marriage, one should understand that the couple are from different backgrounds and have different experiences and exposure. There are times when individual differences may be exercised to keep the marriage going. In my candid opinion, man does not have to explode when there seems to be tension. On a good day, there are no perfect marriages, we only look away for the same continuity, applying the principle of love covers or conquer all.

Respect 

Everyone deserves to be respected. As much as a man wants to be respected, women too deserve to be respected. 

The ego of the man being a natural endowment can be controlled. Hence, when a man discovers the place of his ego, he would not have issues maintaining his wife. 

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In all, marriage is honourable. And no one should defile the vows of marriage. That's one of the greatest offences in life.

However, it has not been a 100% perfect marriage. I am proud to say that, anywhere and anytime. 

There had been times my wife and I had our differences. We had to choose our choices based in what was available and could be accessed. Therefore, it is not a like the marriage did not confront challenges but the ability to steer to possibility, while understanding one another made it a success story today. 

Infidelity Is An Emotional Crime

Many ladies who are already married are not bothered about their spouses engaging other ladies out of wedlock. It has however become a new normal for a married fellow to keep an extra marital affair. 

If you aren't ready to love your partner and not to consider any other, one shouldn't venture marriage. Marriage is that willful acceptance to keep your spouse and adore him or her as the best you could ever have. 

Like me, my wife is my *Miss World*. No other woman can take her place. This is so because she is a woman. There is o other creature other than a man and a woman. Young people of the generation want to see ladies with some kind of shape, stature or height. That may be necessary but once you have made a choice and have settled down in marriage, no one else should capture your fancy than your spouse. 

Love Is Not Blind

This assertion has been the talk of town in the last two decades. Truly, one may fall in love with someone. And that may ease life. 

When we fall in love, we should not close our eyes. Before we go to say yes to someone, we should try as much as possible to know him or her, in and out. This will help the marriage a lot. Errors in marriage could lead in a devastated life. 

Do not fall in love with your eyes closed. It is true that love covers multitude of sin but to see with the mind is important when making marital decisions. 

I have not regretted for once in marriage probably because I listened to wise counsel before making a move. 

Friends, one of the beautiful things to experience in life is marriage. Do not be too engrossed in the societal abuses that have discouraged a lot of people from venturing into marriage. You could have a beautiful marriage, just ensure you aren't lusting but loving. 

Happy Good Friday

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