Me, Him, and the Other Woman

Love is in the air indeed, for I have seen and read more articles about love this month. Some naughty and sexy articles too, and, of course, I have written my piece. And I was overwhelmed by the support showered upon me. Thank you guys, but what's more important to me is that I have made you laugh.

Let me share with you today, another experience from my past about love. But this one is a situation that you don't want to be in, in a relationship, so let's begin.

This happened way back in 2007. I was 27 back then. We were new to this place, and my husband was looking for a job. Fortunately, he got a position as an electrician in one of the famous resorts here in Roxas City, Capiz. Things went smoothly for us. We can now buy our needs and wants. My daughter was 4 years old at that time. After a year, that's when things changed for us. My husband was always drunk and went home very late. If I asked him about it, all he said was that there was a company gathering. But it went on and on, and he got mad if I asked him every time. So I just let him be since he has provided us very well and I really trust him. I knew in my heart that he would never cheat, and so I thought!

He hired one of our neighbors as his helper, and that neighbor told me one day that I should keep an eye on my husband because there was this one girl working at the resort that was so close to him. I did not mind it at first because I trusted my husband. Maybe it was just a friend knowing my husband because he is very friendly. But his getting home late went on, and sometimes he would work on Sundays too. That's when my feminine instinct kicked in. As I began investigating, I started checking his phone, which I had never done before. I found a conversation from a certain number, and they were calling each other "loves." Believe me, I was so furious at that time that I wanted to confront my husband right away, but I kept my calm. I knew that he would just deny it, so I needed to gather more evidence.

I began texting her and introduced myself as Cris' wife. I knew for sure that she was shocked when she received my message. Who wouldn't be, right? She responded as if she knew me already. She was so friendly, and I also pretended to be friendly and that I knew nothing about their affair. But I know that my husband knew that I knew something. When he became more secretive and did not want me to touch his phone, but you know, women can be as good as FBI detectives when we want to be, we find ways.

Since it is a resort, I started going to his workplace. I went there pretending to unwind but with a hidden agenda. I found out that that bitch is already married and has 2 kids. That her husband is on board as a seaman, she's really something, eh, playing fire while her husband is working his ass off just to provide them with everything. My husband was annoyed with what I was doing. He said that I was keeping an eye on him and that he could not do his job properly. I did not mind him and just continued. 

To make the story short, they have had an affair for months already. I confronted my husband about it, and he apologized, promised never to do it again, and resigned from his job. I gave him a second chance because I love him and I don't want to lose him over that "makating pempem' bitch. I looked for a job and luckily found one. While I was at work, he stayed at home to care for our daughter. I thought he'd change, that he'd stop having an affair with that bitch. I was so fed up with everything and I just let him do it, thinking that he might stop if he had enough. That is when I almost had an affair with my co-worker. But, because I care about my family, I decided to leave the job before things got out of hand.

My husband and I talked about everything that was going on in our family, and he promised that this time he would change for the better. And because I believed in him, I gave him another chance. I, being foolish again, thought that he would really change.

It was Sunday. I was doing laundry and he said that he had to go to his abuela to get his salary from working in the house we were living in right now. His father financed it, and he was getting paid from working in this house. I told him to be home early because we still had no viands for our lunch, and at that time, my mother-in-law was there to check on us. After 12 p.m., there was still no sign of him. I felt that something was wrong, so I dialed the number of one of the workers at that time and asked if he was still working, and he said that my husband left early after he got his salary. After our call ended, I could feel my blood boiling and me trembling. I burst out in tears and told my mother-in-law that I was going somewhere. She asked me what happened, and I told her that I would kill her son and his mistress. I changed my clothes and hopped into the first jeepney that I saw. I had an idea of where my husband was because when I was still working, I always saw that bitch every morning, waiting for a jeepney. While I was in the jeepney, I was earnestly praying that I hoped I was wrong, that I hoped I was just creating things in my mind and that he would give me courage to be strong enough not to kill those two if ever. I was crying the whole time. I did not mind if the passengers were staring at me.

When I arrived in the area, I saw an elderly woman walking and asked if she knew someone who was working at that resort and had 2 kids. She said she knew her and referred me to where her house is. I thanked her and went in the direction she told me to. While I was walking, I looked at every house along the way. Then, boom, I saw my husband's motorcycle in a gated house, and I saw him playing with that bitch's son while the bitch was watching them. I could no longer hold my emotions. I was so mad that I went straight to where that bitch was sitting and pulled her hair. Good thing the gate was open. My husband was so shocked that he froze for a while. Then I started shouting, cursing them both, and destroyed everything inside the house. I even grabbed a knife and pointed it at that bitch, but my husband got the chance to grab it away from me. Then I felt like a candle slowly melting. I cried and cried while my husband was hugging me and saying sorry. After a while, I stopped, composed myself, and told my husband that I wanted him out of my life. That I would pack his things and have them delivered. Then I went outside and I saw many people were gathered around the house. There were so many Marites at that time, but now they knew that the person living there was a mistress.

I walked away while I was crying. Then I saw my husband following me and told me that we should go home and talk. I did not ride on his motorcycle and just hopped on the jeepney that was passing by. I was crying and crying and didn't know what to do. I had nowhere to go. So I decided to go home. I saw he was already there, waiting for me. He said that we should talk, that he was sorry, that he didn't want me to leave, and that he loved me more than anything. I just laughed and told him that I didn't need his love anymore. I called my sister right away and told her to book us a flight because me and my daughter were going home. I told her everything. But she advised me to think hard and talk to my husband first. She encouraged me to think of my daughter. It is hard for her to grow up without a father. So I decided to give him another chance, but if he does it again, he will be totally eradicated from our lives.

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Final Thought

I know that I must have been so foolish to give him so many chances at that time, but I am happy that I did. We've been together for 21 years already. And I guess that experience made our bond stronger than ever. I also think that we have surpassed the most challenging part of being in a relationship. I am so sorry for this very long article. I am so carried away and still feel the emotions that I felt back then. I had to pause for a while and check my blood pressure just to be safe. lol! Anyway, thanks for reading, guys! I hope you have learned something from this.

Date Published: February 8, 2022

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