You are who you think you are. You are a product of your most dominant thought process. What you think of yourself and see of yourself soon materializes because it would inform your next decision, always. It's all in your mind and that's why your mindset matters.
Sometimes what we allow into our subconscious settles whether we know it or not. What we think of and allow over time whether we like it or not settles. The moment we understand that every little thing matters, then it changes our outlook on things. It's not about taking life too seriously but about changing the narrative of what we say and do.
It's pointless to keep saying negative things about yourself when you are trying to steer your life in another direction. Allow your words to match your actions that's why we have been told to mean what we say and say what we mean. There is a way your life adjusts and starts to move in the direction of your most dominant thoughts.
If you keep calling yourself a failure and that's what you will always see. I try to protect myself from the negatives by not dwelling on them and overriding them with positive words. We can't help it, those negative thoughts would come. It's not a matter of if, but a matter of when but what do you do when those thoughts come? Do you dwell on it or push it aside by taking steps in the opposite direction of that thought?
This has been one of my favourite jokes on the internet and I wouldn't still want to call it a joke because it's reality personified. Two friends were discussing with each other when the other friend was trying to buttress a point and he told the other friend, "That's right. Okay, now, let's assume you are poor, for example..." He wasn't even done before the other friend intercepted his incomplete statement and said, "I can never be poor.". The other friend looked perplexed and said, "I only said, for example, Fred..." but the other friend, still determined and insistent on his stance, said, "Even in an example, I still cannot be poor." I believe it's all about the mindset.
Your words - the words you speak would always shape your world because it would open your mind to the reality of what is attainable or what's not. The other friend as shared above, who was optimistic about never being poor would only be doing himself if they are just mere words he speaks without a corresponding action to back it up. It's unwise to just stay positive, speak the words without taking steps in the direction of your thoughts. Your positive thoughts are not going to do the job for you, far from it but they will prepare your heart and mind to stay positive even when situations are not looking as good as they shouldn't.
There is a way life goes against the things we desire or speak. The moment you start declaring you can never be poor is when you would notice you have no money, no help and that's when things look a bit more daunting but you don't have to cave in because the moment you have lost the battle of your mind, you have lost almost everything just as someone once said, "A person with a bad name is already half hanged."
The things you allow in your mind would soon become the reality you will live in. Let's face it, most of the negative thoughts we have allowed over the years settled and they keep replaying in our head and the way we allowed them to settle in, is the same way we have to consistently pull them down.
It goes across every aspect of our lives because even in a relationship, when a lady thinks less of herself, then it makes it easy for guys who are prey to make her feel they are doing her a favour by dating her. She feels inadequate and "lucky" to have a guy like that because she feels she is undeserving which makes it more pathetic when they take some things in a relationship they shouldn't. You need to tell yourself you are beautiful and it has nothing to do with your physical traits but about who you are, who you want to be and the value you possess.
Someone said, "There is no one that is ugly...with money and exposure, even more success, they instantly look even more attractive; physically, mentally and with success." That's about right! Never forget that what you see around, what you say to yourself or feed your mind with would always take residency in your mind.
We need to have a good view of life and work towards it. Stop seeing life as cruel because it deprives you of seeing opportunities where they are. Don't blame a crocodile when you are near a river, so don't blame anyone when your life starts moving in the direction of the things you predominantly think about. We need to paint the world we want to see and I've said it, it doesn't magically appear but it's like a cushion through our words as it prepares us for the steps we need to take.
Stay positive and move your life through actions in the direction of a positive mindset. Don't allow the negatives to settle else you would feel defeated even before you take any meaningful step.
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Truly what we think to us happens to us truly . We should watch the sorts of thought we passed in to our psyche, I took in your illustrations forever we should not permit antagonism to get inside our brain