Life's Tactics.
Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/four-person-standing-at-top-of-grassy-mountain-697244/ *There is no manual as to how we live in life but from experience* *Others feel they know it all, off to life's jail they signed their sentence* *A lot of people gets screwed up in their bid for independence* *Forgetting that this is life, they are not the only ones in attendance* *For some, there is little to even manage their sustenance* *For most people, they can barely sustain their existence* *Oh! Don't get me started with humans and their pretence* *For most people, they take their pound of flesh with a vengeance* *We didn't sign the memo into the world to gain our entrance* *But we have to make the most of it so we can learn the concept of acceptance* *Life doesn't come with a manual and no man knows it all* *A little bit from every corner - that's how we form our reality* *It doesn't have to appeal to all, it's okay if it's just to your sanity* *Sometimes life makes sense, other times it's just that vanity* *We are trying to find ourselves while helping others to gain clarity* *We have different goals just as most people chase after popularity* *We have those who care less and just want prosperity* *There are those with the simplicity that wants just sincerity* *Different strokes for different folks and we try to find the balance to our disparity* *We are all unique, so let's try to find similarities to consolidate our solidarity* *What's a human being without that striking peculiarity?* *Each man walking the face of the earth with his own identity* *Who are we to judge others' ambition when no one is judging ours? Such extremity!*
Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-washing-her-face-with-water-2087954/ We are always quick to judge others yet we take the focus away from ourselves. We want everyone to know or think we have things all figured out so they can bow at our feet. We want that status, we want that life, that popularity but suddenly we have a problem with it when we see someone with the same goals and dreams. Is it a crime for another person to dream and have something similar to what we desire? How does their dream affect your course of action? Humans are naturally selfish and we have to be honest with ourselves that we all have that inherent trait and it's just that it is more magnified in others than us. Someone once joked: "***You want to have the world? If you have everything, where would you put them?"***. We want to have everything to ourselves but that's not a bad thing. There is no crime against dreaming big but my issue with ambitious people sometimes is that they think they are the only ones that deserve those good things and it's not justified when it comes to you. Have you ever seen a situation where someone has been working so hard on something but you were able to get that same thing without exerting as much effort as the other person? It wasn't as if you didn't work your butt off for it too but with a little bit less, you got what others toiled all night for. Most people have resented so many people for a little less than this. They don't understand that sometimes it's not about working so hard but about asking the right questions. In my country, we used to say "***Those who ask for direction to where they are going won't get lost.***" As long as you keep asking the right questions you are bound to attain that success. Most people would rather be bitter at what you have which they desired too rather than ask questions. To hate is much easier to them than asking questions. A wise man once said: "You cannot attract what you attack." This is true because you would be blinded by your hate. It's okay to want the same thing and it's also okay not to desire the same thing. It doesn't make the other person less ambitious or your enemy, it only means you can coexist with your similarities or disparities. With the similarities, it can make your journey easier and faster because you can see how it can be done to cut off the mistakes you are bound to make later. With the disparities, you can learn to accept the things you can't change and the ones you can't understand. Learn to accept others' individual differences and only then can they accept yours. Learn to be genuinely happy for others and only then can good things be attracted to you. Learn to rid yourself of the hate in your heart because it's bound to consume you. No one has it all figured out and no one can make it out in this world alone. Ask questions, ask for help and be willing to give your best. Most people think asking questions make their ignorance obvious but it only strengthens your knowledge because what you know stays with you. Most people also think asking for help makes them weak but it doesn't. No one can know where to help you if you didn't ask. We don't live in the eras of mind readers where someone neutral would know what you desire and then hand it over to you. I hope these life tactics help. *Thank you for your time.* Kindly follow me on **Noise.Cash**... I am trying to engage more with people and connect with everyone with this account. I look forward to seeing you there... You can say hello to me there so we can get familiarized as well. Click here. https://noise.cash/u/Olasquare
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That's right friend, we are very selfish but the first step is to accept it and work to improve it, as you say through respect and empathy for others, accepting that we all always think differently and that's fine
That's true...all need to work on ourselves and be better.
I do agree that when you ask for directions, you won't get lost . Many people including I fall into this trap sometimes especially when the person we are to ask from takes every little chance to throw their achievement at us. It is also true just like you said in your words that ' We are trying to find ourselves while helping others to gain clarity '. Only those who knows the way knows book( it not about a book, you'd have heard of it in the western language)
Absolutely... We have all been there.
Being selfish is natural, and every human has this habit. What makes one different from the other is the level of maturity the possess
Very well said, I have to agree.
I admit I have those times that myself became selfish to the point that I just want everything all for myself yet later on I try to prevent it and just live this life with kindness, that's right when we are keep on asking for directions we surely won't get lost.
Thank you for your honesty, my friend.
Speaking for myself on this one, No matter how much I try to hide it, there's this atom of jealousy when I see someone putting little effort progressing more than me who is putting tons of effort, in my own measurement. I guess there are certain traits that are inbuilt in us as humans.
That's sincere and the truth, my brother. We have all been there... We just seem to ask questions as to why they have it easy and why we don't...it's normal... Most times I just ask ask them questions when I can.
Well said dear and I am agree with your word that we are selfish sometimes. Everyone can have their dream and they have right to do fulfill it. Just we need to be positive mind set up.
Positive mindset...that's key.
Alot of people feel ashamed to ask questions. In life, we can't do without asking questions. Besides, everyone has every right to dream big and attain it. No one has the right to belittle anyone.
God bless you for that. Spot on.
"Learn to be genuinely happy for others and only then can good things be attracted to you. " Yes to this. 💗 Being happy for them is life living a happy life.
Yes, we have to live happy.
I'm guilty of this sometimes when I see that they put little efforts but it turns to have a good result which totally different from the effort I exert
That's life, sometimes.
This is a good and a timely reminder. We can always aim to do better and also uplift others. Also we should be kind, because the world has been through a lot. At the least of our gestures, it can get better.
Thank you for this.
you're welcome, mate.
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Yeah, more to learn from this article ! Like the proem was just sinking into my head, my love for proem is vast.. hehehehe, joke apart , the poem is so touching... Life is filled with different kind of things , with different adventure,but the truth remains that we cannot have it all, we just have to focus on our track alone and leave others to run their race, we ain't going the same way, if at all we moving to the same destination, we still have to face our lane , theirs can never stop us from getting to our destination. So why the selfishness? Because we want to have it all? Not possible, we live our life to focus on what we want to do, we are running different race because in life competition is unhealthy. We should not take life too hard on ourselves. We just have to follow the principle of life to get what we want. Thanks for this beautiful piece of writing.
I am so glad you enjoyed it. Most of the issues we have with others stem from the fact that they want to have it all... borne out of greed and lack of consideration for others.
there are times when people are prestige to look for the most decisive thing in life because it will drop their authority a little to ask other people, as humans should understand the limitations we have more often because what we really lack is other people's strengths and vice versa, the tactic of life is how we should understand life because we cannot live without other people in general. it is possible that the most difficult questions will be translated by others.
We can't do without others and that's the reality of life.
Ofcourse they alot of persons, it's more easier to hate. Just like the way it's more easier to destroy than to build.. these things worries me.
They are worrisome and scary because it's becoming the new normal.
Respect is a must. We must accept the other whatever they are. Be happy for them. Have a good relationship to them then the good things you've done will turn back to you also. What you've done to others it's the same you'll receive. We should always choose the peaceful living. We should always have a healthy living with the others. Enjoy the life with them. Make your life to be happy with the people surroundings you.
I always enjoy your valuable contribution. You always speak the truth. Thank you for this.
You're always welcome friend. Thank you for appreciating too. ❤️
Anytime.
Thank you friend. 🥰❤️
Life has no manual, as we dey live, na so we dey learn. ~Olamide Had it been that we were given a manual maybe some people would have held onto it firmly because truly, we are all selfish just that it is on a different level. The of tolerance which is accepting others individual differences and opinion cannot be over emphasised. If it took others less effort accept it without grudges.
Hahahaha that's so true. Most people would have kept the manual for themselves.
As they say "follow who know road". You can't do that if you're at loggerheads with those who know the road. I have always emphasised to myself, to my friends and to everyone else who cares to listen that life isn't a race but a journey we walk together.
God bless you. It's not a race at all but a journey to walk together. Have you sorted out the blog?
Indeed sir. Actually I wanted to chat you up about it today but my phone was down and there wasn't power supply. I will leave you a message wish I am done typing this.
Anytime... I'm just a chat away. Well done.
I like the bits of every corner and helping each other to find clarity. That is how it is. What works for others may not work for us. We have to find our own path.
Absolutely... Spot on.
In life what you don't know you don't know unless you ask people that knows And if someone is feeling to big to ask for the direction them he or she will just be roaming around in life
Thank you for this, dear. He far, have you sorted out the payment?
You are always welcome Still paying it jare but have paid part of it today sha I believe God will see me through 😁
Keep being strong, dear. It's just a phase.
Yeah that's true
We can't know every single thing, nobody has it all figured out, we are learning as we go while also helping others with what we've learn so they too can learn. The sky is big enough for everyone so let's help each other rise even as we are rising and not let them feel bad just because they are on a different level of the journey than we are.
Very well said, Jules. Accurate.