Just Do What You Can Do.

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Humans are the most selfish creature you will ever find. Yes, I know we have some animals that are greedy too. They are so greedy and selfish that they don't even care about their little ones. Well, I thought we are the higher beings? Yes, we keep displaying the acts that should be found amongst animals.

It's painful when the place you expected wisdom, you are faced with foolishness instead. It hurts more when the person you expect to have your back ends up being the one to show a lack of consideration for you. What hurts us the most is the fact that those we expect to understand are the ones that show zero understanding because they are only focused on themselves. Only those who mean so much to you can hurt you.

I am a good observer of human nature and I've seen a lot in this short life to understand that humans will always be humans. You will run 100 meters for someone and just when you expect them to run just a meter for you, they turn around, look away and still give you reasons why they couldn't. I understand that we are wired differently but isn't it common sense to be there for those who have been there for you because you know they are worth the trouble?

I mentioned that I've been watching this series called "Suits" and it's 9 seasons. I am already on the 7th one. One thing I can pick out from that movie is, that it doesn't matter if you are right or wrong, they would always pick loyalty over everything. Once they know your value, they would first show you loyalty, be there for you and after that, they can call you out and blast you for screwing up but at least, they would never leave you without support.

It's the opposite we have in the world right now. Everyone just wants to do things their way and their loyalty can be bought. They don't care about you the moment someone else offers better things. They forgot the good you have done for them if you are unable to do the recent one for whatever reason. Humans are quick to forget and it aches my heart to see it so.

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Don't expect from others what you can't give to them. Don't expect them to cross the ocean for you when you can't even jump the puddle for them. It's not about payback but it's basic common sense. The problem is we don't study humans because if we study them, we can understand how much the help we have gotten and it's only natural that when the occasion presents itself for us to at least make that person feel welcomed, we should learn to take it.

I'm not surprised that humans would always be the way they are ever since I noticed what a close family member said about my dad when he passed away. This was someone that would always come around, seek help and got all the help he needed to build his house. He always gets the help of my dad to pay the fees of his children. My dad wouldn't tell but I am not dumb enough not to see these things. You know when you are little, you can get away with eavesdropping. I do hear and see everything and even our driver would tell me this person came to dad's office and was given a cheque. How did he know too? He would be the one to take him to the bank, make him cash it and then take him to the park, wait for the bus to get filled so he can be safe.

When dad passed away and he came around. The family were deliberating on who will be responsible for the aspects of the burial. He was asked how much he would contribute and he opened his mouth to say that why would he since he didn't benefit ANYTHING from him while he was alive. It was at that point people started condemning him because they said they knew how close they were and it's not possible he didn't benefit when outsiders benefitted.

Humans, love to do things only when it's convenient for them. We like wasting our energy on those who won't even do half of anything for us. This is why I've locked up my mind to do things I feel are good and I would leave you to your conscience to do what you think is good too. We don't always get loyalty from those we would kill for. We don't always get love from those we expected it from. It's the way of life and humans. The better we realize this, the easier our disappointment would be eased too.

Just do what you can do and learn to let go. It's a sad reality but life isn't always a business arrangement. We just have to do the best we can and you can be sure that someone somewhere would do the same for you but it doesn't have to be those you have invested so much in. Someone that would always be there for others when they are down, don't be surprised when no one bats their eyelids when that person is down too. It's always about what humans can get not necessarily about what they can give and that's the scary thing about humans.

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Selfishness causes more harm to the body,am not surprised at all when you see someone been selfish to him or her self not even to neighbours alone even to buy food will be a big problem.and how can we deal with selfish people Accept that they have no regard for others. ... Give yourself the attention you deserve. ... Stay true to yourself—don't stoop to their level. ... Remind them that the world does not revolve around them. ... Starve them of the attention they crave. ... Bring up topics that interest you. Thanks

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2 years ago

Hahaha I love this. Thanks a lot for this...your comment did wonders.

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2 years ago

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Thanks sir, I appreciate

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2 years ago

No worries.

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2 years ago

I agree with you, its best to decide intentionally to be good without high and unnecessary expectations of reciprocity because it might not come from the direction you wish it to but the hope that we would still get good will come back to us regardless is what we can have, that when you're in need of help you'll be fortunate to get that which you need because you've been sowing the seeds with good intent

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2 years ago

I love that...sowing the seeds with good intent and knowing it would come back one way or the other when we need help too.

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2 years ago

Indeed, humans are more worst than any creatures. Maybe that's how it is. Well there are number of people who are truly good in nature but we can't just conclude that everyone is the same.

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2 years ago

Of course, not everyone is like that. When I mean humans, just talking about the human nature and everyone is responsible for how they break away from that nature.

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2 years ago

That's what humans are, Sometimes.they break away from it's nature; it because of realizations or maybe their mind fluctuates.

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2 years ago

Humans go with those who offer more which is why our minds always fluctuate.

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2 years ago

Sad but that's the reality. I've been in a situation where I am so d*mn stress about pursuing what other people been telling me to do just to look good on their eyes. Later then I've known that even I have done so many good things to these people, they still left me because I failed them. I didn't able to meet the so called "standards" they set for me to be given of respect and value not just a mere friend but to be considered as their family. Well, I think I am also responsible for this. I mean, its my fault that I expected too much from these people, but at the end, I am just fighting the battle alone. But anyways, I am not really alone. God is with me. Even these people will leave me, I know there is someone up there☝️, watching over for me.

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2 years ago

I love your positive approach to this. That's right, they create a standard and even when you meet it, they keep creating more till you can't keep up anymore. They will forget the ones you kept and focus on the one you didn't keep. I've stopped dancing to anyone's tunes. I do what is right in my sight and God.

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2 years ago

That's just the plain truth. No matter how good you are people will still condemn you at your back. They are actually closer to you when they needed something the most.

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2 years ago

That's humans for you. They don't have a shred of loyalty in their bones.

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2 years ago

How deep this is, humans would always be humans, they never appreciate ones kind gestures, they only come around when they need help and once one runs out of means to help, they turn their backs away, just like what that man did to your dad when he was alive (may his soul rest in peace).

My brother told me this: "don't feel entitled or feel the urge to help one who has never helped you before or one who you can't even possibly meet when you are in dire need, if you don't have enough to share, tell them. It's as simple as that." Ever since he told me this,I never ever went out of my way to help people that would never raise an eyelid to help me.

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2 years ago

Thank you so much for this, Ella. What I do is, I follow my mind. The moment my mind tells me to help, I do it and I stay off. I don't even want to disturb my head because I know how humans can be. They would expect so much from you but would never go out of the way for you.

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2 years ago

Sir, that's human being oh! Even if you give them the whole world, they will say you've never given anything to them. Like you said, Dad helped him that family member of yours, but immediately Dad passed on, he said he didn't benefit anything from him. Hmm! Omo ènìyàn shòro.

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2 years ago

That experience shaped me. You would kill yourself for people and they won't appreciate it because they want more. They feel entitled to more when they haven't even done anything for you before. Haters would see you walk on water and they would say it's because you cannot swim.

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2 years ago

Sad sad. Life's getting sadder day by day. It's only human to expect good but it's painful that we have to suppress that side of us just to avoid being hurt.

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2 years ago

Very true, dear. For the sake of your sanity and heart, just suppress it and do what you can do.

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I know they kind of people fa. They will come me to the 🏠 almost almost every morning to ask that fir on assistance or the other. Infact dad will even settle them before he settles his own wife and children. And whenever he doesn't have enough on him. He will promise them the following week or ask them to come meet him at the office

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2 years ago

Still, it won't stop them from spreading lies about him as long as someone gives them something more. Very strange humans.

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2 years ago

It's been my mindset to not expect from people I do help out, so I won't be disappointed. Humans are really selfish creatures, I admit that. 🤭

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2 years ago

Very true, my friend and that's a nice attitude to have...not to expect anything from anyone even when we help them.

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2 years ago

Most times I just help people with the mindset that it will never come back because if you expect it, it just might never happen.

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2 years ago

They might come back but not from the same source, sometimes. Just do what your mind tells you and move on. That's right.

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2 years ago

To be honest, I have recently conditioned myself to believe everyone will always look out for their interest first before another. That is one of the coping mechanisms I have adopted to save myself from a lot of disappointment and heartache.

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2 years ago

That is the best way and I love that coping mechanism...it saves you a lot of unnecessary trouble.

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