Just Do What You Can Do.
Humans are the most selfish creature you will ever find. Yes, I know we have some animals that are greedy too. They are so greedy and selfish that they don't even care about their little ones. Well, I thought we are the higher beings? Yes, we keep displaying the acts that should be found amongst animals.
It's painful when the place you expected wisdom, you are faced with foolishness instead. It hurts more when the person you expect to have your back ends up being the one to show a lack of consideration for you. What hurts us the most is the fact that those we expect to understand are the ones that show zero understanding because they are only focused on themselves. Only those who mean so much to you can hurt you.
I am a good observer of human nature and I've seen a lot in this short life to understand that humans will always be humans. You will run 100 meters for someone and just when you expect them to run just a meter for you, they turn around, look away and still give you reasons why they couldn't. I understand that we are wired differently but isn't it common sense to be there for those who have been there for you because you know they are worth the trouble?
I mentioned that I've been watching this series called "Suits" and it's 9 seasons. I am already on the 7th one. One thing I can pick out from that movie is, that it doesn't matter if you are right or wrong, they would always pick loyalty over everything. Once they know your value, they would first show you loyalty, be there for you and after that, they can call you out and blast you for screwing up but at least, they would never leave you without support.
It's the opposite we have in the world right now. Everyone just wants to do things their way and their loyalty can be bought. They don't care about you the moment someone else offers better things. They forgot the good you have done for them if you are unable to do the recent one for whatever reason. Humans are quick to forget and it aches my heart to see it so.
Don't expect from others what you can't give to them. Don't expect them to cross the ocean for you when you can't even jump the puddle for them. It's not about payback but it's basic common sense. The problem is we don't study humans because if we study them, we can understand how much the help we have gotten and it's only natural that when the occasion presents itself for us to at least make that person feel welcomed, we should learn to take it.
I'm not surprised that humans would always be the way they are ever since I noticed what a close family member said about my dad when he passed away. This was someone that would always come around, seek help and got all the help he needed to build his house. He always gets the help of my dad to pay the fees of his children. My dad wouldn't tell but I am not dumb enough not to see these things. You know when you are little, you can get away with eavesdropping. I do hear and see everything and even our driver would tell me this person came to dad's office and was given a cheque. How did he know too? He would be the one to take him to the bank, make him cash it and then take him to the park, wait for the bus to get filled so he can be safe.
When dad passed away and he came around. The family were deliberating on who will be responsible for the aspects of the burial. He was asked how much he would contribute and he opened his mouth to say that why would he since he didn't benefit ANYTHING from him while he was alive. It was at that point people started condemning him because they said they knew how close they were and it's not possible he didn't benefit when outsiders benefitted.
Humans, love to do things only when it's convenient for them. We like wasting our energy on those who won't even do half of anything for us. This is why I've locked up my mind to do things I feel are good and I would leave you to your conscience to do what you think is good too. We don't always get loyalty from those we would kill for. We don't always get love from those we expected it from. It's the way of life and humans. The better we realize this, the easier our disappointment would be eased too.
Just do what you can do and learn to let go. It's a sad reality but life isn't always a business arrangement. We just have to do the best we can and you can be sure that someone somewhere would do the same for you but it doesn't have to be those you have invested so much in. Someone that would always be there for others when they are down, don't be surprised when no one bats their eyelids when that person is down too. It's always about what humans can get not necessarily about what they can give and that's the scary thing about humans.
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Selfishness causes more harm to the body,am not surprised at all when you see someone been selfish to him or her self not even to neighbours alone even to buy food will be a big problem.and how can we deal with selfish people Accept that they have no regard for others. ... Give yourself the attention you deserve. ... Stay true to yourself—don't stoop to their level. ... Remind them that the world does not revolve around them. ... Starve them of the attention they crave. ... Bring up topics that interest you. Thanks