What are you grateful for? Are you grateful for yourself? Gratitude is not about what's in your pocket but what is in your hands. Most of the time we wait for the situation to be perfect before we show gratitude but we don't need to. Thankfulness is about what's in your heart and how you see things.
Most people are not grateful and would want others to see that they achieved whatever they achieved by their strength to fuel their ego. Most people around me know I am so big on gratitude even on little things. I like to appreciate everything no matter how insignificant it seems - from someone asking me how my day went (it shows that person cares enough to ask) to the point of someone asking what I am doing presently. It all depends on how we see things.
Some people might say they have nothing to be thankful for because they have no help around them but most of the time they forgot that they made a mess of the help they got which made people keep them at arm's length. Any human would naturally gravitate towards where they are celebrated or appreciated rather than where they are tolerated or despised.
There was this man that flew the plane for the first time in his life and he happened to sit next to a more experienced person. This man helped him throughout the flight especially when he was scared and didn't know the food they offered on the plane was free. He almost rejected it thinking he would be charged before this man helped him. They got off the plane and he went ahead of the man that helped him but this man ran after him to at least make sure he got to his destination safer. He approached him to ask where he was going so he can at least be of further helped to him and he feigned ignorance - he asked the man to get out because he didn't know him. The man made him know he was only trying to help and he was the one who sat next to him and helped him all through the flight but he shoved this man aside.
For someone like that, he feels like a user and users can never be grateful. They just want to use you to get to an end and they will forget you ever existed. I can imagine if family members gathered money for this guy to travel out, he would never remember them not to talk about refunding the money they used to send him abroad. It's okay if he was scared or being careful but not the way he treated the person who was of help to him. If I wasn't certain of his intentions, I would at least thank him for getting me through those horrible moments and even tell him I am waiting for the person who wants to come and pick me even if that's not true. Most people don't get the needed help because of how badly they burnt the last bridge that helped them.
Gratitude is important and we need to show consideration for others especially those who have helped us at some point. I know too many expectations sometimes make people reduce to nothing the help they have received but being grateful should start even with the little things.
Gratitude is tough when you are going through a lot of bad things but it helps us to remain calm and think with clarity when we are grateful. Your girlfriend left you? Be grateful. It's crazy, right? What if she didn't leave and you both got married and she eventually left? Wouldn't your life be harder then? We really don't understand the trouble that is being avoided by the happenings that we go through but because we want things our way we are blinded to the things we should actually be grateful for. We think it's a stumbling block but it's just a speed bump which is not to stop us permanently but temporarily so we can sit back, re-evaluate and then move on. We all need that reality check at some point so we can be grateful for the things we have that didn't slip away.
I always try to see the best in every negative situation and I share a week ago about my mother in law that died. In all honesty, she was the best anyone could hope for and she helped me with every chance she got. I didn't want her to go the way she did but still, I am grateful. What if she was on life support and we have to keep paying heavily to keep her alive? What if in the process of us running helter-skelter we got injured too while trying to keep her alive? Do we have to get to the point where we would make the hard choice of letting her go on our terms after expending so much? I believe nothing happens by chance even though I agree that some things could have been avoided.
Gratitude is a state of the heart and we view things differently which is why I would understand if anyone thinks differently. I can only speak from the standpoint of the things I understand and the truth is, I can never understand everything or everyone or every situation since we all feel things differently.
I don't want to make this post longer than necessary, so I would be sharing another life experience I got that made me know that even amid terrible happenings, we can actually think on the flip side and be grateful. I am grateful for life, for my family, for the ability to earn and meet amazing people here, I am thankful for Read.Cash, Noise.Cash and our dear Rusty too. I am big on gratitude and won't keep looking for ways to show it.
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Thank you for your time.
I got to read the second post before this, but gratefulness is one of the most important thing in a man life, not just to God, but people that help too