Emotions Can Be Managed, II.
If you missed the first part, you can read it here: Emotions Can Be Managed.
There is a quote that says "Silence is golden when you cannot think of an answer." You don’t always have to give people a response. You have nothing to lose and you have nothing to gain. You have no statement to prove or anyone to impress. Let them laugh, let them call you any name that catches their fancy. It is better to hold your mouth and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubts.
Some people lash out under little or no provocation and it's an indication of the internal battle they are dealing with. Stop thinking everything is about you. Some things they mask that is about you have an undertone to them because it's mostly about them.
Just with a dose of maturity from Debbie as shared in the first part, she was able to make a lifetime friend with juicy rewards. They could have turned out to be sworn enemies but she won a friend for displaying more class than expected. You have the power to win people over with more maturity... eventually.
There is wisdom in displaying maturity. There are some people in your life’s journey that the moment you meet them, you start with fights and this is what happened between Philomena and Debbie. Debbie showed the needed wisdom and won a friend over and the friend, in turn, became a blessing to her just a year down the line. You could imagine what would happen in the years to come. Indeed, you don’t throw a baby away with the bath water.
We have focused on Debbie for a while now and we need to acknowledge the significance of the lady with the attitude; Philomena. She could have just left that group and licked her wounds secretly but she reached out to Debbie and apologized. It takes a great deal of humility to apologize.
Debbie left the room open for reconciliation just as Philomena did too. She became a blessing to Debbie as Debbie also became a blessing to her. Debbie decided to leave what transpired between them out of the equation when they came for the premarital counselling. There might be someone you need to reconcile with after reading this, so just go ahead and do it.
The things that are getting your attention are the things that are not important. If you chose to close your eyes to them and not respond, you cannot die. Some people feel the need to always talk and they end up saying all sorts of nonsense. You don’t always have to talk and you don’t always have to reply. Stop responding to everything. Stop allowing everything to get your attention. Learn to overlook some things, sometimes. Knowing what to respond to or overlook is very important.
Don’t try to make other people be like you. We are all different in our unique and peculiar ways. It takes a huge level of maturity to tolerate another person in your space even with individual differences.
I heard the story of a popular figure in Nigeria that said he travelled out of the country to go and watch Manchester United vs Manchester City (the Manchester derby) and he mentioned how much it cost him to do that on Twitter. A lot of people applauded him and wished they can be in his shoes while a lot of people bashed him. You could have read it and passed. The information added nothing to your life so you could have chosen to give no reply to what he said but some chose to reply with insults.
A lack of emotional control will always allow you to speak when you are not expected to. The information added nothing to me, so I don’t have to respond to it. Why would you choose to involve yourself in things that would get you angry? In life, you need to learn to choose your battles carefully.
If you pay attention to what people are saying every time, then you won’t go far... except it's the kind of information that leads to opportunities. We care too much about what others think of us and have the desire to impress others. Never try to impress anyone because everyone will always have an opinion. Everyone will always want to have a say in your life. Humans are selfish and when something doesn’t look like what they like or who they are, they feel the need to attack it. Whatever others don’t like is never good enough but it's not your headache so don't make it your battle. Stop trying to live for others and impress them. Be your person and learn to know the season for speech and silence.
Take good care of your body. Eat properly. It is not the quantity that matter but the quality. Exercise your body to live healthy and strong. Take adequate rest and sleep when due. Concern yourself with these things instead and stop bothering with how you are going to impress those who always want to have an opinion. Always learn to mind your own business... drink a lot of water too hahaha. Be in charge of your emotions because they will determine the course of your life.
The End.
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