Emotions Can Be Managed.
Your emotion controls the way you act or behave or even see things. A lot of people have been clouded by their emotions so much that nothing you say can make sense to them even when the truth is staring them in the face. Often we allow our emotions to get the better of us and act in ways we wouldn’t want to or shouldn't. Many times I have seen people live in regrets all because they didn’t manage their emotions the right way. That's why my favourite quote can never run out of style... "When a defining moment comes, you need to define it or else the moment will define you." When you don’t manage your emotions properly, then your emotions will get the best of you instead.
We need to be in charge. We need to stay on top of every aspect of our lives. We need to take care of our minds and our emotions. If you cannot properly take care of your emotions, then it would be hard to control your life as a whole. Many people have shown so much promise but they threw everything away because they couldn’t take good care of their emotions all due to one moment. They want to prove to others what's sometimes not necessary. I agree there are times you have to show you are no push over but you have to do that with a level head.
How do you manage your emotions properly? You need to feed your mind with the right things because what you feed your mind with will determine how you will turn out. Your exposure is your reality and often a man will become what he has allowed himself to be opened to over time.
Reading good books would always be a great start. Watching motivational videos would also go a long way. Surround yourself with people who have learned the art of managing their emotions and by their actions, you will learn from them.
Follow the path you want to be in 5 years from now. Feed your mind with the right information that will get you to where you want to be. You always have to be open because keeping an open mind would help you to learn faster and quicker too. Most people are stuck in their ways that they won't even learn from others. The best time to plant a tree they say was 25 years ago, and the next best time to do that is today or now.
You need to learn the art of mastering your emotions. If you manage your emotions, you will earn more respect too. There are some people you can’t respond to. You don’t have to reply to every name-calling; be sure they are defining themselves and not you. You can’t give attention to everyone and stop allowing others to drag you to their low levels. Imagine someone calling you by a name you are not. Imagine someone calling me Peter outside. I won't even give attention to it...I won't even be moved to look around because that's not my name. When others try to define you based on who they think you are, don't sweat it as long as you know who you are.
I heard about a situation in a WhatsApp group and it warmed my heart. For the sake of reference, I would give names to these two women. Philomena asked a question in a WhatsApp group and Debbie replied to the question that was asked. The moment Philomena saw the reply; she tagged it and called Debbie an idiot. A statement like this would always strike a chord in anyone because you would wonder what led to this name-calling.
Debbie saw the reply and the abuse but rather thanked her for pointing her to the idiotic part of her that she never knew existed and she promised to work on it to be better from that time on. They have close to 200 people in that WhatsApp group and when everyone saw that mature response from Debbie, they were so impressed that they started pouncing on Philomena for calling another person ‘an idiot’. She got so many insults that she had to leave that WhatsApp group. When you manage your emotions well, others would fight your battle for you 😂🤣🤣😂🤣.
An hour later, she called Debbie and apologized for speaking with such derogatory words and from then on they became friends. Debbie is a marriage counsellor and shortly after, during the year, Debbie handled the premarital counselling session for Philomena. Exactly a year after, Philomena and her husband gave Debbie a gift worth 1.2 Million Naira ($2,200 back then).
Debbie displayed a great level of maturity by not giving Philomena "insult for insult". When you can react in a positive way to negative feedback, then you are mature. Debbie had the choice to respond however she choose and some would back her up but she decided against exercising that right. You always have the choice to decide however you want to respond to offensive situations in this life.
Debbie displayed a great level of self-control and I would have to admit that...it would be tough for many. I said earlier that the moment you allow yourself to be dragged to another person's low level then those people who dragged you there will beat you with the experience because it's their territory. If anyone calls you anything negative and you begin to lose your cool, then you have just proved them right. Destroy them with maturity 🤣🤣😂😂.
...to be continued...
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This is very enlightening. I like how you said when you are in control of your emotions others would battle for you.