What happens after "I do"

Date: 17th January 2022

 Hello Readers! How are you all doing today? I hope you had a fantastic Sunday, and I hope you also have a great Monday.

It is the beginning of a new week, which means we all have to return to our various jobs and activities.

The weekend was pretty short, but maybe that was because I spent it packing for the new school semester, and I am so happy because I can finally start university. Even though adjusting to new surroundings may be hard, I will adapt to it.

Often, I see people saying that once they enter marriage, their lives will become way more straightforward, and they will live happily ever after, but is this true?

When I hear people say this, my mind turns back to old Disney movies because I believe this has caused this easy marriage mentality in many young people.

Everyone only thinks about marriage and the celebrations that happen after, but no one stops to think about what happens after all the celebrations and parties.

What happens after you say, “I do?”

What happens after the parties and celebrations?

I am guessing most people don’t stop to think about all these things, and that is why most marriages end up in the family law court because most people don’t even know what they are signing up for.

Most Disney movies usually end with both parties marrying, and most times, they end with a kiss scene, and then we see “They lived happily ever after,” and the end.

Some people fail to understand that all these stories are fictional and have no ties to the real world.

It is only in these stories that a man and a mermaid manage to make things work out without fear of any consequences or knowing each other in any way.

In real life, I see people who try to follow this logic and fall into bad relationships because they fail to know each other and rush into commitments without caring about what the future holds.

Marriage is not an easy path because you are dealing with another human being, and even though you are married, that doesn’t mean every day will be full of happiness and fun.

I have noticed that when something is new, we appreciate it, which happens in marriage.

When the relationship/marriage is new, everyone seems to be enjoying themselves, and sometimes you would feel like you found the perfect man/woman, but don’t be fooled because not every day is going to be like that.

As humans, we always crave new things, and when we get bored of what we have, we tend to throw it away or replace it with a new one.

Because of this craving for new things, you see so many marriages ending up in divorce or troubled marriages because when a person gets bored of something, they will try their best to get something/someone new.

We should not play with marriage, especially if you plan to have a child with your partner, because divorce affects your partner.

 Still, it also affects the children, and that is why it is essential to know your partner before getting involved with them.

Never rush into a relationship that you know won’t work out, and something that I see people do is try to change their partner, and they even go as far as marrying their partner to prove they can change them, but it doesn’t work that way.

It is impossible to change another individual because the only person that decides that is them, and if they don’t want to change, then it doesn’t matter how much you do/say to them; they will stay the same way.

Before you enter a commitment with another individual, try to know them, and don’t think that all your days with that person will be happy, because there will always be rainy days, but that doesn’t mean you should leave at first sight of trouble.

Talking things out with your partner may solve the problems that both of you are facing, and it is when your partner is not willing to solve the problem that you think about leaving them.

Thank you for reading!