Day: 15th December 2021
Hello everyone! How is everyone doing today? I hope you are having a fantastic week and staying hydrated. Ten days remain until we reach Christmas and Sixteen till we enter 2022; I am getting excited, only thinking about it.
Do you know that you are unique, and no one can ever replace you? If you know you are unique, why do you- Stay below or close to someone so that you would get their approval.
Stay in the crowd your whole life so you can get approval from everyone, even when you don't have to.
"You wanting to be another person is a waste of the person you already are." - Marilyn Monroe.
I am always confused when I see people force themselves to change to fit into a particular group or get approval from other people.
We need to understand that even if no one sees the unique aspect in you, never forget to see it in yourself because that is essential.
"If you don't see the good in yourself, then how do you expect others to see it?
You need to know your worth because if you don't, you will be treated like a doll passed around, and you will feel lost.
A lot of people tend to cling to others, which is done mainly by young people looking for a place they can fit in, and that is why sometimes they get confused and end up doing a lot of illegal stuff.
If you fail to know your worth, you will only lose sight of who you are, and eventually, you will end up lost and confused, wandering life without knowing who you are anymore because you have allowed others to dictate who you are.
Anytime you seem to be losing sight of who you are, ask yourself this "Who am I," "Should I be doing this," "Am I proud of what I am doing now."
I feel like it is always important to ask ourselves this question because they would kick your senses back to the right place, and if they don't seem to be working, you can always slap yourself.
Do you want to let what another person says dictate your life, or do you want to live your life yourself?
I think everyone would choose the latter answer, but it is not always so easy to do that because, as humans, we are social creatures and always crave other people's attention.
Research says most people are more likely to choose starvation over isolation, showing how much we crave attention.
We must never allow others to dictate what we say, do, or feel because when they start doing this, we may never be able to escape from their grasps.
You would only end up in an endless cycle of following orders from others without ever living life the way you want to.
Can you imagine not living the way you want to? Doing what you feel won't hurt others and living your life the way others want.
Most people tend to do this, and you see them participating in things they don't even want to.
Back in school, this situation happened a lot, especially when we were asked to pick courses we wanted to study; we had to choose between Science, Art, and Business.
Most of us had been discussing it beforehand, and everyone had different choices, but when it came to a decision, most of them seemed to pick "Science."
When I asked them why they chose science, I was shocked to hear the same answer, "Well, my friend is there so I also have to go."
I was so confused because this decision somewhat decided their future, and they were not taking it seriously.
What would happen if that friend abandons you? What would happen when you fail?
I am sure these questions never came to their mind at that time because all they were thinking about was what their friends would think.
I pray they don't regret their decisions and end up sad in the end because most of them hated calculations, and they ended up doing a lot of calculations in science.
That scenario happens when you allow others' choices to decide what you do; you would only end up doing things you may not want to do and giving yourself problems.
Learn to know your worth, and don't let what others say to determine what your life would be like.
Even if they are not there, you would still be alive, so why cling to them like they are your life support. Live for yourself because you are all you need!
Thank you for reading
Reading this made me think about the life I had before. I am someone who just got out of the shell, but I thought something else rather than to stand out or blend in with others. I changed myself to someone I am not just to be in a clique. It was late then I realized that I was just taken for granted and that I was not happy with the person I have become. So, then I walked away and let of what's needed to let clear out. I have learned my worth and I am planning to keep it for the rest of my life because I am done pretending.