Don't raise a tiger if you want a sheep

I realized that some people are ugly. Not because they are born one but because they are created to be one.

Ugly in a way that the beauty outside was outshined by unwanted character. I am not referring to what the eyes can see but the inner personality which reflects the soul. They said man was born naturally good which I believe for I cannot imagine an innocent baby bearing an ugly mind. What we are say something about the surroundings we are in.

We are influenced greatly by the people who are around us. No matter how our parents trained us, there will still be unwanted character that we can get outside. But what if the parents themselves are showing untoward behavior which the child immitates because he believes that's what right is?

Parents are role models for the kids and what they show to their children will surely have great impacts. I remember my younger brother argued with his teacher because the teacher taught different principle from our mom. The teacher said to my younger brother that he should not fight against other kids which my brother refused. He told the teacher that our mom told him to fight back whenever he's being bullied and hurt. Well, my mom's principle was not wrong because it's a kind of self-defense but that doesn't mean it's right too. Base from my own view, the teacher's way was right. Every child should not be encouraged to be brave in a wrong way. Self-defense does not mean we have to fight back.

After the teacher told us that, I realized that parents' influence matter a lot and their children firmly believe with them and consider them as right. This is the reason why parents should be very careful what to teach and what to show to their kids. How the kids grow in the future say something about their parents' parenting.

I wasn't able to write an article yesterday because something unwanted happened. Last night, my boyfriend and I planned to go to my parents and have dinner with them. It's 6 PM in the afternoon when we decided to go. My boyfriend, let's call him Chris, asked permission to his dad for him to drive their multicab because that's what we will ride on to get to my parents' house. His dad didn't say anything. I don't know but their environment here is not so friendly.

When we are about to go, my boyfriend's 3-year old brother wants to go with us and he started to cry loud and shouted to his mom and dad. This kid was very spoiled by them. Everything this kid wants, they will give and that's why he cried when he wants to achieve something because he used to get what he wants when he cries. Of course, he's still a kid so he repeats the behavior because why not? He get what he wants when he cries. Tsk!

His dad comforted him that he should not go with us because we will come home late but the kid continued to cry hard. Well, this kid by the way liked to ride in their multicab so much. Even if his dad will just park the cab inside, he will cry because he wants to ride. So her mom allowed him to. I don't want to judge them but being able to witness how they raise this kid is very alarming. Can't they notice that the child's behavior was improper already? What if he grows always being given what he wants and if their parents cannot provide anymore? Will he cry again even if he's old already?

Going back, the kid was crying non-stop and his dad quit consoling him. My bf's mom told the kid to ask permission from me if he can go. I said yes of course because I don't want them to put stories about me just because I refused to their son's request. I just said yes though I don't want the kid to go because I know we will come home late and I know that the kid will cry again and will decide to go home when we arrive there. My boyfriend doesn't want him to go either because he already knows what will happen there.

But my bf's mom still wanted to go with us and she told us they will just stay inside the cab and wait for us. Really? Am I that rude for her to think of it that way? That I will just ignore them while me and my Chris are having a great time? If only it's daytime there's no problem because that kid will not be in a hurry to go home when he'll be there. But that's not case. It's already evening and we cannot just go there to see my parents and go home after. That's why when they got inside the cab, my bf asked her mom where will they go which she then said they'll go with us. My bf told his mom why she always allow his little brother to get what he wants. He's so full of the kid's attitude as well. Meanwhile, his mom hastened outside the cab together with his brother so his little brother cried again. I know his mom was angry and would say something bad about us when we go.

And I was right.

This morning, my boyfriend's mom together with her aunties are outside the house already talking about something. I guess they didn't know I am awake already and I can hear what they're talking. My boyfriend's mom said that that's why we did not allowed them to go because we don't want to spend extra money for them. They believed that we went on a fancy restaurant and ate there and bringing them with us means extra bill. She also added that it's fine with them to not eat what was bought from our money. And then the conversation went on and on so I decided to go back to our room so I can't hear the rest.

How can a mother think of that way to his own son? My boyfriend just did that because he wants to teach his little bro that not everything he wants he gets.

Isn't discipline important?

Don't they want their son to grow with the right discipline? They said they want a sheep but they are raising a tiger.

What will you guys do if you were in my shoe?

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