You don’t have to be Perfect, you just have to Accept Yourself Perfectly.
Date: 18th April, 2022
MondayBillions of people on this surface. Divided by borders, cultures, languages, traditions but united by one name, human being. We are the humans and we do have differences. It is a common thing. Some people are tall, some are short, some are fat while others are thin. It is completely ok. We are different types of people living on this planet earth but the peace breaks when people judge you due to your outlook, body shape, skin tone etc. At that time we feel broken and started thinking about the situation. That obsession take us down and we start changing. This is not good. You are changing according to public's demand. This is not good because one day you will understand that it is odd. You ignore yourself and your choices. You will not believe but that is important for you because you are accountable to yourself, not others. You don’t have to be perfect, you just have to accept yourself perfectly.
This idea pumped me up yesterday when I was returning home from my new office. It is the Holy month of Ramadan & the office schedule is changed now based on it. It ends at 1.30pm. When I was waiting for the bus, two girls stood just beside me. I understood that they were waiting for the bus too. The bus came and we rode. They had too many shopping bags with them. While putting them in order, one of the girl teased another one that she is fat now & for that reason she could control everything. I had no idea if it was a joke or what, but the girl was sad. She remained silent all along the journey while the other one was busy in chatting. None of my business but I started imagining her pain and thinking. Maybe she was not supposed to be insulted that way. After some moments, the girl teased her again and this time she replied that after this month, she would join the gym. She added that she wanted to reduce her weight.
Now tell me, what did you understand from it? The girl is mentally preparing for a transformation after this month. It doesn’t matter if she joins the gym or not but the decision was not made by her. She was influenced or may I say, forced? The mental stats changed between the time of her being silent & talking. In this time, she took the decision led by other girl. Why? Because her criticism made her feel like that way. She refused her own structure. She denied to accept her own things. This is not okay, at least I think so.
I would support her decision if that would be made by her. But she was directed that way by someone else. Now she is looking at her with the eyes of people, not her's. This is something itchy. Accepting your own facts and stats are highly admirable. Who am I and what am I, these questions can actually help us. Before doing anything, one may ask these questions to their own souls. We are not supposed to work on other's point of view. This is your life and you need to support yourself. You may say that people are throwing you out from their mindset because of your looking, they are teasing you, harassing you. Well dear, they are doing so because they have seen your low confidence score about yourself. Have you even seen a confident person getting trashed by friends? The answer is no. Because that person made them believe that his/her personality is not going to change by any types of influences. They made people believe in them. People have to accept them.
Accept yourself at first. You are absolutely perfect. Nothing wrong dear. Stop pretending to be the puppets. You are you. Accept your everything and make believe them that you have no problems with yourself. Just shrug & move. Then see what happens. People will understand that you have a strong personality and will not dare to mess with you. Yeah, these all will happen if and only if you accept that you are absolutely perfect.
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Thanks for being with me.
©Lucifer01
A powerful story, dear cousin. Know what, I've been a puppet for quite a long time because of how I was brought up but I broke that chain and set myself free.