Couple's Union In One Home
Just recently when I watch a short clip which my bestfriend showed to me, it was a man giving his reaction about a video of a woman that was crying because of marriage problem. What marriage problem? She was just being insulted living in her in-laws house. According to the man who reacted in a video, that is really a legit problem, based on he himself also experienced it. He added that when he stayed in his wife's house together with his in-laws he cannot freely do the things that he likes, he should not be angry and his actions should be limit.
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I am not a love expert, and not yet in this situation but I do agree on the points the was stated on the video. If you can still remember my article about one of my bestfriend; before she get pregnant by her ex she already shared me how bad the mother of her ex. I told her that, it is the manners that she can feel and see that they are not yet in one house, how much more if they stay together. But at last, she prefer to left the boy and stand on her own.
I know that some are lucky in thier in-laws, some of my batch mate who already stay together with their partner are happy with their life. While in most cases, it is not, especially when they are not married yet, and the woman get pregnant without their plan, then she was forced to stay in man's house. By this, she was not only affected physically but also emotionally.
Someone who is very close to me, shared that her boyfriend was a Mama's Boy. It sounds good, because as they said how a man treat his mom shows how he will treat his wife. But it is disadvantage in her case, they are talking about their future plans until she found out that her boyfriend's plan is a settlement not for them as a couple, but also for his family. Like they will earn to build a house for his parents and them as one. She was discouraged, as for her it is hard to leave his parents, but she will do it for the sake of their privacy, yet her boyfriend still don't want to get out from the nest of his parents even when they get married.
As a woman, I really understand my friend. I know it depends on your beliefs or on what culture you are in. But for me the settlement and privacy of a couple is a must. Before I felt Mama's boy as cute, but now it is somewhat trouble. (Lol)
Just to make this clear, this is just base on my opinion and reaction in this kind of issue. Personally, I have a very kind parents and I know that my future partner won't have any problem for them. But for the sake of what we called "union" better to build home together. It's okay to visit them regularly, but it is good that at the end of the day the couple have home wherein they can stay, together alone.
That's why marriage is not easy, better to be ready holistically particularly in financial. Some couples prefer to build their house before marriage, in that case after they get married they already have their own house and no need to stay in their parent's house or to rent a house/room. But still, it depends on the couple, this observation is just an issue where you are in culture prefer to have nuclear family.
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April 21, 2022
-Ling
nice article of yours. I like this topics.