" The Struggles of having and OFW Better Half".

" Her husband is working abroad (OFW - Overseas Filipino Worker) for sure she has money".

Not only once I heard this comment not only for me but also to those whose spouse are working abroad. Some people even thought that our life was easy or like we are enjoying it. Some would even say " Sarap naman buhay, chill - chill lng habang nag - aantay padala" ( Just enjoying life and waiting for remittance ).

Well that was indeed a FAKE news, FAKE assumption. I will tell you guys having a better half who is an OFW is not that EASY as some people thought. Yes, we might not have a problem when it comes to the financial aspect but not all the time only money matters.

Sometimes we have some struggles to like;

You will always find yourself celebrating special occasions ALONE.

Birthdays, anniversaries, Valentines day, etc. name it, others might happily celebrate with their loved ones but US? We sometimes opted to celebrate it alone or not to celebrate at all.

I remember last Christmas I spent it with my in -laws. On Christmas eve, I saw that all my sister in laws were busy with their own families. You know the usual greetings. I? Just there, feeling alone, lol! Though I pretended I was happy, deep inside I am not.

Just the same scenario if I spend it with my family too in the province. My sisters are always busy with their own family too everytime there is a special occasion at home. The sad part is during the picture taking with family (wives/husbands and kids)..Ehhhh I am just alone in the photo, lol!

Birthdays? Naaa, seems ordinary to me. I am not fond of celebrating my birthday. It was even hidden on my Facebook. It was only my husband who celebrated and though he is miles away, he managed to send me a gift.

Of course this goes with a birthday cake! A gift during my birthday last 2020. Ahmm last year? I told him not to bother sending me a gift again like this cause it's quite expensive. We rather used it to pay for the labor of our dream house. 

You have no one to hug, talk and shoulder to lean on in times of trouble.

Not all the time the ship of our life sailed smoothly. There are times we encounter waves which make us worried or scared. During this time, whom are you going to run to? Yes we have families, but sometimes they are also busy with their personal lives with their own family, same goes with our friends. You might say we have a God to talk to. Yes of course I know but there are also instances that we need that warm tight hug from our better half. Just that powerful one!

Yet if he/she is not by your side you have no choice but to be strong and survive it by yourself. I don't know about others but as for me I don't want to bother my husband with my problems or issues as long as I can handle it. He is far away with no relatives in a foreign country so as much as possible I don't want him to worry. What I usually tell him are just happy thoughts.

You are prone to temptation.

How many stories of broken relationships have you heard just because the other one chose to work abroad? Not only one, two but many. If you haven't to all my Filipino friends here, try watching Tulfo.. Haha a lot of complainants there are husbands/wife of an OFW who had a 3rd party. Not the OFW but sometimes their partner that was left here in the country.

Before I was wondering why these things happened. Why do these people cheat their partner? However when I became one of them I did understand.

For the part of an OFW homesick strikes them. They felt sad and lonely, especially during the adjustment period. Then it happened that there was someone who showed "CARE" to them. That's the problem. They fall, maybe because they are vulnerable.

Same goes with the one left here in the country. When you are used to having your wife/husband always by your side taking care of you. Then suddenly you have no one too? Of course you will be missing it.

In that case some find it to someone they knew and that's it. They are TEMPTED and CHEATING happens.

Not only that, but sometimes being a woman who was left you became a target of some, how would I address these types of men?

This is my personal experience, not that he directly offered to me but I have this officemate who somehow shows interest in me. Of course I am not that dumb, I can read between the lines. Maybe he thought since my husband isn't here I am longing to have s3x! He's been hitting on me several times and honestly there are times I wanna smash his head! How dare he!

There are so many struggles for having an OFW better half but for me this is the hardest!

Anyone here who can relate?

Weekend is almost done and I haven't enjoyed it as I am sick since yesterday. Though I know longer stay in bed, my stomach still hurts. I even lost my appetite. I haven't eaten a decent meal since Saturday, OMG! Papayat na ba ako? LOL!

05:56PM

06/19/2022_Manila_Phillipines.