Why so angry?

Today has been a crazy day even though I thought I was going to rest for most of the day. I was able to sleep very well because I didn't have any class today since we are officially done with our field practical training in Lagos.

We scheduled a meeting today at 10am to discuss how we are going to share the remaining money we contributed as a class to fund this entire educational trip. But before the meeting, I and one of my classmates was called by one of the researchers in the institute to help them out with a task.

I came back after working on the task and met a very heated meeting. Everyone was agitated and there were a lot of angry faces with everyone shouting at the top of their lungs to be heard. I wasn't surprised because that's how the meetings we have as a class usually turn out.

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I was still confused about what was happening and I decided to just be quiet and observe what was going on. I found out after some minutes that the reason why they were all arguing and angry was because of the leftover money and the major issue was how it is to be shared.

We are two groups of students and each group was supposed to go to the institute's headquarters for two weeks to receive lectures. My group was the first to go for lectures and we faced a lot of challenges due to heavy traffic on the road and our bus driver not coming to pick us up sometimes (I have talked about this in my previous articles).

The second group went through the same process but fortunately for them, they didn't experience heavy traffic like the one we faced and instead of going to the headquarters for two weeks, they only went there for a week.

Now what brought the problem was when we calculated the money both groups used for transportation, we discovered that my group used more money than the other group (which wasn't surprising) and the other group said since we used more money, then we are going to receive a lesser amount from the leftover money.

My group members didn't agree to that and insisted that the leftover money be shared equally with everyone since it wasn't our fault that we went to the headquarters for two weeks while the other group only went for a week. There were a lot of heated words and accusations were flying all over the place, and the thing that got me even angry was that we had a committee!

A committee was set up before we started this field practical training and their job was to oversee the entire trip but instead, they are bringing every little issue to the class to solve and they ended up splitting the class into two. This issue was supposed to be solved by the committee before they present it to the entire class as one, but the exact opposite was what happened.

But I won't even dwell much on the committee, because at that point we all concluded that we no longer have a committee because they have not been doing their jobs. I personally didn't care if I receive an equal or lower amount of money, but I told some of my friends at that meeting that the only way to solve this is if both groups aren't happy with the final decision.

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What I meant was that we have to come to a compromise because no group would want to see the other one happy, so the best thing is for both groups not to be happy. My group is still going to receive a lower amount, but it's only going to be a slight difference from what the other group is going to get, and that way, nobody will be happy about it because I could already see that there's no way everyone is going to be happy with whatever decision that was made.

The meeting lasted for over 4 hours (again, I wasn't surprised), and at one point, it escalated again and a fight broke out. Before the fight even broke out, I was already triggered by something a person from the other group said and I was trying hard to suppress my anger. I could feel the adrenaline running through my body like waves from my head down to my toes.

I guess the other person couldn't keep his cool and he lashed out and almost attacked the boy, but he was held back by other people. I just couldn't deal with the whole thing and I quickly left and went into my room, put on my earpods, and started listening to music in a bid to calm myself down.

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My body was still trembling from the adrenaline and it felt like waves of electric shocks. I am very slow to anger and most of the time, I will rather diffuse a tense situation with jokes and just laugh it out instead of lashing out because I know how crazy I can be when I get angry.

I had a very bad anger problem when I was a kid and I ended up bringing lots of problems home to my parents because of it, but over the years I have learned how to properly tame my anger by mostly avoiding tense confrontations. I am not like most people that shout and lash out when they are angry, I tend to use more actions than words.

Conclusion

I didn't go back to the meeting but what I heard that they concluded on was that my group will receive N3900 ($7) each while the other group will get N6000 ($10.9) each. The difference is just $3.9, that has been why they have been shouting for over 4 hours.

I told my friend @Talon that if I had invested that 4 hours into readcash, I could have made more than that amount in a day 😂 he told me that he would have used that time to play joybot NFT games and also made some good money, instead of wasting over 4 hours screaming just because of $3.9 difference.

Thanks for reading 💖💖💖

Thursday March 17, 2022