Again, Rihanna comes to the rescue for me today 😆 I was thinking about what to write on earlier today and then I heard the song; Take a bow by Rihanna and I instantly got an idea for this topic.
There's something I have noticed about humans, anytime they are caught doing something bad or something there are not supposed to be doing, they sometimes apologize and say they are sorry but are they really sorry for what they did or they are only sorry they got caught?
I like to think it's the latter; they are only sorry they got caught. I mean, if they hadn't been caught, they will keep doing that thing and this just goes to show that they perfectly know what they are doing but they just chose to keep doing it.
Take for example someone caught cheating in a relationship, they feel sorry and immediately ask for forgiveness, but next time they are caught again in the same act, what does that tell you? That he/she was not actually sorry the first time!
Another scenario is someone that steals from people, the person keeps doing it for a while without getting caught and when he finally gets caught, he is sorry? Nope, I don't think so. He is just sorry he got caught, because if he was really sorry then he would have stopped a long time ago.
Most people actually get remorseful when someone is watching, my mom calls that kind of situation "eye service"; acting all good and holy when people's eyes are on you but turning to the spawn of Satan when the attention is not on you anymore.
The thing with feeling sorry when being caught is that the person actually feels remorseful at that point but subconsciously they would have continued what they were doing forever if they were never caught, most of them actually go back to their bad habit.
I will admit that I am guilty of this, I have been caught in some pretty bad situations some times and I always feel and say sorry, but deep inside I keep thinking about why I got caught and how I could have prevented the mess I found myself, that's not the thoughts of someone sorry.
Another thing I also tell myself when I get caught is that I would have stopped the bad thing once or twice, but that's just a lie. It's probably my guilty conscience just talking at that point, and it's as a result of getting caught.
Another reason most people usually say they are sorry when they have been caught is so their punishment or the consequences of their actions is lessened (I am guilty of this as well). I mean, saying sorry and apologizing has a way of diffusing a dicey situation and making the other person calm down.
Take for example someone caught cheating and doesn't want to lose their partner, they apologize a lot and some even turn on the waterworks as tears keep streaming down their eyes, the partner immediately feels sorry for them and believes everything was a mistake (especially if the person is a first-time offender 😆).
I am not saying there aren't people that are not really sorry for something bad they did, they are actually people like that but in that case, they immediately realize they made a mistake the first time they did it and they apologize for it and stop, not that they will keep repeating the same mistake
Apologizing and saying sorry puts a person in a good mood (or almost) and helps them to calm down. We are all humans and most times we just want to know that a person realizes when they have wronged us and that they are sorry for it but sometimes people are sorry for the wrong thing; for getting caught.
But it's still a lot better than someone that isn't even sorry, right? Maybe. Where one is being honest and openly portrays what he believes while the other hides his true intentions and is being deceitful, but who do you think is being truthful and who is deceitful? I leave that up to you to judge 😉
And as usual, I will leave you with the song take a bow by Rihanna. Do you know she's currently the richest female singer right now? Yep, she is one
Thanks for reading 💖💖💖
Tuesday December 21st, 2021
its already in nature in humans that they will realize they made a mistake once get caught in their bad actions, that's the time that they gonna ask for forgiveness, hope for those who truly changed once they made mistake once but some people repeatedly doing their mistakes though they've been already caught.