A very funny conversation: are you ready to have a child?

Hello everyone, how was your Sunday? I was very busy for most of today because I attended the baby dedication of a friend of mine. I left home in the morning for the church service and after that, we went to their house for a little get-together.

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Yesterday while on a call with a friend, I told her that I am going to the baby dedication of a friend of mine today and the following conversation ensued;

Her: Wait, did you say your friend?

Me: yeah, any problem?

Her: Ah! Your friend has a child and you're still here

Me: I don't understand, am I supposed to have a child as well?

Her: yes na, is it a bad thing?

Me: No o, ok come let's make that happen (I laughed)

Her: As if you can take responsibility for a child right now

Me: Now you get it.

Her: So you mean you can't take care of a child now.

Me: I can barely take care of myself, how in the hell do you expect me to take care of a child? Hunger will end up killing me and the baby 😂

Her: So you're not ready?

Me: Are you?

Her: Yes na, if I see a man now that is ready to get married to me and have a child, why not?

Me: I am not talking about marriage, can you get pregnant for a man right now out of wedlock?

Her: of course, what's there? As long as he is willing to take responsibility for the child. It has happened to other people, it's nothing new.

Me: Wow, well that is not my priority right now

Her: So if you get a girl pregnant, you will run away?

Me: Lol, that will definitely not happen

Her: But assuming it does happen, will you take responsibility or run away?

Me: I know I can't take responsibility, so why will I let things get to that point? That is not something that is part of my plans for now.

Her: people don't usually plan for things like that but when it happens, they find out they can adapt to it. Sometimes we think we are not ready but when faced with the challenge, we find out we are.

Me: That's your point of view 😂 I guess we view things differently. I like to be prepared before doing anything, and I like passing through life one step at a time. So right now, a baby isn't what I need.

(My call credit was about to finish at this point).

Me: we will continue this conversation later, I got to go now.

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Crazy, right? 😂 After that conversation, I just sat back and imagined how easy most girls think life is, a lot of them (especially in my country) aren't bothered about hustling and bustling everyday coz they feel they will eventually marry a rich guy who is going to provide all their needs.

But for us men, it isn't the same. We have to hustle hard to make money coz we know we have lots of responsibilities, even if it's not now then it will certainly come in the future. It's even worse if you're the first child (just like me), you won't be taking care of your future family alone, but your parents and siblings are there as well.

So I guess that's the reason why a girl can easily make the choice of getting pregnant, but it isn't the same for a guy because there are so many factors to consider. The number one factor on that list is money, coz without that, how are you going to take care of a child?

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Earlier this year, I came across a post on nairaland about a lady who's complaining that her husband refuses to have a child after over one year of their marriage because he says he wants to have a lot of money first before having children, but she doesn't agree with him so she was seeking for advice (yeah, online 😆).

A lot of people told her that the husband is sensible and on the right track, coz why will you bring children into the world when you don't have the money to cater for them? But the woman isn't seeing that! All she sees is that the husband doesn't want to have children and thinks there's something else going on behind the scene.

I have seen so many stories of unexpected pregnancies and most of the time, it doesn't turn out well for the couple because they aren't prepared for it. You can barely take care of yourself, how then will you do it when you have a mother and child with you?

There are so many things that need to be put in place before bringing a child into this world, and the most important on that list is money. But if I have lots of money now, will I still be ok with having a child? Definitely not 😆 I like to enjoy my 20s without having to worry about a child.

Let me also throw this question to the unmarried guys here, are you ready to have a child now? I will definitely continue this topic with my friend later, I still have a couple of questions I will like to ask her.

Thanks for reading 💖💖💖

Sunday February 6th, 2022