What if my younger me's inability to accept responsibility has delayed your late arrival over the years... maybe I've been blessed with an angel in flesh but when you actually arrived, your wings would have been clipped and the first thing I'm asking for is your forgiveness.. there are a lot of fathers here who already have lovely daughters and sons and will appreciate the fact that you got a lot closer to your partners when you had your first child... you would realize that the presence of your child feels like you have just started a home and there's nothing more that could come in between.
You may be asking if Gozie already has a kid? Maybe it's my imagination playing tricks with me but I wouldn't trade cherishing these moments for anything in the world. Back to where I was, some of us don't realize the fact that every thing we do in the past has its turn in the lives of our future... more like a reincarnation of ourselves, we wouldn't want that right. It's not up to me but up to us to watch our children grow and be a better character than we are already.
I wouldn't mind reading your letters to your kids even before their arrival, you've got stories to tell... does having a child change your perspective about life generally or would you want your addictions, your habits, and your lifestyle to equally be the same with theirs.. taking a deeper step into a relationship you don't need anyone to tell you to change.
Then what if her first breathe where the reincarnation of an aborted child in the past, you would wonder why your daughter is the way she is when we both know what you did.. you can never feel good about what you chose to do in the past and even when you didn't love God that much or yourself enough to give her her first breathe, she's still welcomed into this world..
Maybe you and your partner had some growing up to do because a princess could have brought you both together.. you didn't realize the value of that yet ran away from every responsibility and look where it all ended up.. you got hooked up on the looks and reality hits harder than expected.. now it feels sort of late to rewrite the wrongs, I think there's one tiny luck out of all this.
You've got to let them breathe first, but as they grow please don't be surprised when people look into the window of their soul and ask themif they've been here before.. that's how bad it could get, you have to make sure you guide them towards developing a good mindset and all that is there presently with how you live your life should stop...
This is a moment of test for the strong hearted, and if you love them you have the pro choice to choose what's best for them to watch and learn while growing up... you really brought lives into this world, and this is their first breathe experience into a new world.
Now what we want as a character trait of our kids, is the best lives.. loving, rule abiding, cheerful, obedient and much more. It's time to pray and stop those style of living, pray for them even while they are still little it will go a long way in their future as they become more matured.
Everything has its roots, if these are linked to us, we can teach them from the start good lessons, good morals, and good character choice. Even before that force manifest in them, their minds are already clothed with so many good thoughts. What you do from now determines everything, and if you really want to change you can do that.
Thank you for reading... it may practically look strange, but we have seen it happen quite a lot of times..
Thank you for your supports and if I have missed out on some renewal accept my apology...
A huge appreciation to @TengoLoTodo for the sponsorship.. I'm so happy. God bless you for believing in me and showing up every time too.
October 2021
I love how you educate us, your amazing.
As we all consider that having sons and daughters as a best gift from God, since the day of their first breathe we must dedicate their lives to the one who gave them, and as they grew older, lean on the teachings of His word that surely will be their greatest weapon on whatever circumstances they will have to face. According to Proverbs 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." There will always be victors if we put God in the center of our lives, even in parenting. I don't have kids yet, but how I wish to have some in God's perfect time to someone He prepared me to be in a lifetime.