in the spirit of Valentine

13th February 2022

Good evening lovelies, happy Sunday. In the spirit of valentine and in celebration of the month of love… I wish you all a wonderful Valentine’s Day tomorrow. For those of us who would be busy with class or work or those of us who would just be by ourselves do not allow the pressure get to you. Always remember that I you are enough by yourself, take yourself out , value yourself, love yourself .. in the spirit of love. ..

HAPPY VALENTINE PEOPLE !!!

So in church today we had a valentine service and the host in charge took his time to take us through some key-points to guard us during this season of valentine. It was more of key things to look out for before entering a relationship. Let me share some of them to you ..

1.Heal before you deal

Before you date another person make sure you have healed from your ex or before you allow another Person date you make sure they have healed from their ex relationship. You would be making a wrong move if you allow yourself date a person who is just fresh out of a relationship without healing.

He gave the illustration of a wound and a bandage… once there is a wound the bandage is temporary and once the wound heals the bandage is discarded. Do not be the bandage to anyone because once they heal they are likely to discard you.

2.Ignoring your guts

“It looks good but it doesn’t feel good”

When entering a new relationship don’t ever ignore your guts. It’s like seeing some red flag and telling yourself that it is not that “deep”, well it is. Never ignore your guts when going into a new relationship because your guts are usually always right.

3.Hoping your partner will change after marriage

Marriage never changes anybody it will only amplify your true identity. I see people giving excuses for their toxic partner saying they would change after marriage I just laugh and tell them marriage can never change a person. Yes they might adjust but it never changes them completely and the truth is Forever is a long time to be unhappy. So why marry a person when you are just going to be miserable for the rest of your life.

For violent relationships where your partner constantly abuses you please do not give the excuse that marriage will change them, leave the person immediately and just probably be praying from them from a distance. That is the best thing you can do …okay ? Good.

4.Do not ignore the counsel of those who loves you

When a lot of people that loves you keeps telling you that the person you are dating or planning to date might not be suitable for you, please don’t ignore their counsel always double check.

You see Hollywood has made it looks like the more adversities you face on a journey of love the More people go against your love the story the more true and sweet the love story will be at the end. This is not always true for real life situations so my advice is please do not ignore the counsel of people that truly love and care about you because 80% of the time they are usually right.

For my last point …

5.Only date or marry a person you are truly attracted to

Attractiveness in this case is not just facial or physical features even though that is a significant part of it what I really mean is date a person that you emotionally and mentally attracted to.

You notice that when people date for vague reasons like power or money or prestige you find out that it is usually not real and it doesn’t last. A typical illustration is dating a person who you don’t find attractive in anyway but because they can give you money or power you are with them … in the long run you would get tired of what they can offer whether money or power and if by the time you are tired with what they offer you.. you aren’t in love with them yet it can become very chaotic. So please when choosing a partner make sure you are attracted to them.. it is very important.

Thank you for your time .. stay blessed and stay safe.

©2022

Jumper