When People are Against You, So What?

In every choice we make in our lives, people will always have something to say. It's just two things: they support you or they see you as a threat. I just don't get why do they have to comment on such things when they don't know the reason behind it? Yup, people are too quick to judge. And, these people are usually giving you unsolicited advice when you didn't ask for them?

I know for a fact that you can relate to this. It seems like every action you take, every move you make, they're always there to detect and find something to take against you. Why do people do that?

When we hear feedback or criticisms, it's hurtful and disturbing. It affects our mindset, we start to doubt ourselves where does this negative feedback come from, how should I make everything perfect so I won't get negative comments after?

As mentioned earlier, no matter what you do, no matter how perfect a person you can be, people will always have something to say. Even superheroes have weaknesses, they get tired too. Even God has an ultimate challenger, Satan.

So when we encounter these situations, here's what we need to ask ourselves:

Is everyone really against you?

At times we think that the people around us are all against us. It's the same feeling as the song Against All Odds. They're always looking into details and make that a criticism against us.

Well, we also need to ask ourselves, is everyone really against you?

We are too preoccupied with the people giving baseless comments about our actions and we forgot to acknowledge the people supporting us. What happens is that we neglect the people who truly support us and we end up labeling ourselves to someone as to how other people define us.

A restaurant owner went to a farmer and ask for frogs. His restaurant's specialties are exotic foods and frogs legs are one of them. The farmer accepted the favor and told the restaurant owner to give him even a hundred frogs. He's been annoyed with how loud the frogs are every night causing him not to sleep well.

The next day, the farmer only got 2 frogs and got embarrassed to the owner. It turns out that there are only 2 frogs making noise outside every night and he thought there's more than a hundred of them.

This just means to say that maybe there's only one person who is hypercritical of you. That's a toxic trait. And if you know your truth, you know where you stand, that person won't matter. Listen to those people who truly love you. They're the ones who matter.

Is it really about you?

Sometimes, we tend to overthink and we get too harsh on ourselves blaming our actions why people reacted that way.

As the saying goes, "People are not against you, they're more of themselves".

When they complain about the things you do, it is more likely because they're starting to feel that you are a threat to them. Of course, you didn't do anything against them, it's just them having thoughts on their minds making problems.

It's not your problem, it's their problem.

Yeah right, this sounds rebellious and stubborn but if you have exhausted yourself trying to compromise to what they want and they still don't appreciate it, I think it's time to stand up for yourself and do what you want.

Are you doing what is right?

Now, this sounds serious. The first two questions are more of a reflection as to how people perceive your actions. This time, try to ask yourself "am I doing what is right?". People give us negative feedback because they see something is not right in ourselves.

But! If you are sure that you are doing the right thing, you have a clear conscience about everything that you do, I don't think those people deserved your time and attention.

Don't stop to every dog that barks.

Not everyone is giving you constructive criticisms. Some of them are just plain nuisances trying to pull you down. Especially when they see that you are going to be successful, they feel threatened.

Be victorious!

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Thanks for reading.

Keep safe everyone!