Have you ever thought of thinking about how unfair life is? When you see other people, they seem to be enjoying most of the times in their lives while you are suffering from your life as if it's never going to an end?
We can't help but compare our lives to other people and get insecure after. As I have said with my previous articles,i our minds have this innate bias on negativities. And so, it really takes practice for us to be positive always.
Nobody is perfect. We all commit mistakes. However, if we have committed mistakes and ask for forgiveness, why do we still suffer? Well, the answer for that would be Consequences.
As they say, everything happens for a reason and as Isaac Newton said in his 3rd Law of Motion "For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction." This means to say that in everything that we do, there's a specific consequence in line with that.
You are in a 6-year relationship, everything is okay, you know each other well already, you share the same aspirations in life, you compromise each other, you may argue but get handled in due time, all of these things were good factors for a healthy relationship.
One day, you learned that your partner cheated on you. Not just recently but for the whole duration of the relationship. This sounds like an absurd example but there are real-life situations like this.
It was late of you to figure out that you have been cheated all along. What would you feel? Of course, you will feel betrayed. You can't take away the feelings of madness and fury from the other person.
However, the other person chooses to forgive but the relationship has to end. 6 years of betrayal is just too much. You manipulated the person all along. And so they broke up. They went separate ways.
The guy who cheated asked for forgiveness and yes he was forgiven. However, he needed to face the consequences. That's when you start to suffer. You would think that if you're forgiven, you wouldn't suffer anymore. No, that's not the right process of character development.
In times of trouble or suffering, that's when you learn the most. You will discover more of yourself when under pressure. Just like what happened to that guy, he needed to suffer for growth and healing. It is an opportunity for correction and to realize to take things seriously.
Suffering is an opportunity for us to be purified, for our hearts to be humbled, to give us wisdom, and to learn many things about life.
I saw a documentary film of how Cherry Pie Picache found her timing to forgive the person who murdered her mother. The documentary film is entitled "Radical Love". It narrates how everything started, how things fell apart, and how Cherry Pie forgave the criminal.
Just a little background of the documentary. Cherry Pie's mom lives alone in her house. She has someone who takes care of the garden for her. Let's call him Bernard. Bernard became close to Cherry's mom as he established great bonding with her.
One night, Cherry got worried because her mom is not answering her phone. She had called many times already but couldn't reach her still. She called her niece and talked but it's still no to avail. That moment they felt something bad might have had happened.
The next thing you know, the SOCO team was there, and a series of investigations were performed. The prime motive of the suspect was a robbery. However, it was not a forceful process of robbery. It was very smooth. He opened the main gate, he knows the lock combination, opened the main door, and started to do his business.
However, Cherry's mom should have been so shocked but Bernard was too eager to do the crime, worse, killed her. He admitted that he was under the influence of drugs at that moment and he couldn't recall how he managed to kill Cherry's mom. He was sentenced to "reclusion Perpetua".
Years after, 3 years to be exact, Cherry visited Bernard at the New Bilibid Prison. Cherry used to do charity works on jails but she opted to stop it for a while. But then a part of prayer made her realize " forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us".
It hit her so hard and realized so much. She went to see Bernard again, they cried buckets. Cherry chose to forgive Bernard, she also saw Bernard's repentance throughout his stay.
Bernard has to suffer the consequence still but the forgiveness Cherry gave to him, was the exact moment him being purified. He took that opportunity to free himself, to heal, and forgive himself too.
It was such a painful but at the same time purifying moment for them to talk and forgive. If you have time to watch, here's the video:
Grab your tissues because this is such an emotional one.
Thanks for reading.
Keep safe everyone ❤
I watched the video and I really admire Miss Cherry Pie's braveness to forgive someone who did a grievous act to their family. She was not just someone, she was their mother. For me it's unforgivable. But, life will not be continually lived if we hold on to grudges. Let the heavens condemn this person that wrongs us while we find in ourselves forgiveness and acceptance. In that way only, we can be able to continue living life freely.