Random Questions: In A Relationship Status

7th of August 2021

Are you in a relationship? How do you feel to be in a relationship?

Yesterday, I've been reading some articles regarding a challenge of answering questions but that challenge are for those singles or not in a relationship status. So I can't able to join the challenge since I'm taken or in a relationship status. (chaarrsss, wag muna mag sana all okay. Lol)

Good thing, earlier today @Eybyoung published an article about answering some random questions as well but for those who were taken. Then she allows also those taken to do the challenge. Of course, since I don't have any topic to write that's why I'm grabbing the opportunity to have a topic to be publish today since I can able to relate to this one as well. I can surely share some of my experiences of being not single.

So, let's start.

By the way, the questions were taken randomly at https://www.mantelligence.com/relationship-questions/

You can also pick your questions in that link as well. That is also the same link of where @Eybyoung took her questions.

Same as Miss Eyb, I'm also irritated to those couples that always rants to social medias their misunderstandings or fights. Some that I observed on social media were even fighting through social medias by exchanging harsh comments. For me, that must not be done that way since it's a private thing that needs private attention to both couples. There were lots of eyes on social media, so by doing that way misunderstandings might not be fixed easily because there were already lots of people being involved and will be ranting as well. Both the reputation and dignity of the couple will surely be at risks.

My partner, also hates that way. He doesn't like that other people will know were not in good term. He always wanted to have private relationship and so do I. So, for my friends here on FB as you can observed we just rarely posts some pictures together because we both don't like it. Thus, ranting our misunderstandings on social media is also a big NO to both of us.

Since were already a parent. As parents we really tried our best to practice the authoritative parenting style since it really gives better result for a child. All we want for our son is the best and to mold him with good values and have fear with God. As what I observed for both I and my partner, we both set rules for our son but not to the extent of being strict.

Further research of what is an authoritative parenting style for those who doesn't know.

According to Katherine Lee (2020), she stated in some part of her article "Why Being an Authoritative Parenting Style is the Best Approach" that

• This style of parenting is the "not too hot, not too cold" porridge of the parenting styles. 

• Authoritative parents give kids respect and listen (and expect kids to do the same) and encourage kids to be independent thinkers, but they do not give in to kids and expect cooperation and good behavior.

• The authoritative approach to parenting has been shown to lead to the best outcomes in kids, including better emotional health, social skills, more resiliency, and more secure attachments with their parents.

Source

If I'm having a bad day, my partner would always knows how to handle it. He just don't asked me and will just wait for me until I'm cooling down. Then, that time he will already approach me. Because he knew that if he will interrupt me in my bad day I will be easily angry to him even just in small things. So, to avoid fights he will just distance himself from me.

Before when he doesn't know me that much especially on how I get angry. We always have fights since every time I had a bad day I really wanted to be alone or every time I'm super stressed out, I wanted to be alone. But then, he will annoy me more which leads to fights. That's why when he knew already, he will just distance himself and will just talked to me when he feels I'm already okay.

Well, non-sexual or sexual affection I'm always contented with it. I guess that's love. If we will not be contented both, then probably were not already being together now. Because, I believed that to have a successful relationship, contentment is one of the key. (Just my own POV, I don't know if this is also the same to other couple.)

Well, since we don't have enough for now. Even if we wanted to spend our special day to somewhere where we can also unwind but then it's not yet part of our budget for now.

So, we just spends our special day at night. (Charrooott, bawal green okay. Haha) Of course it's at night since that's the time that we can talked deeply and talked our future plans because during daytime were both busy attending to our 1-year old son. Therefore, we just usually talked to each other, greet each other in our special day like Monthsary, Anniversary or whatever occasion it is. Having cake or so whatever it is were not present in our special day. My partner also don't like that, he just prefers if we buy viands instead. He just told me, to have such cakes or anything that made the day more special if we already both have enough money. Also, greetings for him is enough and he said being with me is already enough for our special day. (Sweet right? Lol)

That all everyone for now. Actually, I still have lots of questions to be answered but I will just write another article for that because I don't want you all to get bored reading a whole chapter of a book. Lol

Hopefully, to those singles out there that you'd enjoy some of my revelations. To those taken, you may now write your own version for this challenge then just tag Miss Eyb.

Now, I will tag my taken friends here to do the challenge as well @Zhyne06 @renren16 @Marinov @Proud-me @Yzza0625 @ThisisGrace21. Sorry guys but you need to write your versions too. Haha

Happy reading!

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