One of the worst mistakes we do make as humans is inheriting a friend’s enemy or foe. It’s a good thing to be a supportive friend who watches out for his friend’s interest but it shouldn’t go on to the stage of hating someone simply because your friend says he/she doesn’t like the person for no reason. While in high school, my friend “Noah” who is known to pick up fights with almost everyone reported a guy to me.
Hate can be as dangerous as a potentially deadly virus. The easiest way to catch a bad hate is to inherit the enemy of a person or people you know or love. I hate, therefore I am. This is the mindset of a broken brain. The real danger is thinking that you can hate the right people, that is, the people standing in your way.
Hate is a very difficult emotion to manage, it is an emotion that is impossible to master. The strength of hate can not only destroy you but destroy the object of hatred. You must realize that the one who hates you is your enemy and you should not treat them as a friend or ally. that person has made his position clear, he does not want to work with you, he does not want to be a friend or fellow citizen he wants to destroy you. If you hate you are no different than the hater, if your enemies are only made because someone else hates them then you will never overcome your hate for them until they take the first step in expecting you and coming back to you. If a hater would come and forgive you and ask for an apology then accept that apology do not try to turn it around because they can not handle it.
Here in Nigeria, especially the Yoruba tribe, we take the issue of respect very important. When talking or referring to an older person or someone in a higher position, one is expected to use “E” as a prefix and when talking to someone younger or beneath one in ranking, the prefix “O” is used. Noah had an issue with a guy over the use of “o” instead of “e”. He told me and because of that, I turned the guy into an enemy. Truly, he is older than us, but the fact that he is demanding for “e” (respect) made us disrespect him the more. This led to a series of fights and throwing of shades whenever we see him on the way.
A few years down the lane, this guy came home with my older brother. They work at the same place and became close friends. I was embarrassed when I saw him and sought ways to hide from him, for I know the things I’ve said to him in time past. My brother noticed the awkwardness and ask me why but I couldn’t tell the main reason why I hated him. I was busy fighting blindly for a friend.
So many of us do this too. We say “My friend’s enemy is my enemy”. we’ve lost so many opportunities because we are fighting our friends battle.
Another kind of hatred which most times do us more harm than good is, hating on someone simply because they are arrogant or they have a bad trait. I’m no lover of arrogancy but I don’t let a person’s arrogancy lead to me hating or criticizing the person’s work. In my noisecash post earlier today, I mentioned this popular footballer “Zlatan Ibrahimovic “who is known for his arrogancy. In several instances, he has made different comments that caused a stir in various corners. People say he is proud, futile and pompous. But to me I believe, he might be all what they say he is but, that doesn’t dispute the fact that he is one of the greatest strikers of his generation. He has proven himself times without number at different leagues. He might say things that look illogical sometimes but he has done the illogical at different times too.
Someone (@SM36) replied to my noise post with the name of another sports man known for his arrogancy but a great cricketer. I went on to search for his name “Virat Kholi” and I read reports of how great he is.
The question is, how do not you inherit their enemy? how to say, "I'm sorry, I disagree with my friend. I'll try to be friends with him." This is the only way to reduce the problems caused by hateful relationships and make best friends.
In essence, as Julalaine said in her reply to my post “… do not let someone’s judgement of others blind you of the goodness you might see in them”
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I can say this. It is very common among girls. Girls walk and do things in groups. So, if one of the member is having issues with a girl outside the group, it is the duty of all her friends to also hate the lady in particular or severe ties with her. Weather the reason for the beef is tangible or not,nobody cares.