Trust is one of the most- if not the most important thing needed in a relationship. No matter the type of relationship it is, be it a friendship or romantic relationship. Once trust is lost, then the relationship is as good as Dead. Doubt might surface at one point or the other, but believing your partner despite all can have a huge impact on how long the relationship is going to last.
Before I go further, I need to say this isn't a piece targeted at anyone or intended to contradict any post. The idea to write this came after going through my friend's article ( @Gaftekloriginal ) where he talked about how we shouldn't trust anyone except God. I made my thought known in the comment section but I decided to elaborate more on it. With due consent from him.
Back to the issue at hand. Truly Man (human) shouldn't be trusted. Even parents betray their children, siblings betray each other, wives betray husbands, vice versa. The only one that has assured us of not betraying us is God and he has always kept to his word. But do we stop running because we are not sure the track is strong? or do we stop living because they say life is short?.
It's something rampant nowadays to see friendships breaking, weddings scattering and long time bonds shattered. This has made a lot of people fear going into a relationship or committing themselves to another person. Recently I heard that one of the couples I looked up to and filing a divorce. Rumour says the man was caught pants down in a hotel with another lady. What makes it worse was the lady he was caught in bed with was his sister-in-law. Things like these are inevitable but we shouldn't let them cloud our judgement of humans.
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Because Mr A died from Food poisoning does not mean you should stop eating. Trust simply means having an assurance that someone or something can't fail you. If trust is lost in a relationship, it will be hard for such a relationship to progress. Amos 3:3 says "Can two work together except they agree?"
When doubt starts coming in the best thing to do is to talk to your significant other. Communication is another key thing in a relationship, feel free to talk to him/her, tell them your deepest fear about them, when you think or you're suspecting someone, call him/her to order, iron things out with them instead of going to friends to seek advice. When communicating, do not nag or shout. Every human has a reasonable side except you married a monster.
Hear their side of the story before jumping to conclusions. Giving your partner the benefit of the doubt does not make you a fool. So many marriages have been destroyed based on "here-say" and assumptions. Don't just assume things, do a proper investigation or ask them directly. Some people might be so good at hiding things but if truly he/she is Unfaithful, sooner than you expect the truth will be out.
Personally, if as a friend I can't trust you, I demote you to "just friend zone". I also expect you to do the same. Trust should be mutual. I joke a lot and sometimes prank my friends but they know it has a limit. Some sensitive matters shouldn't be joked with. I've had my fair share of disappointment and betrayal but that hasn't hindered me from Trusting others. As I said yesterday, "Keep your circle close", you might have a hundred or a thousand friends but have those that are reliable as your close ones.
If you've been hurt by friends or lovers before, it's understandable to start doubting people, to have protective skin and be suspicious of every act from friends and families, but I beseech you today to let go and open your heart once again. Not compulsory to a lover but learn to trust people again and if the trust is broken? Learn to trust again. Life is too short to live it suspecting or doubting everyone.
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