The title might look contradictory to the popular saying "A problem shared is a problem half solved". It isn't a mistake or a disguise. It's a statement uttered by my sister after we both heard a statement from a woman.
Since I'm going to school very soon. I decided to go to the market with my sister to get some stuff to take along. I converted part of my BCH into fiat to buy some stuff because I couldn't find any store selling what I desire that is accepting BCH and needed to get them urgently. This caused an argument between my friend and high. That's a story for another, though my friends on noisecash know this already.
Okay, back to the event that prompted today's piece. While we were in the queue waiting for our turn to withdraw from the ATM a woman was standing close by and was on a call. We didn't mean to eavesdrop but she was so loud that there was no need trying to hear what she's saying. She was speaking Yoruba (a Nigerian dialect) and was agitated with the person at the end of the call.
I was trying to add two and two together, to know who she was talking to and what could be the reason for her annoyance. I didn't have to think too much because she shouted out loud-
"Alai loju ti ni e, ooni eni tole fun e ni ten thousand naira" (you're so shameless, you don't have any contact that can give you ten thousand naira)
She said this and cut the call. I took in the words and assumed that she was speaking to her son. I pitied the son and I can say I understand the woman's anger and also the child's situation. Believe me when I tell you that Ten thousand naira ($20) is a big deal for many in the country. This is even the take-home salary of many, most especially teachers in private schools.
A problem shared...
I asked my sister a question. "If you need N10,000 do you have friends that can offer to help" and she smiled. She then went on to talk about how everyone has their problem. Though if you're indeed a good friend, your friends will be willing to help you with any amount.Even as small as $20.
However, she added that even if you are nice and good, you help your friends when they are in need, don't expect them to return the favour when it's your turn. Gone are the days when a problem shared is a problem half solved. Now when you share your problem get ready to hear the other person's problem. It's now like a "who suffers the more competition".
Tell your friend "I haven't eaten since morning "
His reply will be "yours is better. I haven't eaten since yesterday and my children..."
By the time he is done sharing his problem, you will be tired and might even offer to help him. But there are a few exceptions.
No good friends out there?
There are good friends still. Some friends are ready to go to any extent to support their friends. Not only when it's financial needs but offer moral supports too. Even if they don't have with them, they surely have nice words to say to make the burden easier. It all depends on the kind of friends you surround yourself with.
Most people after having making it big neglect their old friends but when they need help they go running back to them. Old friends are like fine wine. Never let a change in status or financial breakthrough make you forsake your friends, they might be the angel you need someday.
Everyone is having it tough in the country, so be considerate with your request. And even after sharing your problems with friends, know that it is still your problem. They can only help if they so desire. Don't be offended if they don't.
So I'm going to ask you the same question. Do you have friends you can lean on in the days of trouble?
Thanks for reading!🤗💚🤗
I agree with this. There has been a cuture of competing who's had it harder now. Hahaha! As for me, I have a friend I can realy on in tough days. I have God. He never lets me down. He never did.