Abandonment

Date:Tuesday,30th of November, 2021
Day 6 prompt: About Abandonment  
Published by: Greatwolfman

Abandonment according to Cambridge Dictionary

the act of leaving someone or something or of ending or stopping something, usually forever

It sounds scary doesn't it, but such is the reality of a lot of people today, from babies left in front of the church to kids left at the orphanage. The question is this

Abandonment, good or bad?

It's bad, everything has its good and bad, to portray my argument I will make use of a story, you might want to read carefully if you wish to understand the reason for my answer.

A young girl, Mary, is pregnant, she didn't plan for this yet she has found herself in such a situation, the man responsible has denied all ties to her and abandoned her, leaving her to fend for herself. She wouldn't bear to risk being abandoned by her family who happened to be pastors and fear her mishap would bring only shame to the family.

When she went to the clinic, she was given the option to abort the child or give birth to the baby, she chose to give birth to the boy since she couldn't bring herself to abort the baby so she went on with it.

She ran away from home to keep it hidden from her parents fearing what they would think of her given their positions and their beliefs. 9 months passed and she finally gave birth to a baby, a beautiful bouncy baby boy. She knew she couldn't keep him so she decided to send the child to an orphanage.

The child was adopted by a couple who had been searching for the fruit of the womb for a very long time, where he was raised into a successful young man.

The story has no end yet, you can fix an end to it if you want but it's enough to make my point.

Mary got abandoned by her boyfriend, then she abandoned her son because she feared abandonment from her parents.

So, was it good or bad?

It was wrong for the boyfriend to bail on her when she got pregnant. He should have taken responsibility for the child. That was a wrong move to leave a pregnant lady alone by denying responsibilities, perhaps if he did things differently, everything would have turned out differently.

Mary should have faced her parents, perhaps If she had faced her fear of abandonment, her parents would have accepted her. She chose to let her fears prevent her from knowing what her parent's decision would be.

Her parents should have done more with showing more love and giving more attention to their daughter, perhaps instead of creating fears in her, it would have encouraged her to speak up when she felt alone and scared instead of running away, may I add for 9 whole months.

Conclusion

In the end, it doesn't matter who was at fault, only the victim of all the decisions, the little baby. The little child will grow up without ever knowing why he was abandoned, and this is due to poor decisions by the parents.

While this story might be only fiction, there are a lot of such situations happening in different parts of the world, in this case, the little boy turned out well, others might not be so fortunate and just end up moving from one foster home to another until they are eventually left to take care of themselves in the wicked streets and plausibly turning to a life of crime to survive

Most people despite being raised in good homes still suffer from abandonment issues, a trait common among teenagers. We all do at different times in our lives, the constant fear of being lonely.

This fear of Abandonment is referred to as Autophobia

Autophobia

A morbid fear of being egotistical or a dread of being alone or isolated. Sufferers need not be physically alone, but just to believe that they are ignored or unloved. 

• Source: Wikipedia

This is the sixth (6th) topic from my 30-day challenge before the end of the year. It had always been one of my greatest fear but I'm making an effort to adjust to it.

In my little experience, instead of creating fears of the unknown or scared of being afraid of people leaving you, always have it in mind that there is always a time when people will leave, so embrace what time you have, cherish every moment.

Can you imagine how life would be if you were the last person on Earth?

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