by Gracee / Friday / April 9, 2021
Are you a person who judges and blames others?
Honestly, I am a judgemental person and blames others BUT not all the time maybe sometimes. haha. Let us be honest, there are times in our lives when we mistakenly judge others because of their physical appearance and blame some people because the outcome of their decisions was not what we expect, right?
We usually say, "Oh, believe me, that person is transgender/lesbian/bratty/cranky, playboy, womanizer" or whatsoever just because of the clothes, make-ups, or things they usually wear.
Some even say, "He's decision is so st*p*d and none sense like him".
These are statement are very hurtful things to hear from other people.
NOBODY liked to be compared, blamed, and judged but we all judge people unconsciously and we sometimes consciously judge and blame others too.
I think, judging and blaming people is already part of our lives. We grow up seeing and hearing adults judging and blaming each others that's why we grew up like that too . This kind of attitude or practice is not really good for everyone.
After you read what I have written above, I am sure you pause and think about it. Admit it or not, we judge and blame each others. But maybe we have different levels in judging and blaming people. There are people who avoid judging people by understanding their situations and listen to both sides of the stories. Some even do their best to accept the mistakes that were done by somebody. On the other hand, a few people choose to judge others intentionally and blame them when it did not benefit them and refuse to understand the situation.
This is the reality, judging and blaming others is a heartbreaking fact and it is not good for everyone.
Judging and blaming others has negative impacts especially on those who were blamed and judged just because they show what and who they really are. Some were also judged and blamed just because of their decisions. Losing confidence and stress are just some of the negative impacts of blaming and judging people and when it could not overcome, this might end in suicide. So, I hope everyone must be responsible and think twice before judging and blaming them.
While in my case, I admitted at the beginning of this article. I mentioned that I am a judgemental person and blames others especially when someone's decision or action put me in danger or trouble. And I think most of us are doing that because that is our first reaction. But one thing I am sure of is that I am always trying and doing my best to avoid it by thinking and understand why others doing this or that. It is not easy but exerting efforts in avoiding those things is better than doing nothing and continue hurting others. Besides, everyone has own personality , ideas, opinions and decisions so it is very important for us to avoid blaming and judging each others.
All the things I wrote in this article is just my opinion and ideas. This is not applicable to all situations for there are people who really need to be judged and blamed for being irrational and unhumane person. For instance, people who kill other just because of envy and insecurities.
I just wrote this article to share what is in my mind about it. Furthermore, I wanted to let everyone knows that judging and blaming each others don't help us to be better but it makes our image bad and alone.
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I think this is a constant struggle daily. Even in our mind, we are already judging anyone anytime. Maybe yes, thinking and take a pause in a bit and shrug off anything that might ruin someone from our tendecies on being judgemental.