A friend in need is always a friend indeed. It is very unfortunate that sometimes we find it very hard to help our friends when they are in need. The only way to overcome this challenge is to weigh the negative thoughts we have towards our friends against the positive ones.
One of the moments which I found myself listening to my negative thoughts was when a friend of mine had a car accident and was in need of a car repair. I don’t have a car yet and when he asked that I helped him with some money, i was listening to my bad thoughts. I was like why will he ask for repair money from me when he knows i don’t have a car. I knew the friend was in a bad position and I even felt bad that I could not help him with the car repair. I thought he might think that I was ignoring him during his time of need but it was not like that at all. I just had no money to spare for the car repair.
When I took time off to reflect on my thinking, I figured out that instead of depending on money alone, I could lend my shoulder for my friend to lean on. I realized that lending my shoulder was more important than giving him money for the car repair. After pondering upon everything, I was also able to squeeze out some money for him and he was grateful.
Being there for our friends in their hour of need shows us that we are indeed their true friends and our friendship is intact. When you need a friend, don't choose a dog or a cat, or even a goldfish. The best friend you can have is someone who has been through the same problems you have been through and survived. Someone who knows your weaknesses and imperfections but still loves you in spite of them.
A true friend is one who will be there when you really need them - someone who will never leave you nor forsake you.
A true friend is reliable and caring; someone who is not just looking out for their own interests but also yours. A true friend makes a difference in your life.
A true friend will:
- Understand what's wrong
- Understand how you feel about it
- Do something about it
- Understand why it happened
- Forgive you for whatever you did wrong
- Stand by your side, sometimes holding your hand, sometimes just being there - even when you're wrong
- Be your confidant when no one else will listen to your problem
- Offer advice on how to solve it even when it seems unsolvable
- Be there when you finally work it out
- Be there to celebrate with you after it's all over.
And sometimes, just sometimes, help you get over it!
True friends are rare, but when you find one, keep them close. They will help you keep things in perspective and be the perfect remedy to any problem or situation that comes along.
True friends will let you cry on their shoulders if you lost your job, like they did after they rubbed it in that they probably would've been fired first. True friends will celebrate the good with you and help you learn from the bad, like they did after that gift exchange party when you gave them a really shoddy drawing of a boat with a bunch of dead fish in it.
In fact, we bet that most of your best memories have something to do with true friends.
And when you're down about a fight with your own true friend, remind yourself that even Jesus' friend betrayed him and then try to get over it already.
When I was having an argument with a friend, she said that I have to apologize. I was not sorry. When she asked me why, I told her that the only reason I apologized in the past is because I knew that my friends never make a big deal out of small arguments and that they forgive me easily. What she said next was painful. She told me that she does not trust the people I call my friends and that because of the argument, we were not friends anymore.
How do you define a friend? It is someone you can count on no matter how difficult the situation is.
The dictionary meaning of a friend is "one attached to another by affection or esteem." It is always good to have close friends as they are part of your life. Therefore, someone who becomes part of your life will be called a friend. However, not everyone understands the meaning of a true friend. Even though there are many kinds of friends in the world, in this story, the person writing has only one true friend and no one understood her feelings better than her.